Its complicated ,what does that mean?

@ronnyb (6125)
Jamaica
March 31, 2009 5:45pm CST
I am a member of a well known social networking site and I have noticed that many women respond "Its complicated" when they are asked to what their relationship status is. Now I don’t know about you but I believe that if you were there seeking a serious relationship ,that this would be red flag to stay far because obviously something is wrong with their relationship and they could be the problem. In addition if they are having problems in the current relationships ,should we assume that this could mean the same for any relationship that you get into with them ? On the flip side it could mean that their present relationship is on the rocks and you may stand a good chance of being with her . What do you think about this situation should you avoid or relish women/persons in such relationships ? Should you consider this to be honesty on their part ,after all they could have neglected to mention that their relationship was on the rocks or that they don’t have a relationship at all ?
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@daneg33 (1132)
• Canada
31 Mar 09
Maybe they are "in between" relationships, or they keep going back to their old flame. Possibly they are going to counselling or whatever. You can't know what that means. Maybe it just means they can't commit to each other.
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
1 Apr 09
Thank you very much all of the above are plausible explanations to a very "compicated " situation.My grouse with this complicated thing is that if I ever find myself in such a situation I would have to make a choice but I do know that relationships are that clean cut
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
31 Mar 09
it sounds like an excuse to me . where have u been? i was worried about you. did i offend u in some way? if i did i'm sorry. haven't had anything from u in weeks. hope all is well.
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
1 Apr 09
Oh no Antique ,you could never offend me sweetie .Remember I told you that I would doing a lot of work outside my office on the road and that I wouldnt be able to log in as often as I used to .The road work is not yet complete but I have been given a break so her eI am again.How have you been .
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@ANTIQUELADY (36494)
• United States
1 Apr 09
well, i guess i had forgotten u told me that. i sure did miss hearing from you.i nearly pm u a few times but i has decided u weren't going to talk to me. i hope your work went well. have u ever told me what u do? my mind is awful sometimes. i'm o.k. ronnyb just have alot of health issues. have a good friend that joined mylot last night. if you have time give her a shoutout & help get her started. she goes by anniefannie. thanks. glad to hear from you. take care.
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
1 Apr 09
you could have pm me but maybe I wouldnt have gotten the message as I didnt check mylot a lot during my month on the road.I make maps so I was on the road collecting data .I know about your health issues and I am so sorry to hear about them .Hope you will get some relief rom them in time .Honestly too I wa skind of annoyed with my earnings on mylot so I took a break as well but I am back now and I hope I can be motivated enough to continue
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@cream97 (29179)
• United States
1 Apr 09
Hi, ronnyb! I am not a man, but I will still answer this question. If a woman says that a relationship status is complicated, it means that she have no words to say. She feels that she does not want to get into the full details of the circumstance. It is too difficult to explain. If she is going through stress in another relationship, it does not mean that your relationship with her will be the same. It could be her partner's fault why they are in a rocky state, not her. It is great that she is honesty, but not giving out too much of information. That is good that she is doing this.
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 09
Thank youfor you r advice and response,it was quite insightful
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• United States
2 Apr 09
Whether or not you are in a relationship shouldn't be a complicated question. When asked it you should be able to say "yes" or "no". If you can't it means that you are in a committed relationship, but you aren't feeling so committed. This is a bad thing and should be avoided if you are looking for a relationship with another person.
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@uicbear (1903)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I would consider this an honest answer, unless it's followed up by an explaination. This really seems like a runaround answer. I would automatically assume that this person is involved with someone and not free to be with me. I would assume that their current relationship isn't exactly what they want right now, but if it improved to something more acceptable, I would get dumped in a quick second. Personally, I wouldn't even try and look for anything more from this person. After all, they are obviously involved with someone but looking around for someone else. Would you want them to do that to you?
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@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
When I hear this words Its complicated by women when asked about there relationship one thing pops into my mind and that she is not sure if that person that she is with is really the one for her and their is not serious commitment between the two. And I wont take it as an invitation from my part instead I will help that women clarify what she is looking for in a relationship that wont make it complicated on her part.
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• United States
1 Apr 09
I personally absolutely hate this status, but it could mean your not exactly in a relationship, and its hard to explain.
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@snowy22315 (13296)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I would think if they say it is complicated it is. You could offer your friendship to them, but they probably have alot on their personal plate so i would thinkattempting to date them would be problematic. I just think that people are pretty honest with status mos tof the time so I would be aware.
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@mysdianait (55739)
• Italy
31 Mar 09
When another person descrives their present relationship as 'complicated' I think they mean: 'I am in a relationship that is not giving me all I want but I'd like a taste of something different without letting him/her know what I'm doing just in case it doesn't work out so that at least I still have him/her to fall back on' Personally if the other person is 'in' a relationship whether it is complicated or not I would steer clear. It leads to heartbreak somewhere for someone or even many.
