This is so irritating!!!!

One thing about rumour I have noted that it is never completely false. There are in fact different sides to the same story and apart from the characters who have participated directly in the incident, everybody else is spreading rumour. And then you cant really separate the wheat from the chaff so its better to ignore and move on. It’s a waste of time countering rumour coz it only adds fuel to fire when you react.

I come across such type of people everyday. They make me feel low and also make me feel that i am of no good use, i feel very low when i find people getting such a impression about me just due to them. i get humiliated for some time. and yes i agree that we come in their words and think it is true. i dont like company of such people. but whenever i try to make friends new one, they also do them same thing.sometimes i find whole world is like this.. so now i have stopped making friends because whenever i make they hurt me very badly by insulting me or making fun fo me

I ignore them. I think people will take and start things just to make their conversations seem more interesting to others. I work in a small town and I see so much of this stuff. I have learned not to listen to any of it. Sometimes it is funny & sometimes it can be damaging. I was dating a guy that was very jealous and a rumour went around that I was cheating on him with this guy with long hair. It took me a bit to figure out who the heck they were talking about once I caught wind of it. Well, come to find out....it was my brother!He had stopped in to where i work and I was seen giving him a big hug and telling him I loved him. Of course, it took a month or so before I heard of this rumor and no one actually came to me....nope...they went to my boyfriend to "rat me out". I had to trace back to the source and figure it out. Don't join in.....that would make you as bad as them. There will always be people like that and eventually it all catches up with them and their credibility gets shot down and no one trusts them to confide in.

Yes,rumours can kill a person in a way.I saw many victimes didn't dare to speak loud in public.But in my opinion ignore them.smile over them and do things as you like.

most of the people are just ignorant and have self esteem issues that they always need to find fault with other people so that they can feel good about themselves. All you can do is pray for them and God will guide them.

I have ran into these people many times. But you need to realize, all they want is attention. Never let a person like that bring you down, because they're low lifes and they are so desperate for attention that they take an abusive route. Ignore them as much as possible.

The difference would be that they started it and not you. Call the cops, that would make their day. I wonder if mylot has people like you described. Let me see if I can send a PV message to all my friends about John4Christ

yeah i hate people like this, i dont think they do this for fun but more being mean and hateful. people tried to pull this on me, i said this about someone and anyone who knows me i dont talk behind anyone backs i say to thier face. but a rumor along time cause me and one of my best freind to get into a big fight and and cause us our friendship and finally we mended everything

hey john4christ, yeah i have had people doing the same to me before and it annoys me because i mean if they have nothing better to do then make up rumors they need to get a new hobby. I know it might be hard i just find the best way to deal with them is to ignore them then they will get annoyed and start making more up but then you see people will realise the rumors cant be true if your not talking to the person and he is say tht you told them ..... When i was younger i got alot of rumors flying around at first i couldnt ignore them but it is the best thing to do. Hope this helps

I already experienced this and it felt so terrible while all the people spread false rumors about you. I'm always tempted to get back at them but after thinking about it I ended up just ignoring everything and letting the rumors die. I keep on thinking if I get back at them I would be like them and I don't want to be like them because I'm better than them and ignoring them proves it.

depends .... I have bad hobbies, I love to eavesdropping, I don't go around and tell everyone my finding tough, I kept em all for "the time is right" situation. so I can counter all the bad thing they throw at me. and did you know ? the one that spreading the rumors is the easiest target, just tell your friend one thing , one small thing that will reveal their lies. words will spread, and people will start rumoring about him/her. it's always easy to kill bullies.

Ignore and have more patience then smile back. Maybe that is the key part for you to respond to these kinds of people. If you show them that you are affected with it then they will tell that your guilty or its true, so why not give them the benefit of the doubt and let them guess what will be your reaction to it. There might be two answers coming from them: 1) they will continue this act or 2) they will stop. Either ways if you show no signs of irritation or being affected they are the loosers and not you. People are always curious about other people, that is why life is interesting... Just go with the flow just make sure you act more than normal than them and dont forget to smile back.:-)

who hasn't dealt with these people? The best thing to do is just go about your business and be yourself dont be concerned about the matter. There are cruel people in the world and there's not much anyone can do about it but just move on. Yes I will admit it does feel good to give them some of their own medicine but you're right what would it do just make you look as bad as them.

I feel that people talk about others for a few reasons: 1. They arent happy with thier ownlives 2. they have nothing better to do 3. they dislike someone so badly that they thrive on hurting them. I personally have been through the gossip trip, thing is when peopel finally ralized that they could say what they wanted and i didnt care about what they sad, they stopped, and even if they still talk, they now i dont care.

yes i also met this kind of person. i just ignore them.

In fact, there are a lot of people who have that kind of behavior. I once came across a friend who liked to make you as a bad person in front of many people. I think that person got some kind of satisfaction when he/she can make you look bad and he/she will gain a positive impression from the others. What I can tell is, just let it be. People can judge not only from his/her false rumor. We can show the others that we are different from what he/she says. Or sometimes, you may try to do the same to him/her. Not spreading the false information, but you remember his/her mistake, then when he/she try to hit you, hit him/her back by bringing out his/her mistakes. So that people know who's right. Actually, I did do this and I can regain my friends' trust and that person got hit and never do bad thing to me again.