I dont want my son in my house anymore!...................

United States
April 12, 2009 5:21pm CST
But that is easier said than done. The devil was riding his back last night and it caused me to act out of character. He is down right rude and disrespectful. The other day I had a topic named: "Children are so freakin rude" and it was based on my oldest son. Don't get me wrong, the other two, especially the middle child can get rude too but last night my oldest had me acting very ugly.....something people aren't used to seeing from me. He must have used the "F" word at least 10 times. I cancelled his phone and being that I don't take care of him as he claims, he shouldn't feel no way about it. Why is that a female can leave the home at the age of 18 but a freakin male is under the parent's responsibility until the age of 21? If he were a female he would have been gone last night. Peace and Blessings to you!
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• United States
16 Apr 09
In America, you are an adult at 18, you can join the military, leave home, and your parents can throw you out. Gender has nothing to do with it. Perhaps he's upset with you because you have such a low regard for living creatures. Maybe HE'S tired of seeing you take in and then discard pets. Why do you have kids OR pets? It seems you are incapable of taking proper responsibility or permanently loving either. You set a terrible example for those children when you show them by your actions that living creatures are disposable. I hope they don't grow up to be like you, we already have enough sociopaths.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Once again....bravo. This person seems to have a weird sense of priorities and what is considered normal in life. My own mother wasn't married until about 23 years old ...meaning she still lived at home with her parents. Yes, at 18 one can join the military, leave home and etc. But so many rules have changed and family members should instead support each other...even with "older children. Due to the economy many "older children are returning home to their parents ...or the opposite...many senior citizens are asking to move in with their "older" children since they can no longer afford to live on their own. Get real to today's economy...seems you're very selfish and wrapped up in YOUR own needs Linda...I don't think you care about anyone but yourself...you whine and complain about pets and your children...get real and think of someone's else's needs instead of your own...you come across as very self-centered on only your own needs---bet you don't have too many friends
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
16 Apr 09
PS I notice you never seem to respond to your discussions...are you even reading the responses you get?
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@jillhill (37384)
• United States
13 Apr 09
So sorry this is getting to be such a stressful situation for you....but cancelling his phone is a good way to get his attention....he doesn't deserve to have one...HOpe things are better in the morning.
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• Canada
13 Apr 09
That is a good point jillhill ... cancelling his phone would get his attention and it might also teach him that privelages should be earned not expected!
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Where did you get your facts? I always thought the male child of a family was supposed to strike it on his own earlier. For instance my own mother didn't get married until she was 23 years old which meant she didn't leave home until then. What rules are you going under...never heard of them. Seems you have a very strange sense of priorities in life.
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• United States
16 Apr 09
I guess I am confused why cant he be out of your house at 18? you live in the US and legal age here is 18 you can throw him out of your house I know that sounds harsh but just pretend he was a cat that peed on the sofa
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• Canada
12 Apr 09
Hi Linda4ualways, Wow! I bet this is really hard for you, and I am so sorry you are going through this with your oldest son. My only child at the moment turns 3 in June so I honestly have no idea what your going through, I can only imagine. I hope things get better for you soon hun, your in my thoughts!
• Canada
12 Apr 09
P.S. The only advice that I can give is to try and hang in there! Supposedly it is a phase that most teenagers have but hopefully eventually grow out of! I know I have learned a lot about patience since having my daughter! Then it 10-15 years I might have the same kind of problems possibly! Yikes!
@cream97 (29168)
• United States
23 May 10
Hi, Linda4ualways. I am sorry about your son. What did you do to him that showed him your true colors? I understand what you are dealing with. My kids can become crazily buck-wild too. Your son should stop cursing like he does too. You just have to nip this problem in the bud that is all. And you have, good for you.
• United States
13 Apr 09
I am sorry that you are going through what you are. There is not a difference between girls and boys leaving home at the age of 18 or 21. You want him to leave, kick him out. I will not put up with such language. Especially someone that is not an adult. How rude! You do have the right to take away his phone.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
13 Apr 09
Hi Linda! I didn't know that the rules were different for females! Why is that? Why do they think that males need to be at home longer? They are usually more trouble and get into trouble more, is that the reason? I had never heard that before! I know that my friends that have boys have had there share of terrible problems, but the so have my friends with girls. But, I would say that the boys problems were much worse and they usually did end up incarcerated in the end!