I Want To Fight For Them All!!!!
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
March 28, 2009 6:43pm CST
Today I went shopping with my sister, whom I now live with. She started telling me about a little girl in her school who hits herself. She also does some other pretty disturbing things that I can not even mention on Mylot, because it is so gross. The little girl is only three years old. The way that she behaves is extremely abnormal for any age. My sister says when someone at the school hits her, she begins to hit herself.
Some of what she does earns her a very undeserved spanking. They have talked to her mother and the mother says that she behaves the same way at home, but no one is doing anything to help the child. It sounds to me like she is being abused. I want my sister to do something, but being a pre-school, may not give her the authority to do something. The director has said that the girl needs to get help, but has not done anything.
I want to be a child advocate so bad that it hurts. I want to be a voice for the children who suffer in silence. I know the pain of self-injury because I have a problem with it myself, but I have never heard of anyone so young going through that. I wish that someone had helped me when I was a lot younger, but there was no one who even noticed all the pain that I was in. Have you ever heard of such a thing in a child so young?
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@iridium (431)
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28 Mar 09
when i was at school there was a boy you used to go round asking people if they liked him. if you said yes he would take a razor blade and make a cut in one arma nd if you said no you didn't he would cut the other arm. this was in primary school so would have been about 8-10 i think
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Rozie just reading your post gave me such a cold chill that I had to put a sweat shirt on. Somebody needs to check into what is going on with this little girl. This is so sad. Why is she being hit at school, I think that is wrong right there. She also shouldn't be being spanked. It is possible that she has a medical problem, I am thinking autistic or torrettes.
I think you would make a wonderful child advocate, have you checked into it.
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@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Anyone who works at a school or preschool, daycare, or nursing home is a Mandatory Reporter. It is their obligation to document this situation and report what they are seeing to the state child welfare system. Anyone who has first hand knowledge and does not is guilty of a crime. That does not apply to you Rozie, as your knowledge is hearsay or second hand, but if your sister knows this for a fact she needs to report those facts. That is how the little girl will get some help.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
29 Mar 09
I was trying to urge my sister to do something about it. The girl use to be in her class, but is not anymore. All of the people at the school have seen her act like this, but it seems that they have gotten use to it. I don't know if Mylot will erase this topic, but I will say that one of the most disturbing things that my sister told me about is that, the little girl plays in her feces and rubs it on her face and in her hair.
This is what her mother spanks her for. I was telling my sister that this is not only dangerous for her, but for the other children around her. That is waste and very nasty. My sister's grandson is in her class, so I know that she is extra careful with keeping the environment clean, I just wish that someone would od more for this child.
I believe that my sister is afraid of over stepping her bounds and doing something to lose her job, which I totally understand. My sister says that when the girl was in her class, she was the one who had to clean all of that up. I would have certainly reported it if I had to do all of that. However, I know that my sister is a very nice person and would never do anything out of spite.
@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
29 Mar 09
In the preschool I worked in we would have been evaluating that child, and documenting the behaviors, and she would be getting help. If I was her mom I would be seeking help from community mental health. It sounds like the mom is just taking a wait and see attitude. Under no circumstances should that child be spanked.
A school should not be permitted to spank.
@GardenGerty (157555)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I am glad to hear that it is not the school spanking her. It needs to be documented and brought to the attention of child protection services or whatever that agency is called where you live.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
29 Mar 09
The school is not spanking her, the mom is. My sister does not feel that she should be spanked either. I believe that the mother is in denial. A lot of parents just say that the child is doing these things just for attention. I say, that if the child hast to go through all of that just for attention, there is a serious problem.
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
This world is full of suffering and most of it is being suffered inside. Some venture out a cry for help and get none. I'm sorry.
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@yanyinju (85)
• China
29 Mar 09
I am sorry to hear this.This girl needs help,every adult around her should raise their hands to do sth. for her,especially her parents.I am glad that she is lucky that you are noticing her and trying to help her.I think there must be something wrong with her family.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
19 Apr 09
It CA it is the law that anyone suspects a child is being abused they need to report it to the police.
