My friend keep copying me...

@saiKO92 (392)
Malaysia
May 1, 2009 8:09pm CST
I've this one friend whom I known for a month and half now. She's a girl and a junior in my college. I met her while training the college's softball team for tournament because she's one of the trainee. What have been disturbing me all this while is she always copying what I do when at the field. Now the tournament is over, I was relieved that I don't have to see her copying me. But it is not for long. After a while I realized that wherever I go, I'll see her. What should I do to make her stop copying me??
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
2 May 09
Hmmmm, that bit of recognition towards you is becoming annoying? Why not just be friends with that junior and figure out why she copies you. "You also like this?" and asky how did she become to like it and perhaps you'd find out something interesting why she ended up copying you..
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
Is that a recognition? I don't realise it. Oh well, maybe I'm too worried about the copying thing. Anyway, how should I figure out why she been copying me??
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
2 May 09
It could either sound like a very good story or something to be worried about.. If you don't want to ask her directly, you can ask those that she know perhaps?
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
I hope I know who's her friends. I just get to know her a month ago and I'm still don't know who's her friends. Do you have another suggestion?
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@sid556 (31003)
• United States
2 May 09
What is she doing to copy you? Maybe she admires you and wants to be like you??
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
Why do she need to admire me? I'm not a good guy. I'm just a boy who's still learning to be a better man. There're lots more people in my college who is better than me and she can admire them.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
3 May 09
Don't be so harsh on yourself. You must have some admirable qualities if she wants to copy you. So you forgot to answer my question.....What exactly is she doing to copy you?
• Canada
2 May 09
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery :) Keep elevating, get out of her range. Or, simply talk to her.
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
Ur... I don't understand what you're really want me to do. Are you trying to say that I must avoid her or I must get close with her and slow talk?
• Canada
2 May 09
1. Either push yourself to set yourself further apart from her. She'll have to work harder to get to where you are. Who knows, maybe she'll just decide it's not worth it to follow you because of your hard work. 2. Talk to her. Tell her how you are not comfortable with her copying everything you do. Understood?
• United States
2 May 09
That's scary I would ask her to stop and to be more original. It's really creepy that's she's doing that maybe she's just trying to be like you because she looks up to you but that's still little creepy.
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
It's not because its creepy that I feel annoying. It's because I'm still not good enough to be copy by other person.
• Philippines
2 May 09
hhmm its simple tell her that stop copying you.. or maybe just understand your friend maybe you are her Idol . ;)
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
Idol?? I'm still not good enough to be someone idol. Futhermore, I'm still a student and there's still lots to learn out there.
• Philippines
2 May 09
If you're very outspoken, tell her to stop but if you are too afraid to hurt your friends feelings, you can still tell her to stop but you to explain to her why. Don't tell her that it is annoying you, you can tell her that although she really wants to be like you sometimes she needs to be brilliant in her own little way. She must have admired you that much that she wants to be like you always. Let her realize that she's special and she can be herself but as brilliant as what she sees in you. :)
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
Hurm.. It seems like you want me to talk to her and it seems like most of the people replied said the same. Well, guess I've no other choice but to talk to her. But how can I make her realize she's somehow special??
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
There is another aspect which you should look into. She has a crush on you. I have seen many cases of a person copying the actions or behaviour of another person of the opposite gender because he/she wants to identify with the person in mind. The individuals act differently, meaning they do not copy the same things. Nevertheless the message is the same, "I like you so much that I want to be a part of you, similar to you." Remember, imitation is a form of flattery. all the best, rosdimy
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
Urm.. Well, my friends same batch as me at my college also said the same. But to think like that now is not the time because there's still a lot I need to learn and I've a very important exam this year. I can't let my concentration on my study be distracted.
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
2 May 09
Maybe when they are doing this, they think it could be because you are cool, and not thinking anything about it. You might need to just find time to talk to them, and let them know how much this bothers you, and then hope that they will understand and quit. I do hope that you can work this out.
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
Hurm.. Is there any other way than talking to her cause when talking to girls I'm a loser. But when its time to act weird I'm the champion..hehe.. Thanks for the advice..
• United States
2 May 09
hmmmmmm tell them to stop? i hate when people copy me .
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
I'm too, hate when people copy me. But sometimes, when I think back, when we still a child we too copy someone else. It makes me feel guilty if I ever tell her to stop copy me. I don't think a real friend is someone differ from you. I think a real friend is someone who knows what is right and wrong and will advices us when we did something wrong..
• United States
2 May 09
I would just ask them to stop! Of course I am just out spoken like that. After all there is only one of you! they need to discover who they are and stop trying to be you. But I would have to say something to them. And really If she was a friend she would not be copying you! So are they really a friend!
@saiKO92 (392)
• Malaysia
2 May 09
Well, once my grandmother said: 'It's not bad to copy others because it is to recognize yourself.' So, right now I'm in situation where I'll feel guilty if I tell her to stop.
@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
2 May 09
She probably looks up to you or finds something about you she wishes she had. You mentioned she was a trainee. People do weird things sometimes and she probably wants your approval and doesnt know how to express herself.
@Jenniferp (210)
• United States
2 May 09
Wow that is strange. I would just try and talk to her. I am that way with a lot of things. I had a friend that wanted to do everything like me, e.g. - I would buy something at the mall, she would buy one within days very similar. There were just little things like this that were getting weird and I really didn't like being around her. I was honest with her and now rarely talk to her, she was a little offended. The important thing was that she knew what the problem was and could correct it in the future, maybe hire a doctor and address some issues? Good luck; i think that honesty can be better than just blowing someone off, you may not be able to put up with this much longer ;)
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
2 May 09
many times, i copy others. i don't know others thought. you can forgive your friend. and friendly to your friend. may be you are good friend from now on. i think may be you are so good that your friend copy you.
• India
2 May 09
You need to talk to her about her behavir. you need to find that she is really copying u or not, because sometime her behavir may be just like you. And if u feel that she is copying you than talk to her why she is doing like that but softly wiht polit words, if she is not listening you than u behave like her as she is doing with u still still she is contunie than crities her comment on her behavire than finally she dont listen than leave her.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
2 May 09
well, even i had friends who used to copy me. i never liked it but could not say anything because i was nothing and did not know why someone needed to copy me. anyways you should be proud that you are setting an example for soemone. i cannot stand someone copying me... i tell people to be themselves and tell them that they are much better than me. you can also let your friends know that they are very good at things and they don't need to copy you.