I dont like myself.....

@HelScream (2829)
Philippines
April 28, 2009 7:07pm CST
Did you ever say this line before " I dont like myself" ? And if so what made you say this to yourself... What are the things that made you say this to yourself. Is it because of low self esteem or not being contented of what you are? What other factor are there that would lead you to say this to yourself....I am sure lots of us have encountered such lines how do you overcome this?
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16 responses
• Philippines
5 May 09
i don't like myself when i'm unable to say NO to some family or friends even if i wanted to or that i needed to. i mean, i should have voiced it out some more... but then i didn't. and i don't like it. i don't like myself when we're letting out steam and we just have to let it off our chest somehow and i tend to do a little cursing and i definitely don't like it. i actually started to think if i had a mean bone in my body. foul language is a no-no in the family... that's why when somebody just blurt it out... it's really a cause for concern... meaning, the situation is worse than what we are saying. and i don't like myself now for holding on to someone and feeling guilty about planning to break off with him after 3 1/2 years. i should have done it on the 2nd year, but i didn't... i couldn't. but i realize now that i should have. how i overcome those? hehehe anyhows, i am learning to say NO to some people. i've only cursed one guy, and it's because he hurt my sister a lot. and whatever guilt i'm feeling towards my boyfriend... my need to move on with my life is even greater.
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
5 May 09
Well as they say everything has its own time my friend. Not being able to say no is not a bad thing and you should not hate yourself for it. But I think you are almost there ...change takes time just dont force yourself into it... some had and easy time on saying no and I too have to admit that it takes me time to say no or decide what is supposedly right just like what you are facing with that guy. I tend to take some things to consideration and giving them chance to prove there self worth but if the right time will come that I see it is useless to stick around with that person and it's just a waste of time and a lie to yourself then I have to let go.....in due time.
• Philippines
5 May 09
what can i say? i've given way too many second chances that technically, the term "second chance" was over-used on him, he doesn't deserve another one. but i'm trying to live with the fact that it's over even if i haven't told him yet. and i'm definitely moving on. :) i guess i was trying to live down to my reputation as being too generous. being too generous to family and friends for my time and finances... generous enough to that guy who hurt my sister for not filing that criminal case against him yet... way too generous to my boyfriend for giving him so much understanding and patience and devotion and a lot more... sometimes being too generous to others is a flaw... it's during these times that i think i don't like myself a bit... but hey, i'm learning... hehehe
@commanderxo (1496)
• Canada
29 Apr 09
I've never really said that I don't like myself. However, I will admit that I've been "disappointed IN myself", on a few occasions. To go into any details regarding those particular occasions, would probably require me to write a complete historical biography. (-smile-) :-) Just kidding. I've had my moments...but again...never DIDN'T like myself. I believe it's important, to remember the difference. cdrxo
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
hahaha it would be a great thing to read your biography my friend. we all have our moments like this but it's not healthy to feel this way always though. P.S why dont you use mylot code you can use emoticons for those emotions since you have reached 260 already.
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• Canada
30 Apr 09
True enough. However, even if I do sometimes feel this way, I'm confident in myself to know when to quit. I consider it part of my personal learning process...as I don't sit around and let things fester. I have my outburst, and eventually calm down within a couple of hours. To me, THIS is healthy...not to "keep it in", but "let it out", learn from the experience, and move on. I also realize that not too many are capable of performing this exercise, but this is what I tell any of my friends to do. It ain't easy...but it works for me. cdrxo
@sanuanu (11241)
• India
29 Apr 09
If I watch myself into the mirror just after getting wake up after a good sleep, I would say the same line of words, "I don't like you, pal. Look at you, you look awful". Other than that, I would say, "I love myself"!
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
hahahaha what do you look like when you wake up? Do you really look that awful early morning? happy to hear you love yourself then sanu
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@sanuanu (11241)
• India
30 Apr 09
I think I see someone from my dream when I see myself into the mirror standing with me. As, I look always great but that guy doesn't look great and that is why I say: You look aweful buddy!
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
5 May 09
i didn't say i don't like myself before.even if i didn' think like that.ahh.i think i should like myself first then i like others better.be good ,my lotter.
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
5 May 09
yeah this is what I realize and its true how can you learn to love others if you dont love yourself. It purely make sense to me.
@cuttyrish (2662)
• United States
29 Apr 09
yeah, i say that too myself too, because sometimes i see people who i know that is better than me, or more confident than me. i envy those people who have great talents, and have high self esteem. i also want to have a high self esteem, so that i can face anything.. when this happens, i just try to excel in whatever i am good at, and prove them that i am also the best, and that i can institute change...self talk helps me too...and my family and friends..
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
5 May 09
Thats good my friend. You have learned to overcome this things on your own. As they say no one can help us if we dont help ourselves.....
29 Apr 09
This happens when something goes wrong, usually buying stocks or betting on a horse that loses.
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
5 May 09
hahaha you are talking about gambling. yeah I know the feeling I too before gamble a lot and in the end I hated myself for wasting too much money ....hard earned money...
