Do you Blame Your Parents For Your Life?

Parents - Parents fault or mine
United States
April 5, 2009 7:20pm CST
It really aggravates me when I hear people blaming there parents for their life. In most cases the people that blame their parents are not doing real well in life. I think once you become an adult you have the brain to think for yourself.you should mot blame anyone for you life but you. what do you think?
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30 responses
@kedves (729)
6 Apr 09
what about the people who were abused either physically or mentally by their parents? do you blame them too? by the time we are adults most of us have been steered in a certain direction by our parents so if its the wrong direction why are you not able to blame them? How about parents who blame their children for their lives? or is that ok? you know its not a good statement to make because there are so many factors to consider in our upbringing to the age where YOU say we should blame ourselves only .. but why do you consider the parents blameless when for 16-18 years they were in control of your life ? If you say as adults we should take responsibility for our lives then the parents should also take responsibility for how they raised their kids no? I am a parent and I know things I did wrong and I always admit them and help my kids when ever possible .. I never think I am blameless and no parent ever should because we are the ones to teach and encourage and support.
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@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
6 Apr 09
Life is what you make it. It is no ones fault but it is easy to blame the parents, the ones who took care of you as a child and never did you wrong. To be honest blaming your parents on anything is just a cop out.
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• Philippines
6 Apr 09
Don't blame your parent for the path that you take!!! They a guiede for the life that you take even if this is right or wrong!!! Blaming parents for the mistake of there children is a wrong perception of the persons!!!
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@rakesh284 (1473)
• India
6 Apr 09
I have never blamed my parents. When I was kid sometimes my younger sisters used to do that but I used to explain them that they have cared us a lot and will care us in the future also. They are our parents and we should respect them that they trying to fulfill our requirements even in bad condition. I have witnessed that my parent have struggled a lot to make our life heaven.
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
6 Apr 09
Of course i wouldn't accept those spoilt brats who blamed their parents for everything even how their life were run, when they're actually the ones running their own lives, they'll insist their parents did not provide enough. But some people, I'd like to believe that they have a valid reason to blame their parents. Those people are the ones that were unfortunate to live comfortable lives. Even so, i still think everyone should avoid hating their parents. You can't hate them forever, they're your parents. They bore you and fed you and clothe you. You have every reason to be thankful no matter how unsatisfied you are with the things you have right now.
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• India
6 Apr 09
hi there...i totally agree with you...after becoming adult its you who moulds your life...and its mere waste if you blame others...its an art of escaping when you blame others unnecesarily...and blaming parents is such an insane act...they have given you life...they have given you the opportunity to enjoy the everything present in the worls..and you dont have right to blame them for the things which you have done...you should be thankful instead blaming them...instead blaming them you should do such things which make them feel proud of yourself.. hope every youngster should understand the pain their parents feel to grow them and they should always be thankful to them for whatever they have done to their children...mostly the young people blames their parents rather they should spend time with their parents to understand them
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@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
I never feel the need to blame my parents for all of the things happened to my life. I am proud of my parents and i love them very much. Although i live alone and im working away from them, i still support them and i will never think of forgetting them. I love them and happy mylotting!!
@babyorchid (1739)
• China
6 Apr 09
i never blamed my parents for this before no matter wt life they offered us..it's our obligate to make our own life better. they already gave us lives.. we have to resposible for ourselves.. have a good day
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• United States
6 Apr 09
I have to agree with you. I don't think that anyone should blame their parents for their life. The way I see it, your parents responsibility is to teach you important values and morals in life, and try to guide you while you are young in the right direction. It is your responsibility as a child to take in what they say as well as other things that you may have learned along the way, and once you become an adult apply it in the real world to the best of your ability. If you cause yourself to be a screw up because you made a messed up decision in life then that is no one's fault but your own.
@prinzcy (3068)
• Malaysia
6 Apr 09
I used to be 'angry' at my parents and those are only during my teen age phase. I don't think I ever blame them for our way of life or anything. For me, everyone is responsible for his/her own life. If you're not happy with it, then change it!
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• Philippines
6 Apr 09
we are all in title in our own life.to make us happy,sad,bad or good.that's why god give as intiative to think what is good or bad for us.but sometimes parents had a part to blame too when they don't take good care of their kids so well and misguided them.
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@iamnumbed (167)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
I do not think it is fair to blame your parents for what ever reasons. I feel every thing a parent does is for what they think is for the best. In some instances though, a parent may be blamed, simply because we all think differently. What is right for you may not ring true to me. For those who were abused by their parents is another thing. They should not be blamed, instead, they should be put in jail.
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
I don't blame my parents for my life or how my life turned out now that I'm 26. My parents are the best! at an early age they taught us (me and my siblings) how to be independent. They let us face the real world and experience life along with its hardships. There were times in my life were in I made the wrong choices but if you don't experience wrong choices you will never learn. Those failures made me strong and made me realize how I can make my life better everyday and for that reason I am thankful for having wonderful parents....Maybe I blame my parents for my life but because I have a wonderful.
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@laydee (12820)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
I don't blame my parents for my life, after all, no parent would want you to be weak nor to be unsuccessful right? If your life is full of problems, then it's up to you to fix them. Nobody ever solved problems by blaming other people.
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@rymebristol (1711)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
no, and i do think that ourselves should be the one to blame for whatever unpleasant things that a person go through, besides it is our own will and decision that we consider the most and blaming it to others is a sign of immaturity and being irresponsible and being "WEAK". i don't blame my parents nor anyone, for the kind of life i am right now. people have the power to change their live for the worst or for the better.
@Gesusdid (1684)
• United States
6 Apr 09
your kinda right , once you become and adult and think for slef theres no finger pointing except your own , i kinda blame society , like most people we tend to look at the rich and famous or like the ones who inherited riches since they were born we look at that and then look at our family as " What happend to us ?" lol but a kinda of postive effect comes in cause once your an adult you dont have to follow the stpes of your parents and you can make your own way hopefully to success
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@bing28 (3801)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
If I would blame my parents maybe they would blame their parents too, that would be a non ending blaming until our forfathers. Instead of doing so, would just find ways to improve life. When we became matured we have the ball in our hands to keep it rolling. It's all with our abilities with the kind of life we want to live in and we want to live for.
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
I don't blame my parents for my life, some of the things that are happening to us are not their fault it is part of life. Eventhough they want the best for us always. some circumstantial happenings which are beyond our control.
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@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
life is what you make it they say I believe so we are responsible on our own actions so why blame others for it. Me too I dont like it when some blame their parents or others for there failures.... Nobody can force you too do things if you wont let them take charge of your life so you wont go blaming others for your failures... You are right my friend they would soon realize all this when they become more mature and have brains to think all this things.....
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@skyla26 (286)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
its hard to say but sometimes i really blame my parents because of some decisions that is contradicted with my own decisions
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@blue65packer (11837)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Yes I blame my parents for my life! Most of it anyway! That to lousey to no nurturing I have struggled for years to get were I'm at! Thanks to my parents I have struggled and still with self-esteem! I blame depression on my family,too! It does run in my family! That is proven! I blame my eating problem on them! I blame my dad for making me feel I couldn't do anything right and I was the blame for everything that goes wrong around me! You have no idea how much I have struggled! If my family wasn't so damn dysfunctional I wouldn't be still struggling with issues I shouldn't be at my age(I'm in my late 40's)! I'll get where I want to but it is still going to take awhile!