Now it also may mean she is autistic, some autism the children hurt themselves and do not know why. I have heard of parents of autistic children having to put helmets on them because of them banging their head on walls and floors. I would ask the parents if she has been worked up by a doctor including a vag check to see if she has been sexually abused and then if need be call child welfare and get some help for this little one.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
21 Apr 09
Yes, she needs to be diagnosed. I totally agree with that, but what concerns me the most is that her mother has chosen to deal with this issue by spanking her, instead of finding out what is really going on. I hate for a child to be abused, but it is considerably worse when people who have the power to make a difference act as if they do not see what is going on.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
30 Mar 09
Call Social Services! Don't wait another moment! Remember what you said, you wished someone had helped you when you were little, right? This child is calling out for help the only way she knows how so get her the help she desperately needs before things get worse and even far worse.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
9 Apr 09
I wish that it was that easy. I would love to call social services and have them come out and help her. But in 2003, when I was living with my sister, her husband, and their six children, I had to call social services because the children were being severely neglected.
When I told my sister what I had done, she was very angry with me. A lot of people were telling me that I had done the wrong thing and that it was none of my business. I understood what they meant, but at the same time, I could not stnad to see my nieces and nephews go hungry.
My sister has forgiven me for it, but she still insist that what I did was an attact from the enemy. Even though I feel that it was something the Lord had me do.
@joyceshookery (2057)
• United States
29 Mar 09
When I was 8 I hit and bit myself while having temper tantrums. I don't think I did it at 3. I haven't seen any children that young hurt themselves. Maybe you can be a children's advocate. Sounds like that's where your heart is.
@berrys (864)
• Singapore
29 Mar 09
maybe she doesn't feel any pain as she doesn't have any nerves. I can remember reading a similar article in the newspaper a few years back. there was a young child who didn't cry when she got jabs, when her siblings fought with her whatsoever. At the age of eleven she had a broken arm it had showed as the skin turned black but she didn't feel any pain. non the less the parents took her to a doctor and they found out that she had no nerve endings s she did not feel any pain, so she'd go around all day attacking herself to see if it hurt and it never did. Eventually the parents had to made her wear a pair of goggles as she was damaging her eyes severely but she never realized it. So maybe this 3 year old has the same issues.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I knew a little girl who was two years old and would pull out her own hair, at the roots. The poor girl had bald spots from it. It was her way of dealing with frustration.
I also know a little girl who is three and will bnd her head against the floor, and pull her hair out when she is upset. She is far from abused, but her parents argue at times and she becomes upset. She is not telking a lot yet, so she cannot find teh words to tell them how she feels. She shows them instead.
The little girl you spoke of sounds like she needs help. Your sister is in the perfect position to say something or make an anonymous phone call. I think that the director and your sister should try to talk to the mother together and try to get her some help before it gets to the point where social services does have to be involved. If the mother is willing to take her to the docotr or to a counsellor, then, the little girl coulf get the help she needs. If the mother won't take her, social services may need to get involved. Your sister, being in the position she is in, may be able to get the little girl to talk to her, if she tries to speak to her on a one-on-one basis when the little girl is playing and feels the most comfortable.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Mar 09
This poor little baby needs help so badly and I have never heard of this in a child so young. Can't the school get involved and help? It seems to need investigation by social services or someone. Blessings
@janet8893 (283)
• China
29 Mar 09
I'm in great sympathy for the little girl. I advocate more people to help them and care for them, maybe that will heal the little heart. We really need to do something, they're so young, they need our care, we couldn't stand by and see they hurt themselves.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Has this little girl been evaluated for special education? It's very possible that some of her behavior is from a more serious disorder (though I agree in checking into abuse). I'm not sure if your daycare is connected with the school district, but each school district has a program for those under age 5 that allow parents to have them screened for disabilities. I'd say that her pediatrician should be looking, but the school sociologist and pscychologist can also test her to see if anything else is going on. I'm just a special education teacher so I don't do the same tests as them, and don't claim to know just based upon what you've shared but I wonder if there isn't some sort of neurological disorder going on.
Best of luck to you on this one. Namaste-Anora
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I would think something can be done to help this child. Has child services been called, the director of the school needs to get off of her azz and do something to help this child, before it is too late. Yes, she seems to be too young to exhibit this behavior. I am sure the mother can get some sort of help for her daughter too. I hope this baby is not being abused at home. the mother should not stop until she finds someone to help her child.
