Tips at a Restaurant

United States
April 4, 2009 12:00am CST
This thought came to me a couple weeks ago when I was figuring the tip for the waitress who had just served me. Why is the tip figured by the price of the meal? If I am at the same restaurant and have 2 different meals and one costs $10 and the other costs $20 and the service is excellent for both servings, why is the $20 meal served entitled to twice as much of a tip? It doesn't make sense to me that the price should tell you what to tip. I realize that for a larger party, it might be a guideline, but how can the cost of a meal determine the size of a tip? What do you think? Why do you think it is done that way? Does it make sense to you? And as an added question.......are you a good tipper??
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
tips here are not being demanded, they just lay a little platter at the table with your change in it and it's up for the customers to leave any amount. Even little change will do as in some restaurants the waiters collected all the tips and then whatever sum they get will be equally divided among themselves.
• United States
5 Apr 09
That really is a poor way of doing things since some waiters do such a good job and get more change and others don't do so well and might not get so much, and yet all share equally. It might not encourage any to do the best they can since there really is no reward for it. The bottom line is, a place can ask anything they want, but the customer is only going to pay what they want in the end. Thanks for your comments, bing28.
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
I agree, the tips must go to the waiters who deserved to have it. A sort of incentive for them in doing good service.
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• Philippines
4 Apr 09
Tips are usually given to waiters and waitress after a meal but this this depends on the client, when we give a big tip the waiter remembers us, so the next time you go back to the restaurant the waiter would approach you immediately to get your order because he/she remembers the last time he gave you the amount of tip.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
I wouldn't think of tipping before the meal since I tip according to the service. I have given next to nothing before and one time, years ago, my father gave the tip to the bus boy since he was more helpful than the waitress was, and there were around 20 of us so it was a sizable amount. Of course, I have had the same server twice and the service hasn't always been as good both times. Thank you for your comments, feathers26!
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
4 Apr 09
The state I live in the standard amount for a tip is 15%. I think it is a guideline so someone who has a $20.00 bill, will not tip one dollar. People can tip whatever they want, but I think the tipping per dollar amount is a curtesy to give people an idea, that they should not tip under that amount. My husband and I are good tippers. He worked as a limo driver at one time, and understands the value of tipping well, since he did not always get good tips.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
Thank you, studalunts, for your comments. I think it is 15% here, and I generally give 20% unless I get poor service. I have found that my 2 sons-in-law are cheapskates and my daughters and I have to really get on them to be fair with even the 15% for excellent service!! Last night even my son-in-law's father was making faces at him for being so cheap!! lol
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
4 Apr 09
I never have understood that, even when I was waiting tables! I don't let the price of the meal affect the amount of tip I leave. For me, it all depends on the service. I don't even consider the quality of the food because it is not the waitress/waiter who prepares it and if it is bad, they should not be penalized! I think that maybe the reason for the way a gratuity is calculated is in attempt to get waiters and waitresses in higher-classed restaraunts to push the more expensive meals.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
I hadn't thought about pushing the higher priced meals, but that does make sense. That's about all that I have heard that does! Although mentioned earlier about giving people an idea what to tip is a good one, too. It was cool on one ticket to have the tip amounts for 15%, 18% and 20% right on the bottom, so we didn't have to figure it out. Thanks for your comments,lynnemg.
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• United States
4 Apr 09
I don't really understand it either, now that you bring it up. Tips is actually an acronym that stands for "to insure proper (or prompt, depending on who you ask) service." It used to be, and still is in some places, given at the beginning of the meal. I'm not, however, sure what happens if you tip at the beginning of the meal and the server lays an egg and totally forgets about your table...or has a bad attitude. *shrug* I use the 15% as a sort of guide but mostly I use their performance to decide. If they ignore me, never refill my drink, whatever, they definitely don't get 15%. Likewise if they don't leave me alone for more than three bites before they ask me how everything's going, the tip is going to go down for that as well. But, keep my drink filled, don't deliver the food and then disappear for 30 minutes then bring the check, be polite and act like you actually want to be at work and you might get 20%.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
I eat out quite a bit, crimsonladybug, and it just occured to me that it shouldn't make any difference how much you are paying for your meal. I remember one time we were waited on by my son's girlfriend for a $7 meal and gave her a $20 tip!! Of course, it was only because of who she was, but her service was excellent, too. Thanks for your comments!
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• United States
12 Apr 09
OHMIGOSH!!! I know about the tipping!! Goodness!! Why does it have to be a certain percent of the total when it's just how much the food cost?! I just go with what my husband has told me and it's 15%. I thought I was a great tipper, til I moved to this country and man oh man, I feel really cheap when I tip here.
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• United States
13 Apr 09
It is sometimes unbelievable the difference in the service you can get from different servers in the same restaurant, even!! But the amount of the bill serves as a guideline, I am learning! Thanks for your comments, alyciassecret. I'm sure you aren't any cheaper than some who I have seen OR even know........my 2 sons-in-law to name 2!! lol
• United States
13 Apr 09
Hahahahahaah. Thanks. Though I am learning on the 15%, jeez it's just so hard that you have to give at least that. My goodness. My husband's just so generous and I told him recently, "You know, money is hard for us too you know. Not just the servers."
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Personally I think it is up to the Service I get regardless of the price as to how much I tip, etc. I know that when it is somewhere I get excellent Service I usually will tip more for sure. I hate knowing we should Tip for Bad Service somewhere as well. But as for the amount to tip, don't they always say 10 to 15% of your total bill, so that would mean more for a more expensive meal as well. Just my thoughts.
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• United States
6 Apr 09
Hi, KrauseHome! Here it is 15-18%, unless it's good service, then 20%. I have given as much as 25% for someone I thought was very good......but again according to the amount of the bill. What I don't understand is why the cost of the food should dictate the amount of the tip, but I have gotten some pretty good suggestions why. Thanks for your comments.
• United States
5 Apr 09
I have never gone by the price of my meal. I determine differently how much I am going to tip a waitress by the service she/he gives me. If they give me excellent service they get a very good tip, if they give me fair service than that is the kind of tip they get. I don't feel I have to go by what they say I need to figure on what kind of tip. It is my money and I figure the tip the way I feel it is fair to do.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
Thank you, sunshinelady!! I think that makes the most sense, but I have always done the percentage thing, since that is the way it has always been done! As it has been mentioned, we are free to give, or not, as we wish. Your way actually makes the most sense of all.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I am a good tipper because I used to be a server years ago. The reason it's done that way is because that's how the servers are taxed..by their sales. It's ridiculous really but I guess they felt like there needed to be a basic guideline for taxing tips.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
OHHHHHHHHH...........!! I have never heard that before!! Thank you for the information and for your comments, JenInTN! There has to be taxes on everything!!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Your welcome.
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