Lifelong Friendships
By carpenter5
@carpenter5 (6782)
United States
April 3, 2009 7:49am CST
I am blessed to be able to say that I have a handful of friends that are lifetime friends. They are there for me no matter what happens. We've shared some great times and we have shared some life-changing events!One of those friends is June. We met when my daughter Lauren was just 10 months old. Mike was in college, and I was trying to go back too. June was 19 years old, just a few years younger than me. That next summer, she found out that she wasn't going to be able to move into the dorm due to financial situations.
I needed help with the kids and she needed a place to live and we had room. She moved in and shared a room with the girls. She would get up with Lauren at night, many times before I heard her, June would have her changed and a new bottle fixed. For three years, she lived with us while she went to school, and I went to school. We would get together and do our schedules where neither of us were in class at the same time.
My girls teasingly call her their Nanny! What she is now, is a sister and my girls love her and call her Aunt June. Her girls, call me Aunt Paula. We still see each other a couple of times a year, even though she has married and moved to Illinois.
Last Summer, Mike and I made a whirlwind trip up there when her husband's twin brother died of an aneurism at the age of 34. We didn't know Mark, but it didn't matter because we knew Rob!Do you have friends like this? Those that will drop everything to come to your rescue or aid?
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11 responses
@twinklee (894)
• India
3 Apr 09
indeed it is agood point that you make....have a handful of friends who never leaves at any part of time....are an integral part of you every time...you can rely on them for help and also share your emotions......it is these ones who understand us in a better than others.....finding true friends is like mushrooms...you nver know which is bad & good....if you have found the right choice ...you are gonna reap the benefits
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
3 Apr 09
This is so true. I don't know what I'd do without my friends! But I have some people I know that seemed at the beginning of the relationship that it was going to be a great friendship and they turned out to be people that I don't want to associate with for one reason or another, or they turned o ut to not be trustworthy, which is even worse.
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@GardenGerty (157563)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Sometimes relationships just turn lukewarm as well.
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@yanyinju (85)
• China
3 Apr 09
You are lucky to have such a friend.There is a saying says that a friend in need is a friend indeed.I am happy to hear that your friendship has lasted such a long time and it is getting deepper and deeper.When we are with our friends,we are usually much happier than we are alone.Friendship is great,it makes our lives colourful,thanks for the friendship,we should cherish it!
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
8 Apr 09
You are so correct in your reasoning, and I love that saying. There is a bible verse that I love so much that says There is no greater love than a man who lays his life down for a friend. I think it just reminds us that if we always put ourselves before that person, that we will come out on top and our friendship will survive!
@GardenGerty (157563)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Yes, I do and it is great. I also have family that are my best friends, and that does not always happen. June had wonderful fortune and so did you, or should I say blessings, because of your relationships.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
8 Apr 09
I have some family that is like that too! My cousin Jennifer and I text almost daily. We live about 3 hours from each other and we're both busy with our kids. Her's are all little, so sometimes, she just needs adult conversation. I remember those days!
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
Oh yes there are really friends that cares a lot. They are like sisters that we do love and care as well. They are the persons we want us to be with in times of success and failures. I have so many friends that I cared a lot too. Am sure they do the same for me as well. Friends are really great and I treasured them that much...
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
8 Apr 09
What would we do in this world without friends? I know my life would be so much less without mine! I just got off the phone with one of my "Besties" as she calls herself. Janna was across the hall from me when I was a freshman in college. Her roomie and mine and the two of us are still the best of friends!
@NIECIE21 (365)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I know I am very thankful for my life long friends. I have several that have been in my life for as long as I can remember. There are times when we dont talk for months on out (cause of busy scheduals) but when we see either other or call on another, we talk for hours and I love that :)
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I know exactly what you mean. I can go for weeks without talking to June or Terry Ann and one of us will call the other and it's like we just spoke yesterday!
We also seem to sense when one of needs help because we will just call out of the blue and the other one is liek "How did you know I needed to talk to you?"
@habird (50)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Friends become far away from me.Except especial time we don't connect with each other,because we are all too busy with our lives.Maybe busyness is only excuse.From graduated life is changing,everything is changing ,friendship changing too.I feel much sore.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I do know how you feel. One of my dearest friends from college contacted me last week. I hadn't heard from her in more than 20 years, and she found me on Facebook of all places. I'm so glad I joined there! Perhaps that's a way you could stay in touch is to join a social network like facebook, xanga or twitter.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
3 Apr 09
Thankfully God has also blessed me with some of such true friends, most of them are my childhood friends with whom I have remained always in touch and at the time of any crisis or good events we are always together. To have good friends is like a blessing.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I have three friends who've been around forever! There were 4 of us that ran around together in high school, that we're still friends, and now have added the spouses and children as well.
Terry Ann's mother and my mother were friends from 1st grade on and Terry and I are only a month apart in age. We've grown up together and she is still my best friend in the world. My son is a year and a day younger than her daughter. I only liked 42 minutes having James on Jessie's birthday! (He was born of 12:42 a.m.) Jessie and my Kristen are great friends despite Jessie being 3 years older than she is. They plan to raise their daughters together as Pat and My mom and Terry and I did!
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
4 Apr 09
I am also blessed with lifelong friendship. It is always great to have true friends who will be there for all your bad situations. I had friends who had been there in the good times and when I had money. When I was broke only I found who all are the best friends. I think it is always great to know and have good friends and true friends.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
8 Apr 09
And it those friends that you can depend on right? When I'm in trouble, it isn't the acquaintences that I call. It's the tried and true friends who I know will not make excuses why they can't help me. I will drop and go running when one of them calls me as well.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
4 Apr 09
I got some ,, but I do wish to find friends who are ssssssssssssoooooooooooooooo loving ,,like u,, and I wish I can also payback In situations like this,,hats off to u
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I just count myself as among the blessed by God to have friends like this.
I joined facebook about a year ago, and I've been able to find other friends on there, some that I haven't seen in more than 20 years. I got an e-mail last night from Facebook asking for a friendship request from a girl that I did Homemakers club with when I was in high school I hadn't seen her since 1985
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
5 Apr 09
Same Same Same hahahaha,, Same experience with me dear,, I did exactly like u,, found messages from longtime friends ,, FB really different ,,U keep smiling dear,, kawalnarang@yahoo.com ..
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@vworld4u (143)
• India
3 Apr 09
You are lucky enough to get such lifemates! I call them lifemate (I coined this term now) because they stay with you as your mates for whole life! Everybody is not so lucky enough like you to get lifemates!
Good luck and keep those lifemates with you for whole of your life! May God bless you and your lifemates !
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I like that word! I think I will definately be using it again! I have that especially in my husband! He is my soul lifemate. We are having a bit of trouble financially right now, and he told me last night that there are many women who would have run out the door when they'd hit problems like we've had this last year. I told him I'd be miserable without him!
@chikkuthejas (26)
• India
4 Apr 09
friends are those who help us in good condtions and also bad conditions.some of them will be with us when we have money...if we face some problems they will join with others those who have money.i too faced this problem when i made friendship with a boy...at that time he was passing the time alsways with me because at that time i had lot's of money.i when i faced one problem he went near another person...so i stopped making friends with others
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
5 Apr 09
That's side. My daughter has been in that situation with a friend who suddenly got a new boyfriend, who doesn't like any of MJ's friends, so she has chosen not to hang out with either of my dahyghters, or the other girls at church. I think it's sad that she will put a friendship below a boyfriend, but that's her choice I guess.
