Would you marry for love or for money???

Philippines
April 15, 2009 8:38am CST
People should marry for the right reasons, but are these right reasons unique for each person? I mean, the right reason for me may not exactly be right for you. I want to marry for love and be with the person I love. People have different levels of attraction. Others get attracted with powerful influential men or women in the society, those with money. Others look for the more intangible qualities of a person like honesty, loyalty, fidelity and a happy disposition in life.
20 responses
@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
16 Apr 09
i will marry for love,but if his family is poor or he hasn't finished university,i wouldn't like to marry him.but ,i don't think i will marry just for money,money is important but not the most important.i like guys with good character and hing-quality.
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
I feel the same. But we have to be in love with the person to start with and having good qualities is one that make us fall in love with the person, and even being wealthy included. Now, that's a bonus.
• Nigeria
15 May 09
I believe in marrying for Money,love fades.with time.Marriage is a very complicated institution and when you marry for money,you are prepared for what ever comes your way,the challenges you face wont be unexpected.And above all you are sacrificing your happiness for the future of your kids.And it is better to taste life than living the life of hope.
@scififan43 (2440)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I will marry for love only. I have no desire to marry for money, it is not a good foundation for a healthly relationship.
• India
16 Apr 09
Its a wise thought that one should marry for the right reasons. But how does one decide what is right and wrong? I live in South India and here marriage is based on values of the bride and groom, money, power and influence in society. This is the case of an arranged marriage ie where parents or elders play the greatest role. In such marriages the likings of the guy and girl is of less importance. Here girl's parents are forced to give dowry(money to the groom in behalf of the girl).Parents who are not able to give money find it difficult to find a suitable groom for their daughter. One experience is that after a meeting of the bride by the groom and his parents the groom regected the girl saying that she did not even wear a necklace.(Its to be noted here that the necklace should be made of gold).So keeping all these in mind for South Indians marriage involves money,property, influence and least of all love. What do you say about this type of marriage?
@modstar (9616)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
I would marry for love and definitely not for money. It would be an insult for my future wife and for myself if the reason for our marriage is all about money. I can't blame others though if they marry because of money because times are getting hard and it could be the only way for them to survive. I guess they're just being practical about it. Personally, i won't marry because of money no matter what. I won't marry at all if money is the sole reason for it to materialize.
@lawana_f (327)
• United States
16 Apr 09
It take more than love to make a marriage work, but although money can cause problems in a marriage it is never a reason to marry. Love, committment, and those intangible qualities are what it takes to keep the relationship going through the rough times. I promise there will be rough times. It takes work from both partners to keep a marriage happy for a lifetime. Never think that once you are married that the work is over. It is up to the two of you to make your lifes together a success and happy.
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
I married to my husband for love. When we got married, my husband had no stable job but still we pursued our plan to get married. At least now, many things have improved.
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
16 Apr 09
hey, with all due respect to your views somethings are easier siad than done the truth is that we are living in a world where TRUE LOVE is measured by money. it is obvious that's not the right tool to use but that the fact.
@skyla26 (285)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
for my opinion i would not marry a person just for a money i will marry a person because i loved that person. as of now lots of people do that for now. they marry a person just for a money and they don't loved each other or the other is inlove with the partner but the other is not inlove with his/her partner or in otherwords they do it just for a practical reason because of financial problem or marrying just for money to improve their lifestyle or financial status and to become rich person.
@Feepitee (16)
• Australia
16 Apr 09
Almost 70 percent of people try to marry people with large amount of money...
• United States
16 Apr 09
Marriage is about money and that's why we have so many divorces. Everything is money money money. It isn't good. There is more to life than being rich. You don't have to be rich to be happen. Marriage is about finding someone you love and now you love and right one to live the rest of your life with and get married. You should even have to worry about money. Love doesn't have to do anything with money. This world needs to change, well the US needs to change. Hopefully we figure it out soon and be smarter about marriage and money. It is hard to support a family without money, but you can be happy without it.
@ahslack (487)
• Singapore
16 Apr 09
I think it's not too good to marry someone just for the sake of money.Because some people who has lots of money just like to fool around and if you marry him/her,you will not have a happy ending because he/she has the ability to fool outside and you will just be kept quiet.But for love,even though both of us were not as rich,but we have hands,we can work hard together and i am sure that we can pull through any diffculties.So i would rather marry for love than marry for money.
• India
16 Apr 09
Hi freind, evreyone wants to marry for love , not for money and so I also like to marry for love as usual. But we should keep in mind how long one can survive with love and without money. I it is difficult to survive so with love money is also required for successful love and married life.
@PinkyPosh (226)
• Canada
16 Apr 09
Yea... what you said is true. Not all five fingers are same. Each one have various factors and reasons for their marriage. To me... marriage is one thing that helps us get a life time partner who can laugh with me, cry with me... and be my better half. Ofcourse, money is essential for living... but with good partner, you can always earn what you want or be happy with what you have.
• Indonesia
16 Apr 09
the ideal marriage is be based on love. Should be remember in marriage not only to unite two heart, but also two families, two religious and two economic power. That is the reason people to find equivalent pair.
@shibham (17025)
• India
16 Apr 09
yah, some of us marry for love or money. money is always transferable. today u may have a huge amount of money, but tomorrw, can u be sure that those money will remain same? and love, love makes life live long. but beyond love there are too many qualities which i shall seek in my partner. some of them are honesty, loyality,time serveness, positive thoughts, understanding and more.
• United States
15 Apr 09
i wouldnt marry for money, sure its a good perk. but i have to marry the love of my life. since about 55% of marriages end in divorce now anyway. i want to make sure i marry for the right reason.
@Galena (9124)
15 Apr 09
to me, your word is a big deal. marriage is an Oath that binds your soul to the soul of another. and if you break that Oath you're going to leave a scar on your soul. the only reason to make that Oath is because you WANT to bind your soul to that of the other person for the rest of your existance, however many lives that might be, and whatever life brings.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 Apr 09
My fiance and I are happy together, even though we are broke. Money doesn't grow on trees and it while it might make the world go round for some, it doesn't for me and my fiance. Love should be the deciding factor in getting married, not how much money a person has. Atleast that's my opinion. Money can make war.
@dodo19 (27714)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Apr 09
Personally, I couldn't marry for the money. I don't think that I could do it. As it stands, I am getting married to a man, who I really love. It's really a love base engagement. Some may be able to marry simply for money, but I just don't think that I could.