Do you feel a real connection with your partner?

@cmauthe1 (267)
Canada
March 23, 2009 6:38pm CST
My husband and I have been married for 10 years (together 11). Quite often, we will be doing something and look at each other and we are thinking exactly the same thing. We will be watching TV and one of us will say something that the other person was just about to say. Or we love to people watch, and we always note the same thing that we see. Sometimes it gives me goosebumps, but in a good way. Do you have that kind of connection with your partner, spouse, family member or friend? Does it give you a strange feeling cause it's strange or a warm fuzzy cause you're lucky? Coincidence or connection?
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14 responses
@snowy22315 (47149)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Sometimes I notice we are thinking the same things. I guess it is a connection. I'm not sure about that. It will sometimes be a little bit freaky. I think that it will indicate a connection of some sort. I guess that we will sometimes do and think the same things. It is alittle bit feaky.
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
Perhaps the connection is that we are quite similiar in our outlook on life, our sense of humour, our tastes, etc. Then I guess it would only make sense that we think the same things about the same things at the same time... Cheers and happy mylotting!
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
23 Mar 09
My husband and I have been married for the past 14 years (and together 17). We do this as well. It's probably just coincidence, but it could be a connection as well. Who knows?
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
23 Mar 09
I think it helps if you have the same sense of humour, etc. It happens so often around here, I can't think of it as coincidence anymore! Thanks for your response and Happy Mylotting!
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@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Yes, we've been together for 13 years, 4 of them married. Sometimes, we do not even need to talk at each other. Just one look and we start laughing. We love love love to do so many things together. We love going out and just hanging out, we love to eat and we love doing stuff together. I believe he is my soul mate.
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
23 Mar 09
Hi jammyt - what a sweet baby! We are the same, we laugh alot and there are no uncomfortable silences. We have pretty much been alone together in 330 sq ft living space since last fall and still are having fun! (moved onto our property in the bush!) He my soul mate too and it's nice to know that there are others out there who are lucky enough to feel the same thing! Cheers!
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@blion23 (404)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I think that marriage and relationships are a wonderful thing. I have been married for about 10 years now and each day it seems that I learn something new about my partner. I have the same connection that you seem to have with you mate, and it is surely the connection that the two of you have developed. As you continue to learn more and more about each other, you will see more and more instances like the ones that you mentioned.
@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
I agree with what you have said in your reply. I too, think that the longer we are together, the more these things will happen. I think it's awesome when 2 people can be so connected, even without words. Have a great day and happy mylotting!
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@bubbletush (1334)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Me and hubby will be celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary this April but we have been together (as bf/gf) for 12 years so that's a total of 17 years together. There are times when he will go on a business trip, and just when I am about to send him a text message or call him up, I would be receiving a call or message from him. Somehow it feels like we are connected.
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
That is so cool and happens with us too! I sometimes will just be thinking of him and he will call. It still gives me a bit of the butterflies when we've been apart for a few days and I know he's coming home! That is a great feeling after all our time together. In today's world, long lasting relationships/marriages seem to be getting more and more rare. Starting this topic shows that there are quite a few happy marriages yet. Congratulations in advance on your fifth anniversary! Have a great day and happy mylotting!
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@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
I and my husband were just new because we are married for just half a year. But even before we were friends, the magical bond is already with us. There are a lot of times when we are thinking the same thing and about to say the say thing. We even feel something we never reveal to each other but when one was revealed accidentally then one will say that we felt the thing before it happened. Now that we are married, the connection became stronger. Even in chat, in asking questions, in thinking what we are going to eat, many times we have noticed that we are of the same thinking. Just like you it gave me goosebumps not because I am afraid but because I can't believe that what I thought were only coincidences can happen a LOT of times! And my husband also says he has goosebumps. I think since we really love each other, we don't just look at each others eyes but we think the same and we look on the same direction. That is guess is more powerful because it only shows that you are honest to your partner and your love is so tight. And I consider that as a blessing and a good heart and mind exercise for both of us. I am sure that will add to our love's foundation so that we will be together forever.
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
My husband suggested I add the comment "connection or coincidence?" to the bottom of my post... it was a good idea and has generated good response. Thanks honey! I love your line about being honest with your partner and love is tight. That's just how it feels for us too... We were introduced by a mutual friend and spent hours on the phone discussing tons of topics before we ever met face to face. It may have made it easier for us to express our thoughts and feelings to each other, made us feel less vulnerable maybe? Goosebumps in this case are a really good thing! Thanks for your response and happy mylotting!
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Hello cmauthe1! Compared to you, my husband I just got married last year. But our love to each other never fade. It's stronger everyday. My husband and I do talk about our connection because it seems like we think the same. I also know when he is already mad and when he is bothered of something and he also knew if I'm mad or if something's on my mind..hehehe..
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
Hi aisaellis22! You are blessed also to have a strong relationship so soon after getting married. I too can tell just from hearing my husband's voice or seeing his face, what kind of mood he's in. He is usually a very calm, gentle soul but has his bad moments too. I really like that I can read him like a book! He says the same about me... Thanks for your response and happy mylotting!
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• United States
24 Mar 09
you are very lucky. it is very difficult to find the right one.I am married w/ my husband for 5 years it seems like we been married for very long time.its a amazing how I felt the way.He is a wonderfull and caring husband,I so lucky.
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
Yes, I do feel very lucky. It is so difficult to find someone who is understanding, humorous, caring, protective and loving (this is my list, I'm sure every one's list is different?). It sounds like you have a great marriage also. Thanks for your response and happy mylotting!
