Personal Problem

United States
April 23, 2009 1:25pm CST
Ok, I have this friend, whom I work with, who has a very intimate and personal problem. She is married with a family but not in a happy marriage. She has started an affair with a man that is actually her neighbor from down the road from where she resides. What would you do if you caught your spouse or significant other cheating on you with another person down the road, IN YOUR SAME NEIGHBORHOOD? I'm trying to help her or give her some advice, but I'm not too good with situations of this matter.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
27 Apr 09
Hello there mystery_1379, I think your friend is in a situation whereby she is particularly angry with her spouse. You said that she's not happy in her marriage. Has it been going on for a few weeks, or months or years? If it's years, then she feels that she's doing justice to herself by having an affair with the neighbor, as you have claimed. I think it's got something to do with her sub-conscious mind and she thinks that by doing that, her husband might realize that she is very precious. Normally, when people do have affairs, they are either stuck with their own personal problems and do not know how to solve it. Since she has perhaps confided in you, you should try your best to ask her to stop the affair and if she can't solve her marriage problem herself then she should seek a 3rd party to help. But if her husband does not want to work it out with her, then it's high time she thinks of a more professional help like to go for marriage counseling or something.
• United States
26 Apr 09
Wow, what a sticky situation. Your friend needs to wake up and smell the coffee before it is too late. If she truly doesn't want to be in the marriage she needs to get out. Even if it isn't a happy one there isn't a need to be unfaithful. Just end the marriage before her family gets burned.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
26 Apr 09
Love is stronger than Marriage vows. Your neighbor is taking a chance, but she may be hoping to be caught, so her husband will leave her to her new love. Its very difficult to advise someone about a love-life, because no one but those involved really know the true facts. Its possible her husband is abusive. If this is the case she may be risking her life. I doubt I would be foolish enough to give advise to a Person in a situation like this.