Have you ever been 'really' happy ?
By K.Rajib G.
@krajibg (11923)
Guwahati, India
April 7, 2009 1:11am CST
knock, knock,knock - who is out there? Oh! hot an idea.
Simple but sapient - the mind is a strange place where thoughts dwell clandestinely and one day, any moment hit you flat and you realize - is it really so?
Yes this is what here I am putting up - mow tell me many stories when you cried a series of cries over this or that and sometime the real cry and some time the crocodile's tear but you have done it. It is easy to do. But what about sharing happiness?
This is the hardest thing in our mind to be really HAPPY at OTHERS' happiness that is converted through their success. ( Here parents children relation excluded ) Just have a jerk and feel have you been really happy at your neighbor's ( an example of the others ) son's thumping success over his project recently? I mean truly sharing.
You have congratulated him and them I know. But were you really happy? I mean really?
Please share
Rajib. 07.04.09
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20 responses
@net101 (157)
• India
7 Apr 09
Sometimes a person is so happy that words fall short to express. Whenever I see someone getting married, getting rid of pain or some big trouble, I really sincerely feel happy and thank God. In many ways we express happiness. We cry, laugh, spread word of happy news, in numerous ways depending upon in what situation person is.
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@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
7 Apr 09
Hinet101! Fine that is the human nature and we call that sharing but the question is how deep did they penetrate your heart and how long they lingered. If all the while then yes you were successful person to be equally happy with others' happiness or else not.
Thanks for sharing.
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@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
It's hard to be happy now a days. Whenever you have problem financially, emotionally and physically you make you feel sad. Some says that laughter is the best medicine but it is hard to do when you worries a lot about everything. Sometimes I feel happy when I watched a comedy shows but it is temporarily to forget my problems. But I'm still happy because I'm still alive there's a saying that if there's life there's still HOPE.
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@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
When I get really happy, I shed tears. Those are tears of joy. There are many things that make me happy, and most of them are simple things.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
7 Apr 09
Real happiness ,for that matter worry free living...it is just a figment of imagination.Which human soul is devoid of at least minor problems amidst plethora of comforts.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 09
Happiness is a wonderful emotion. The ultimate goal in life is to be happy. We pursue this goal in all manner of ways, be it through leisure, career, wealth, relationships or others. With happiness, life immediately becomes fulfilling. It is an infectious feeling that instantly lifts the sagging spirits of people. Happy people keep themselves happy because they know the little ways to appreciate themselves and to see the humour and magic in each moment. Even only through watching tv, my tears of happiness will flow seeing others success in any field like receiving awards in sports or grammy awards that are shown over the tv. I can feel the vibration of their happiness affecting me deeply.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
7 Apr 09
Hi zandi! The kind of happiness I was referring to is a rare thing to feel. That your eyes well out in emotion while being in front of a TV screen or the like is detached and hence artificial.
The actual happiness that brings you to sublime state is that you feel when the other people are happy and you too are. But have you always every time been happy with your neighbor's daughter's Space mission while your daughter too is not of less caliber? If you had ever you had or not.
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@derek_a (10874)
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7 Apr 09
Can anyone be really happy all of the time? In order to know happiness, we must know that we've been sad before, otherwise how are we gong to know it? Happiness has to have an opposite, like good has to have bad, right has to have wrong....
Ultimately, if we stop striving for happiness, then we could experience real happiness - the happiness that know no opposite. Various teachers have taught that this is possible. 
- Derek
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@SethVerlo (31)
• China
7 Apr 09
I don't think there is somebody who can be happy allthe time..but I think most of us who falls in love is happy...
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@Dasari100 (3791)
• Anantapur, India
8 Apr 09
I have been so many times but i need to be happy ever and i want to change my self then i can know my self so i have been doing mediation and attending spiritual programs so i will be happy more.
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@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
12 Apr 09
Hi Dasari, you are correct in normal condition it is really difficult to share others happiness but when you are motivated by Yoga or meditation it could be possible to some degree.
thanks a lot. ( so you are 1 post less the thousand )
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@excellence7 (3647)
• Mauritius
7 Apr 09
Happiness is often..but real happiness...hhhmm let me guess - ya maybe when I get exams results or when there is a party :) But that's also not real happiness. Well I just can't know how to define real happiness.
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@excellence7 (3647)
• Mauritius
7 Apr 09
I just don't mind. You maybe earning one billion here and still this does not affect me my friend...because I am here to learn and share rather than earning. Best of luck anyway. Cheers
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Apr 09
I firmly believe that when you really love someone you are thrilled for them and that the crocodile tears are real and intense. Real love is just like that. Selfish and caring. Now when it comes to the neighbors and a friendship like that you may be happy but not to the intensity of the real love and you might say some things that are not as feeling.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
9 Apr 09
No one can be happy seeing their neighbor's son getting success. I am no exception. I can't see others getting succes, specially if they aren't my relatives. In my family if anyone goes up then I can feel the exicetment but when it from other house, then I feel jealous.
i think this is obvious and it guides us to do more and more so that I can win the race against people around me!