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@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 09
I am not married yet but I have a boyfriend who I have known for almost four years. Sometimes I feel I have that kind of feeling like what you have mentioned in this post. I think it's the connection between both of you. I have experienced this before. Sometimes when I want to say something or want to get something,my boyfriend will say out for me or do for me without my words. This is understanding perhaps. When we stay long with a person,I am sure there is connection between the two people. There is no doubts. I think if a couple does not have this kind of connection,the relationship would not last long for the whole life. Agree? Lol.
@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
You are lucky that you have this now and have experienced it before. I don't think that I let anyone close enough before, which is a trust issue. What you said about no doubts makes a lot of sense. For the first 3 years we were together, I asked him "when is the other shoe going to drop and when will you turn into an a**hole, like every other man I've known in my life?". Well, it's been almost 10 years and that shoe still hasn't dropped. He is a great guy and I do feel lucky. I absolutely agree that without this type of connection, a relationship is doomed to fail... Thanks for your response and happy mylotting!
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
24 Mar 09
My husband and I will be married for 10 years this coming June, and have been together 12 years this coming June. Yes, it is so strange that we quite often are thinking or saying the same things at the same time. If we are watching TV and make a comment it is always on the same subject. Seems like our thoughts are the same. He will say something or I will say something, and we will same, I was just thinking about the same thing. A lot of times, I will say do you want so and so, and he will say, "get out of my head, I was just thinking about that" As they say GMTA, ( great minds think alike)
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
I am seeing a real pattern to the responses that I have received. Most of us have had a relationship prior to marriage and we have all been married for a length of time. I love your comment about great minds think alike. Thanks for spelling it out cause I wouldn't have known what you meant! (another one to add to my meager list of "webspeak"!). We often comment on the same things at the same time. Then laugh about it... Thanks for your response and happy mylotting!
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• United States
24 Mar 09
My husband and I do that often! We laugh every time we do so. I think it's something of connection but also something of just being around someone for so long that you begin to mimic each other. Not that you don't have your own thoughts but that you truly do become "one", so to speak. I have to say I enjoy our connection and love that we're on the same "wave" so to speak. Namaste-Anora
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
We laugh alot everyday too! I love this as I had many unhappy years before I met my husband. He has taught me so much about trust and that it's okay to be vulnerable. He is a bit of a goofball, but in a good way - he jokes around, teases me and helps me to not take things so seriously. I hope I don't mimic him too much though, like I said, he's a goofball! I feel as you do, I love that we're on the same wavelength. Thanks Anora, good response. Happy Mylotting!
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• United States
24 Mar 09
My wife and I have been married for 22 1/2 years now and been together for 28 years. We will occaisionally complete each other's thoughts or sentences. We also will choose the same restraunt when we go out to eat half of the time, the other half we will choose the same cuisine. She is my best friend, companion, lover, and wife. We enjoy doing lots of activities together, but then again, we are just as comfortable being independent of each other - we spend quite some time at home in separate rooms doing our own thing. I guess this is what is best about being married to your best friend. We want each other in our lives, and also secure enough to be apart when life demands it. At first it is wierd, but as time goes on, it definitely gives me a warm fuzzy feelings to know that the connection is so good.
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
I am so happy to have received a response from a husband! What you wrote gave me a good feeling, that men can/will discuss this kind of issue. Your wife sounds very special, and she is lucky to have a husband like you! (you're lucky too). We have the same kind of relationship, we spend a lot of time together doing things, time apart but in the same house or he likes to do other things that I'm not that interested in (like ice fishing, brrrr). I always tell him to have fun, that I love him and will see him when he gets home. I can never understand spouses who can't/won't let their other half go and do their own thing. Grow with me or grow apart is kind of my motto. Happy mylotting!
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• United States
24 Mar 09
I absolutely believe i have that connection with my husband. We have been together for 9 years & married for 2. He knows everything about me. Sometimes i swear we can read each others minds because we know what each other are thinking. Sometimes its creepy, but good to know that he pays attention to me & i do the same for him. I have that kind of connection with a couple of my friends. I guess it just goes to show they are good friends who think like me & pay attention to what i say & like. It's definatly a connection...not coincidence.
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@cmauthe1 (267)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
I agree with what you have written, I feel that it is a connection, not coincidence, also. Maybe there are just some people that we feel we can truly be ourselves with, be vulnerable to, and therefore are able to really connect. Someone who truly knows what we are thinking and feeling about things. It is quite the feeling to be able to almost read someone's mind! Like you said, it does feel like that sometimes. My husband also knows everything about me, probably the only person in the world that I have made myself absolutely vulnerable to. Maybe that's the answer? Thanks for your response and happy mylotting!
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• United States
18 Apr 09
My husband and I have been married for 36 years and I do feel a real connection to him. He knows what I am thinking before I even say a word. When I get irritated he can tell me exactly what I am irritated about. He always knows what kind of mood I am in before I even say a word. It is the same with me when it comes to him. Whenever I look at a picture of him it always makes me feel all warm inside and I always smile. I met and married him in Turkey. We both were in the service. I believe that sometimes things are meant to be. We both were stationed on the same base. The funny thing about it is he wasn't even supposed to be stationed on the base. He was supposed to be stationed at another base in Turkey and it ended up where they changed his orders and sent him to the base I was stationed at. I think it was a connection for us and it was designed by a higher power.