Have you ever been so frustrated...

@ahgong (10066)
Singapore
March 24, 2009 12:48am CST
that you just have to lash out at someone? At anyone, it doesn't matter who he or she is? I mean, we all have our up and down days. But I am sure there are days where you have so much anger, you just want to let it all out at the next person that comes your way! Would you lash out at that person for the sake of it? Would you hold back instead? Why would you hold back? If you hold back, how do you deal with that pent up frustrations and anger you have inside of you?
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
Yup, it did ever happen to me once before, and it just comes naturally when it comes to a point of no holding back.. THere's a limit to how much everybody can take and we cant control it anymore that's why we unleashed ourselves.. lol =D I did it when i was in the army.. I was training some new guys and i was so frustrated with them that i vent everything that i had in me, on them.. Till the extend that none of my friends dare to talk to me or even ask me what happen, untill i heard them whispering about me.. hehe ^_^ After which i realise i had accidentally unleashed everything on the wrong ple, but with the right chance to do so.. haha =D BUt if i had no chance or whatsoever, i will go running again.. hehe ^_^ RUnning is just like my wonder medicine for all kinds of problems.. lol =D
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
Heh heh heh... I know what you mean. Running eh? I will try that sometime! For now, walking and swimming will have to do!
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
26 Mar 09
lol =D MAybe u cant try some other sports as well ^_^
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
26 Mar 09
I am exploring those that are not too strenuous to the back. Any recommendations?
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@Theresaaiza (10454)
• Australia
31 Mar 09
If it's with another person, I always try to hold it back. Sometimes, with my younger brother I could just explode. I am hot-tempered too. I easily get upset especially when I ask favor from him and he just ignores me because he's busy watching TV, I easily heat up and start yelling at him.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
14 May 09
Sibling bickering and rivalry is normal!
• Singapore
26 Mar 09
Hi ahgong, Sure I have. I think most people would have unless they have perfect sainthood. But of course, the rational us all know it is not always the most healthy. Why vent anger on someone who has down you no wrong? And ironically, the ones closest to you, who least "deserve" your negative emotions are the ones who would normally suffer the brunt of your emotion avalanches. So do try to get a hold on your anger and change it to productive energy if you can.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
31 Mar 09
Ha ha ha ha ha... at those really eruptive times, it is easier said than done. And yes, you are right about that. The ones closest to us, and the least deserving of our outbursts, are usually the ones at the receiving end of that "emotional avalanche"! Very aptly put there!
• United States
25 Mar 09
Yes I have been very frustrated, especially with my kids and husband they harress me until I get very angry and start yelling and cussing at them. They try to bother me while I am doing something and I have repeatedly told them I was busy and I would be with you in a min,but they don't have paitents to wait til I am done then I get very frustrated.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
And you lash out your frustration at them?
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
25 Mar 09
Anger, frustration, and resentment are health destroying emotions. If you want to live a long,happy, and healthy life, banish these 3 negative emotions immediately. There is absolutely no need to become angry, frustrated or to hold resentment in your life. Relax and smell the Roses, find contentment, be happy,find contentment, and live long and well!
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
That is easier said than done my friend. Till the day I can do that, I am still very much mortal. Trapped in a body of flesh and bones. Bounded by the emotions that governs the heart more than the mind!
@carann (262)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I try not let myself do that. Sometimes it is so hard not to. Usually its my husband and I try warn him first. What i do to get rid of it may be kinda wierd but I play warcraft and go on there and kill stuff. It helps me relax and not lash out at people around me. I kill the game mobs not peoples characters.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
Hmm... I know what you mean about playing a computer game to melt those anger away. But there are times when the game will turn on you too. And no matter how you try to get past that stage, you just cannot. And it ends up adding fuel to your frustrations and anger. Ever had days like that?
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I come to myLot and blast it out here! If I'm frustrated or angry over something a particular person said or did, I'll confront them if at all possible. Sometimes, when it's your boss or someone in authority who makes us angry or frustrated, it's best to hold our tongues; that sure doesn't help to make it go away, though! You've gotta let it out somehow! I think myLot is the perfect venting arena. Anyone who doesn't want to "listen" to your ranting and raving doesn't have to read your discussion. Those who may have a suggestion or two can do so and not fear being burned in the process... after all, these are only words on a computer screen. All I can say for sure is that it's never good to just hold things inside... that's where ulcers, heart attacks, strokes, and the like come from. Okay, that's ONE area they come from. What I'm saying is that it's never healthy to hold in frustration or anger. But, don't direct it at just anyone. That's so unfair! I've been the unexpected target of the frustration and anger of others before simply because I was 'there' and was terribly hurt by it. Once I was so angry I couldn't hold it in but there was no way I could vent it at the person who created it. I went out and bought myself 5 bushes from a plant nursery. I spent hours outside, digging holes and planting those bushes. Believe me, it helped! Doing something physically exhausting is amazing at releasing pent-up frustrations!
@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
I really gotta try that gardening stuff you mentioned. Well, I know exactly what you mean about being on the receiving end of an anger bout. And it sure ain't a pleasant experience. But there are times that you just feel like lashing out. If only life is not so complicated eh?
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
24 Mar 09
Maybe i have .. for once ... but i don't lashing out someone for that, i just lashing out with everybody i met lol naa kidding hehe, i'm just hold back my anger, and forget it, because i'm absent minded so it's easy for me to forget the bad day, but it's different when i'm sad, i just need someone to hear my sadness
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
Anger - How do you conrol it? Do you let it out? Do you hold it back?
I see... I am sure there are times when some one crossed you so bad, you just cannot forget it like that! *snap fingers* And those are the days where you wished you were like Bruce Banner in the Hulk where you can change into a monster and vent out your frustrations and then later blame it on the monster when you recover from your anger.
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Being a stay at home mom, I get to lose my patience more and more each day. I have tried screaming out loud but to no avail. So now, hubby and I agreed that if I needed some time out he'd let me go out with my good old friends. Having some drinks and being away from home does a lot of good for me.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
That is good, very good! At least he sees that you need time off to yourself from time to time. And he respect that enough to let you have that time to yourself.
• China
24 Mar 09
I'd like to vent it out instead of conceal it in my heart through many ways.First,I will cry loudly to let my sadness out.Second,I will tell some one my feeling,and let him or her comfort me.Third,eat a lot of foods or snacks until I'm fine.There have lots of mean to ventilate your frustrating,it is good to your health to let it out rather than keep in your mind.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
I see, I see. Crying out loudly helps? Hmm...
• China
25 Mar 09
yes,I have.sometimes I feel so frustrated,when someboby lash out me,if what she/he said is ture,ok accept,do not anger.sometime you must petend to heard anything ..just do yourself
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