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@miamilady (4925)
• United States
31 Mar 09
It's probably honest AND vague at the same time. If someone tells you that, run the other way! Complicated I imagine, also means "unresolved" you don't want to get dragged into someone else's mess.
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@suzzy3 (8449)
2 Apr 09
If I told a man it was complicated it would mean go away I am in a mess.Not interested at the moment.I am still waiting to hear from my ex boyfriend in otherwise go away please maybe another time.You are a nice bloke but go away.Does this help,good to hear from you ronnyb I have missed you,xxx suzzy.
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
2 Apr 09
Good to hear from you too Suzzy ,I missed you and you are one of the persons I kept thinking about while I was away and that is why I had to come back,I have too many friends here.Your answer is a good one as usual and I think for many women ,this is the reason why they say their relationship is complicated
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• Canada
1 Apr 09
Oh jeez... this really hits a nerve with me. I met a guy online who, when I asked if he was in a relationship, told me "It's complicated." Here's what "complicated" turned out to mean -- there was a woman locally that he desperately wanted to be with. He thought she was financially well off and I guess he thought he was going to be, too, if he succeeded in "winning her over." Long story short, I should have known better and should have run for the hills but I stuck around... long enough to find out that the other woman was not only married but was not well off and had been in jail for fraud (passing bad checks). I truly believe she was using men via the internet for her own personal gain and that the guy I'd met was only one in a string of them. Guess it was even more "complicated" than he thought, huh? Oh and the kicker? Even when I presented him with the proof of what I knew, he still didn't want to believe it. I think it's very honest to say that a relationship status could be complicated. That's not necessarily a lie or even a cover up all the time. I just think it's really important to get to a stage where the "complicated" part has been addressed and resolved before bringing other people (and their feelings) into the mix.
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 09
What you hsve described is really complicated ,in fact it is more than complicated .I agree with you totally though that persons need to resolve these complications before entering into any other realtionship.Thank you for your response
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@Shavkat (16379)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
People used to say their status is complicated. In every individuals, they are in-control not to have complicated life. But we can blame them for this. Life works mysteriously, it depends on how are we going to handle.
• United States
23 Apr 09
You are correct to stay away. It is great that these women were honest by saying things are complicated but you need to stay away until there is no moe drama.
• India
9 Apr 09
Hello my friend ronnyb Ji, Well, I may be unique for you to reply other way. We have no complications in our married life for more than 40 yrs on date. We are very much open and my hubby may not agree on many fronts, but he would be first to take my care. We have only one relation for each other. Further, if you permit, why at all people should worry about other's relationship till some on emay not be engaged as one's social study subject. May God bless you and have a great time.
@liaamur (420)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
they are either women who are in a relationship, but don't want to admit it as "commitment", or are single but don't want to admit that they are not actually seeing someone. as for me, there was a time i only wanted my status to read: "Promised". now, it's "Kept Promise". lol ^_^V
@whiteheron (4223)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I remember saying that to one person who wanted to date me... I said it to a person who saw me in the bank and followed me because he like how I looked and wanted me to be his girlfriend... I did not know the guy and wanted to find a way to say "no" without hurting his feelings... I just told him it was "complicated" and then went on to disclose the full story as he was not satisfied with that word. I told him that I was dating someone for many years, had another man, a dear friend, that I went on outings with. I think that I added, "I am in a complicated relationship and you don't want to be in the middle of it." I think it is an honest comment and is quite frankly the thing that a woman might say would does not really want to get involved or does not want to date someone but does not want to be harsh about saying no.
1 Apr 09
Well the word complicated meens that it's hard and troubled, so obviously the relationships with some women are just troubled or somethings happened....
@suspenseful (40331)
• Canada
1 Apr 09
I think that being complicated means they are thinking of getting engaged to the guy, but there is another guy in the wings, and they are not sure whether they should get engaged to the first guy. They are also not sure if they stopped going with the first, whether the second one would really want to go with them because they do not know if he is interested in a serious relationship or he just wants to be friends and nothing more. They also may be having doubts that the guy really wants to marry them because he may have lost his job, not through being laid off, but by his own actions -coming in late, etc for no reason, so now they wonder that if they had gotten married, the guy will sit at home watching football games and The Young and the Restless and expect them to work. This complicaton seems to go on until the guy decides that he is interested in marriage, but until he puts the ring on her finger or they go to the jewelry store to look at the ring, it is complicated.
• United States
1 Apr 09
I think that "Its Complicated" is a red flag and you should probably run the other way. I think it means they are in a relationship that they are unhappy in, cheating, getting divorces, or not sure what they themselves even call it. I think those words mean trouble and drama. I hate drama myself. Those words almost sound like a hestitation to answer. I would not trust them. This is my oppinion on the subject. I would stick to the status that means single. It is safer;-)