Do you think we are born with self confidence? Or is it something

@ersmommy1 (12605)
United States
March 21, 2009 1:57pm CST
we need to learn? I had a meeting with my sons Parent as Teachers this week. She is the same woman my daughter had. So I guess it is inevitable that some comparison be made between my 2 children. She remarked how my daughter seemed to come forth from the womb a social butterfly.That she (my daughter) has no real inherent fear of people in general. No one has ever called her shy. She will jump right in and talk, play whatever. Do you think most people need to learn confidence?
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@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
21 Mar 09
I feel it is something that is learned and observed by the reactions that her parents has to other people. I feel that the parents has alot to do with it. My mom is a social butterfly I swear sometimes she doesn't know a stranger..and that has made my sister not so afraid to talk to people she doesn't know. I have been teaching her not to talk to strangers and the dangers of doing so and told her not to unless she has an adult with her. So far she is listening..But she is very outgoing..Some parents who are always telling there kids to shut up and puts them down alot are the kids most likely to be shier and not so outgoing. But some parents just don't see the damage it is doing o their kids..not letting them express themselves because that is how they learn and grow to be better people.
@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Thanks for the best response ersmommy1 I really appreciate it alot.
• United States
22 Apr 09
My wife generally dislikes too much comparison between her children. I guess she fears one of them will be slighted. Of the two, however, I think they have more in common than different. One may be more outgoing, but the other beams to people he knows and can trust. I think they will both do well and, to be honest, it is perhaps safer for a baby to have anxiety of strangers.
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I think some kids are born that way and learn to be self conscious as they get older and I think some kids are the opposite. They are self conscious when they are born and they learn to be confident.