@darksorrow (4671)
• Bangladesh
29 Apr 09
I like myself. And there is no reason i won't like myself. I am not saying i am perfect. But the lacking or if there is something i don't like about myself i try to improve it. It seems you don't like your self...why?
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
me don't like myself ? who say so i love myself coz if i wont i wont be capable of loving another person if I dont love myself hahah what made you think that my friend
@orderfox (231)
• China
29 Apr 09
I think we all need self-esteem. Because the survival of human beings in society. Take into account the relationship between social status and the existence of. On the separation of the hierarchy. With each person to their own social positioning. But everyone is capable,just different. So we have to respect everyone,people will respect us.
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
Any number of things may initiate the growing up process of an individual.We have all developed our own pet excuses for what has happened to us in our lives....thats why such feeling as not liking oneself may occur to us..from child hood till present many factors may lead us to think this way. Some leave in denial but denying it would somehow still lead you to not liking yourself... it would somehow be overcome by facing this and make some resolutions within our inner self.
@hxstar (510)
• China
29 Apr 09
Hi,HelScream Hum,I think there are not very good solutions to this kind of problems because it happend just because you have lost your self-confidence.The only thing you can do is to tell yourself that you are an excellent one.However,you should improve your ability and other related things because you won't say this words with no reason.Hope this will help! Have a nice day!
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
I have overcome this feeling by thinking positively and just be happy for what I have. I am not feeling this way now just wondering if some of you guys have also experienced this in your life and how you overcome all this..... some have difficulty on this stuff but for me it would be easier by loving oneself....
• Indonesia
29 Apr 09
Sometimes when we feel that we are not as good as the other, we may feel like we really hate ourself. According to me, these feeling show up because we do not have self confidence. we do not trust our ability to compete with the other. I should admit that we can not win to all people in the world. It is almost impossible for us to be good in everythings. But,... we are just a human. We have weakness. As long we always try to do the best, we will not feel like hate ourself. For what??? So,... let's just do it, do the best for ourself. Do not think about how to win from the other, just think about what to do to be the best.
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
you are right too my friend for me I just enjoy what I do now and do what I want to do not really be the best but at least be satisfied on what I have. In this way I have overcome such felling and begin to like myself. Putting positive thinking up front.
@yuguoli (83)
• China
29 Apr 09
Sorry that you said 'you don't like yourself'. I never said that to myself and don't even think of this. I've got a different thinking though, it's like 'they don't like me'... lol So funny.
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
nah my friend this is just pure wondering who among you have ever encountered this ..... and yeah I too encountered such question but that was a long time ago.... yeah very funny of putting it that way. lol
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I don't like myself whenever I am forced to say "okay" to something I don't agree about. I think it's a form of abuse but I let it happen. Some people are just too pushy and would not take "no" for an answer. They take advantage of my being softy and it just pisses me off that they do that and I am more pissed off of myself that I usually can't say "no" to it cause they will get upset or angry at me. It's so wrong and I hardly overcome this. I get spiteful because of this and I usually end up saying to myself "what goes around comes around".
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
oh you should not be like that I guess my friend.... If you think you dont want to agree on something or say ok on things you dont want then dont say it or agree with it. They would understand you if they really are your friends or they really value your opinions and decisions..... Remember we can never please everybody just be true to yourself my friend
@carann (262)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Others can make us think this too. My x husband drove my self worth inot the ground. And I gained alot of weight too. After we split I lost all the weight and was able to see friends again. My boss said to me once boy you lost alot of weight and I told him I am not sure why. He said I think it's becasue you are happy again. I wont be letting that happen to me again. Everyone is priceless and I wish others would'nt feel the need to do that to others.
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
I do believe you are right my friend. One can pull you down through hurting you mentally. With this you come to hate yourself and this is not good on treating others this way...
@maftab92 (23)
• Pakistan
29 Apr 09
Yes! it is because of low self esteem and people with low self esteem lack a sense of contenment. they are not happy with themselves and with others as well. Low self esteem is one's image or belief about oneself, which is developed at an early age. Environmental factors including poor parenting skills, traumatic childhood experiences and let downings by others. The way we develop low self esteem, we can learn to improve it. We can develop a positive, high or healthy self esteem by following some simple psychological techniques. We can even help others to enhance his or her self esteem.
@HelScream (2829)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
Well I guess it's but natural for each one of us to feel this way sometimes but if this happened all the time then theres really something wrong with yourself and you need help to recover from what is making you so negative towards yourself.
@BlueAngelRS (2900)
• Canada
6 May 09
I have used this line: for me I think it has alot to do with low self-esteem and that I've been teased alot growing up and have let people walk all over me til I learned to stand up for myself...I used to hear awful things said to me that I started to believe it and not like myself...I still struggle with low self-esteem but it's getting better!
• Philippines
4 May 09
I did and that was out of anger to myself because I'm very dumb about this person.But my love ones never left me and gave me all the support I needed so I was able to got back on my feet again and threw him out.