do you keep things from your past?

Philippines
April 20, 2009 9:01pm CST
i cleaned my old cabinet yesterday and i've digged stuffs form my past. that include the love letters, pictures and stuffs of my ex-bfs. i planned to dispose them but i can't of any thing on how to dispose them. i don't agree to the idea of burning nor letting it thrown to the ocean, it's anti-mother nature works. i don't also want them to return to my past friends. i don't want them either in my sight anymore. i don't also want my husband to see them. i want everything to be out my sight but how? can you recommend something?
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@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
21 Apr 09
Your husband shouldn't be jealous or upset of what was in the past before the two of you were together and married. I can only suggest perhaps storing them in a storage unit or with a trusted friend or family member, although personally I recommend doing neither... I used to keep all the stuff like that, but as time has passed, the collection of what I have remaining has diminished a great deal. Good luck.
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@fwangaa (3058)
• China
21 Apr 09
sure, i don't want to drop my old things off. i will very sad when my old things throwed away by others. when i finished my papers ,i just save it to someplace. i want to see it after some days or future. i think i will know the feeling in old days by the words from the paper and also it is a commemoration for old days. my pardon
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• United States
21 Apr 09
I don't think it's wrong to keep mementos from the past, as long as you're not harboring secret feelings presently. No one wants to forget about things they've experienced, and it's alright to have a place dedicated for a collection of these things. I have a drawer with small things from past boyfriends and school days, and though I don't look through it often, or even always remember what's in it, it's nice to know I didn't throw away everything tangible from my memories. Sometimes I like to remind myself of who I was back then and how I've changed, by looking through that old stuff.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
21 Apr 09
Dear friend, I do keep and some of old school text books, notes, and even other things, and also my grandma's presents that is really valuable to me. I do keep them and it do sometimes arises a nostalgic feelings in me.
• United States
21 Apr 09
I do keep things from my past too. I don't think I need to throw them, they're the only reminders of how I was before and my relationships with other people. They have sentimental value for me, so I don't think I'm gonna throw them. As for you, if you really don't want to see them but you don't want to throw them, probably just keep it somewhere where it could be hard for you to reach it.
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
i do keep my old stuff in my closet like what you did, flagella08. i don't think there's something wrong in keeping them as your memorabilia for as long as you don't keep the old feelings from your ex's. i think if ever your husband see them accidentally, i know that it won't be a big deal for him because your with him now and it's just a part of your past. but if you really insist to dispose them i think digging them in your backyard will do, no burning of letters nor throwing it to the ocean...lol \m/
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
21 Apr 09
Why don't you bury them? Bry them someplace where it's beautiful or some place memorable from your past, because that's what i did...^_^ And even when i felt a little sad at seeing my past being burried up, i'd know that they were somewhere someplace still reachable but not in my sight...You can always go there to reminisce the past...haha =D I hope you seek the answer you were looking for, i know those stuff are precious that is why you don't want to burn them, they were precious to me too, they were part of us once....yea? ^_^ Good luck.
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
before, i used to have my momentos in my room... my past momentos... but now, not even single one of it... my boyfriend already cleaned it all up... means he is the one who burned them... and its okey for me...
@Rain83 (7)
• Northern Mariana Islands
21 Apr 09
Hey there! XD Well, I would really suggest to hide it some place. Lock it and give keys to all of the people that you would want to see it in the future. Because throwing them away is like a waste of memories. I keep stuff from my past relationships and what not, even if it hurts a lot looking at them, but it's impossible not to find a good moment to look up to in it. Because in life I think, even though I'm still just a teenager, memories you've had are just as important as the next ones you are going to have. If it sounds strange and stupid it's fine. I'm just trying to explain myself since this is what I think. Good Luck friend : )
@vivianchen (2648)
• China
21 Apr 09
Hi Flagella, I am working in a city where is 5 hours drive from home. I have a lot of old collection in my home.Old pictures, letters, gifts, i just love watching them. I think i will keep it, after all, they are all past and they are mermories. I can leave it at home because when i get married, i will live with my husband and will not stay at my own home much, so it doesn't bother me. I don't think it's a good idea to share those things with your current lover. In your situation, i will suggest you put it somewhere safe, or burying it somewhere with a little tree growing on. What a romantic thought. I like that idea, don't know if this will help.
@xannebull (1806)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
the truth is, i'm like a trash can before, even a simple candy wrapper given to me by special someone have been kept. i always treasure simple little things from the past, but now that i always moved from one place to another, all of those things were gone, some of it have been kept in my parents house and some of it have been left at my dormitory during college.
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
The old letters and pictures of my ex-husband is kept inside a very small bag that I keep inside my mothers room.I placed it in an area where nobody will snoop around and accidentally find it.It has a lock too,LOL!At times my mother will tell me to burn it,but I have no plans right now.Still have to think of the right way to dispose it.Right now,keeping it there will be just fine.
@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
you can put it in the box and place it in attic. or you can also keep it in your parents place so that your husband wont notice it in the future, so it wont cause any mis understanding between you and your husband..
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
21 Apr 09
I think I have already thrown away most of the love letters that I got from my EXs, I simply tore them up to pieces then threw them away. I don't think anyone will bother to try to piece them together and read them anyway. For me, it is a sign of moving on to throw away the things of the past. yes, of course, the memory will stay in my mind but unless something would trigger it, it will just be hidden and ignored at the back of my mind. I don't want to be reminiscing about the past relationships that I had. I don't think it is fair for my husband even if he will never know about it.