Always alone

@sameroad (3180)
United States
March 30, 2009 6:05pm CST
What do you do with yourself if you are always alone? I'm always alone it seems like and I don't have many friends and it's really hard for me to make friends because i have social anxiety... but I am ALWAYS longing to be with someone else. I guess it find it too hard to be happy or to find something to do by myself because I am wanting someone else to hang out with and do things with and I think that because i've been alone for so long that i just can't do it anymore. I can't entertain myself anymore. I need a change. I need friends! i want friends. today was one of my crappy days. I sat around ALL day feeling blah and whiney to myself wishing i had someone to hangout with.. talk with, listen to music with... do anything with! but i couldn't... because i don't have anyone i can call and be like "hey, you wanna hangout?" and I've been trying to meet people online since there is no where for me to meet them in person.. I don't have a car to go anywhere...but thats not working either! i'm so tired of always having to be alone. i feel like i live in a jail sometimes because all i know is the four walls of my bedroom.
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25 responses
• Hungary
31 Mar 09
i know this feeling. i'm living 800 Km (~500miles) away from my home and i can't really make friends, ppl are strange, i asked some girls phone number but just can't call them , they are ignoring me , it's strange thing , my friends are my mates from work and thats all. I can't say i'm alone though cuz i got like 4-5 friends from my hometown and we'r hanging out sometimes. you should just make some friends and spend time with them. not with ur keyboard ;)
@Zoover (3)
31 Mar 09
I know how you fell. Got the same here. But I'am not unhappy. I'am reading books, watching TV series, movies and overally I'am doing what I want to do. And I fell good with that. Greetings
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
get wild! do things that u always wanted to do or say things you always wanted to say but don't want anybody hear you. being alone has so many advantages. you can run the house naked and scream for all you care!!you can try wearing costumes or do some cosplays.. you can make your wild imaginations real.. try to makeover your home.. try new color combination.. try different furniture arrangement. no one can stop you from doing it.. JUST DON'T OVERDO IT!!! AND CLEAN YOUR MESS!!
• United States
31 Mar 09
Gah..touchy subject, however it's one that I know all too well. I believe that nobody is better off alone, but some people aren't really worth the effort. I grew up alone, so I know what it's like to feel that sort of "empty" feeling.. it causes you to long for attention, but I'd suggest that you do not allow your dispostion to control you. Being alone isn't the best, but it doesn't have to be all that bad..
@vjsinduja (1035)
• Sri Lanka
31 Mar 09
Don't mind me asking. Are u an orphan? If not whats with ur parents and ur siblings. Don't u have ur school mates atleast. I had friends but they are all self fish. I just one good friend just like a best friends, but she also showed her real color. Wen she was looking for job and she didn't have pc and internet, I used to get her CV print outs like nothing and give her. Once she got a good job at reputed company, she just ignores me now. even wen I called her for Christmas in 2008, she took my wishes and was not bothered at all to talk to me for some time, she just hang up saying there's another person on the other line. From that day onwars I don't call her. Don't worry...
@parvezs (106)
• India
31 Mar 09
Whenever I am alone I read books or else involve myself in some or the other work. I never keep my mind free at such times as I go into deep thoughts, many times i get depressed due to over thinking so I keep myself busy in any work whenever I am alone or else I make calls to my friends. Watching television is the best to kill loneliness.
@savypat (20247)
• United States
31 Mar 09
The best way to make contact with people is to give of yourself, I don't know where you live, but can't you give to someone? Are you physically able to walk? Can you go where there are people? Can you do a little physical work? If the answer to these questions is yes, why not look at your neighborhood and see what you can do to make it better, just offer to help an elderly person or clean the sidewalk, take in the trash barrel whatever little thing will be helpful and bring you to the attention of other people, If you live in a dangerous neighborhood find a church and offer your help there, once you start looking for others to help you will not be so self absorbed. And if you are sincere about wanting to help, people will not judge you socially. Good Luck
@njblair (230)
• China
31 Mar 09
Em...I have this problem too.I do not have many friends.And most of them are very busy.They do not have much more time stay with me even talk with me.I understand them,They have a lot work to do. Happy mylotting!:)
@specific (156)
• South Korea
31 Mar 09
Sometimes I choose to be alone just because i want to think something on my own.Sharing the happiness and sorrow with your friends is really a good way of life .However,sometimes you need to stay on your own.At this time,you can recall what have you done lately and how to improve yourself gradully.