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
I'm happy after struggling hard getting over those hardships raising my three children alone as I'd been widowed when they're still young. I'm the happiest however seeing my daughter receiving her college diploma after all her sacrifices and followed by her passing the board exam and now earning and successfully enjoying her profession.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
7 Apr 09
Hi bing! I am afraid you caught me on the wrong footing. My point was being happy when things are not associated with you but with others rather. Still I share your happiness you had after struggle and your daughter got their degrees.
Thanks a lot for that.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
11 Apr 09
Hello my friend krajibg Ji,
Such charcters may be counted ones in our society. Seldom it is observed. I can not
say that it has always happened with me. But at times, it has happened also. But, my
hubby i salways busy to help others, even when not called for. He feels much happiness
with others and he is be-fitting in your ways.
May God bless you and have a great time.
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
14 Apr 09
Hello my friend krajibg Ji,
So nice of you for your positive comments. But somebody could try at least.
May God bless you and have a great time.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
7 Apr 09
Without being happy I would not congratulate in the first place.It really makes me happy seeing the guy next door having a great success in whatever he does.I would love to tell it to my friends & relatives abot this guys' acheivement & it gives me immense pleasure in doing so.
After all what are you going to lose?
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@krupesh (2608)
• India
7 Apr 09
Hello Rajib,
Defenitely yes when you are a known person to me.If I dont know you then why should I scratch my head?Its as simple as that.When you are happy with what you have , you never mind what people get overnight unless you are in a bad position yourself.If you are not happy with what you have then defenitely you will feel jealous of the others acheivements.Right?I think its a fact as well.
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@huxen69 (118)
• India
8 Apr 09
The most times I have been happy was when I got my playstation 2, my nokia 6300 and again when my uncle gave me an Iphone. HOW HAPPY CAN YOU GET WITH AN IPHONE. HAHA, I Like being happy, but happiness doesn't last long for me. LOL. I miss posting stupid responses at mylot. I have been inactive for so long and now I am back. HELLO MYLOTTERS.
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@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
8 Apr 09
There are very few people in the world who would really rejoice at anothrs success . I would feel happy for such a person, but then Id feel envious too. Im only human. Id want the same type of success for my son or husband or even myself. I would not wish him harm or hurt, just feel pleasently envious.
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@jonnydude (31)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I used to pray to God everyday for my college-mate's exams, starting from a month or so before his exams started. I never thought he could pass, because i felt he was totally not capable intellect wise. Moreover he himself seemed hopeless and was on the verge of giving up.However, on the day of his results, when i learnt that he had passed, i felt the most ecstatic form of happiness i've ever felt till today. I never told him or anyone of my joy towards this.
Ironically, on the same day, i had also come to know that i had failed in my exams. But i was least concerned since I was already sure i would fail, thanks to my pathetic performance.
@jonnydude (31)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I was really truly happy, and it lasted quite a long time .lol
@pickwick (858)
• India
7 Apr 09
Hi Rajib!Let me start by telling you an experience of mine.I had joined a meditation class where my guru told me that whatever i want I should pray with my whole heart that my neighbour should get that.It was very difficult at first to visualise and pray my neighbour turning wealthy ,successful or really happy.But with due course I could do that and now it has become a habit to pray for the world.I do rejoice in the happiness of my colleagues and neighbour now.But still....being made of flesh and bones,jealousy does raise its ugly head sometimes .
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@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
7 Apr 09
Hi picwick, You are right and so your Guru. To achieve or to say feel the real elation in the totally detached relation is very difficult though not impossible. I am convinced now that you have got what I wanted to throw light on through my discussion.
Thanks a lot.
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Rajib-
Dear friend, this is a subject I've taught on extensively in courses I teach through our church. It's something my husband and I both have our students practice because it is necessary to overcoming the attachments to life. The most recent would be the joy I felt for a friend of ours on his book success overseas. He's published three books recently, is doing very well in his business, and I'm very happy that he is enjoying the success that comes with that. He's a brilliant writer.
Namaste-Anora
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@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
7 Apr 09
Yes Anora you have sieved through my discussions topic. This is too difficult to be happy or elated in the reattachment situation. This needs and demands strong motivation and willingness and once you are there you are above yourself.
Thanks a lot for sharing.
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@aldztrust (38)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
No, I never have been and those people who claim to be ever happy are lying to themselves. Being happy is a subjective thing. You can either choose to be happy or not to in any situation (unless you have a medical condition of depression).
I think the right question should be: "how happy are you at a time that you choose to be happy?"
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