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
i think you should find first a way to overcome your social anxiety. if you could accomplish this, only then would yourself be open to the opportunity to interact with others. please don't get me wrong, for i am not saying that it's totally closed to you. what i am trying to say is that it would be hard for you to mingle socially if you have a social anxiety. why? because you would likely misinterpret various things that your friends and/or acquaintances do/show, when in fact, it's just perfectly normal. they always say that no man is an island and hat nobody could live by himself for the rest of his life. it's true. bear in mind that once you opened yourself for friendship, there's always two things that might happen: 1. you could find true companions and be thankful, or 2. you could find false ones, and learn. either way it's something to be charged to experience and to life and it's something you mustn't be afraid of. good luck!
• United States
31 Mar 09
It's a good thing in meeting people online but in the same aspect, be on your toes because not everybody is who they say they are. So you've got to pretty much feel them out to get an idea of their personality. Me, I have made some friends online. And there are some that just want one thing. You've got ones that are looking for friends and you got some that are looking to date. Just be careful. and try to go out more to meet new people, even if its just for a walk. Being inside all the time, you are never going to meet anyone so take a chance. And do what you gotta do so you don't have to feel lonely all the time.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
You can join a religious group, you'll never find yourself to be alone. There you'll find everyone seemed to be with the same level. Everybody loves to meet everybody as everyone is being treated as brothers and sisters. You'll find peace and joy in your heart and you'll find God as well. Religious, joyful songs will entertain you, you'll learn to write prayer requests and you'll appreciate God, realizing you're prayers been answered.
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
most of the time (well i guess 80% of my adult life) i wanted to be alone. hehehe.. though family should always be there but when it comes to being with friends or cousins, i can go on with my life without them generally. when i'm alone, mostly i stay inside (my room) and read, go online, sleep, eat, think, write, clean, --boring life huh. hehehe.. sometimes i go out -- still alone. :B i'm not into groupies talk, not into hanging out with friends and talk boys and all that. it bores me.
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
I talk to God. I reminisce. I think of something. I remember my past.
@Theresaaiza (10454)
• Australia
31 Mar 09
I think it's better to have one close and sincere friend than a bunch of good weather friends. Mylot is an avenue to meet a lot of people, talk with them, and express your thoughts to, like what you are doing now. That's a pretty good start. I know everything here is virtual but mind you, sometimes people here are better than real ones, and some people here are actually doing their jobs as "friends" than the ones in real life. Are you also looking for a romantic partner in life?
• China
31 Mar 09
So do I. Sometimes I have same feeling what you have now. esp, in this occasion of economic crisis, a lot of people jobless, and more and more people will lost job. If you had enough deposit, you should calm down first and think over what we have done and what we will do in future. Take your heart to fly in the sky, to visit a silence place and stay there. Right?
• United States
31 Mar 09
I know exactly how you feel. I went through it from August until March and then someone just came to me. It all works out in the end, until then - go for walks to stores or public places and talk to people.
@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I'm always alone, too, but I have no problem with it. I keep busy with my writing, my dogs, my music and putzing around the house. I'm happy by myself! You need to get out of your bedroom. Go for a walk or something once a day and you'll be surprised how your outlook changes. I felt kind of blah today, too. I don't know why. Instead of working, I sat here and played computer games. I just had no motivation or ambition.
@Hanan_x3 (294)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I know big time how you feel. If there is a local library or book store or restuarant, you should go out there. I'm pretty anti social myself. I usually wait until someone comes to me. I dont go to them. You can have little conversations with people you meet anywhere. Try small talking the mail delivery person. Or maybe the lady at the cash register. Start off small talks. If they dont go anywhere dont fuss about it. Talk to people like you want people to talk to you. Remember they may be a little anti social themselves.
31 Mar 09
It must be very difficult for you to feel socially anxious yet still feel an urge to hang out with others...I really feel for you. But can I say that you must try your hardest to make the most of your current situation...ok, you cannot find friends to hang out with near where you live so try to hang out with people more online. With instant messaging it can almost feel like you are hanging out with someone especially if you use a webcam as well...this may help to lessen your feelings of loneliness. I do hope you have been able to make some good online friendships. I have added you as a friend and i would be happy to keep in contact with you. Please feel free to send me a pm anytime. Best wishes, x