Are You a Cyber Bully???

@LadyMarissa (12163)
United States
May 6, 2009 6:35pm CST
Oprah's show today was on bullying of middle school children & how devastating it is to them. Some have even committed suicide. During the show they brought up cyber bullying & how this affects everyone!!! It made me think of some discussions here where people are attacked by a virtual pack of wolves. Then anyone defending their rights is also attacked. Watch any discussion here. If the first person disagrees then the next several responses will be negative. If the first person agrees, then the next several will agree. This trend continues until one person has the nerve to change the wave of attitude. So, have you seen this??? Are you a cyber bully or do you know one??? The father of a kid that had died from it said it takes the noncommittal people standing on the sidelines to change the wave. He's correct!!! What are your thoughts on this???
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@mtdewgurl74 (18121)
• United States
10 May 09
My little sister is being bullied at school by a boy, he has broke her glasses and she had to get new one. He pushes her down and hits on her and makes her skin her elbows and knees and so far nothing at school has been done except for them to tell the child to stop But he doesn't he has gotten worse since he was told on. I have seen a little of what your talking about online here..But I usually answer my Mylot discussion from my inbox in my mail so I am rarely ever aware what others say till after I have posted a discussion. I have heard their are trolls but not sure if that means bullies or not. But it sometimes is true that only takes one sometimes to change a person's mind about something or to see it in a different way or light.
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@LadyMarissa (12163)
• United States
10 May 09
Ignoring bullies doesn't help. Telling on them doesn't help. I'm not even sure that confronting them will help. The ones discussed on Oprah were using verbal abuse to bully their target. The trolls here can be a nuisance but I don't see that many are bullies as they don't have the guts to stand up to the people they want to abuse!!! I was bullied some when in high school by a mean girl. I didn't like to fight so I tried ignoring her. That just made her madder so she got in my face one day & threatened to kick my asss. My knees were shaking when I looked her in the eye & said go ahead. I don't know how but I managed to stay calm while I said it. She looked at me like I'd grown a third head & she walked off. She never bothered me after that. Your sister needs some help. I don't know what kind, but she definitely needs some help!!! He's really going to hurt her one day.
@littleowl (7157)
8 May 09
Hi LadyM, He is right in needing someone to change the wave of the bullying that goes on on the net...it is awful to think that bullying can lead to people killing themselves...guess I just carry on answering posts but am definitley not a bully, it's not worth the while...LoLo
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@LadyMarissa (12163)
• United States
9 May 09
Oprah had a long discussion with the principal of that kid's school. Then she skyped in to his class to try & knock some sense into their little pea brains. She didn't think that child should be thrown back into school without some kind of backup. I agree with her. The therapist was basically telling him to yell he's not gonna take it anymore. I don't think that will help!!! He'd be getting his assss kicked real quick. I know you NEVER bully anyone!!!
@camomom (7537)
• United States
7 May 09
I have seen it here on MyLot and have been a victim of it. Luckily, I'm an adult and I know when to walk away from it. I usually try to defend people and help them out of I see someone being bullied. I was a "picked on" kid and I know how devastating it can be. I think it's horrible that people can use words to hurt others. I also think it's disgusting that kids even know how to treat people so mean.
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@LadyMarissa (12163)
• United States
9 May 09
As an update today om Oprah's Friday live, she had a woman on the show who had found out that her son had been bullying a much smaller kid...taking his money. She went to school the next day & took him to the principal's office & reported him herself. Then she took away ALL his luxuries & is making him pay back every penny he took from the other child. She said she had raised him better than that & was sorely disappointed with him. This is unusual as most parents of bullies defend their child's behavior!!!
• United States
7 May 09
Hello Ly Marissa, This is so sad and whats even sadder ,is that I have witnessed adults being cyber bullies. There has to be some kind of stop to this.
@LadyMarissa (12163)
• United States
9 May 09
It was said on the show that if everybody standing on the sideline would speak up & tell the bullies that their actions aren't cool, maybe they'd stop. I've found that to not be the case. Any time I stand up for someone being bullied, it seems I'm the next target...only difference is that I don't really care!!!
7 May 09
Hi LadyM, It is so sad to think the comouter is used for bullying when it should be connecting with friends and it can be isused and abuse to bully people, I would just delete or come out of it, I wouldn't even read what they have to say, but in my case if I was following a tread and come to disagree with them, I think that is a good debate but if people don't like that and attack me I would attack them back, but then again that it me. Tamaara
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@LadyMarissa (12163)
• United States
7 May 09
I think that is a normal reaction!!! I've noticed that some here think it is their job to determine what everybody else is allowed to think!!! I might disagree with your opinion, but I will defend your right to believe it til the day you die!!!
@Sador88 (70)
• Netherlands
7 May 09
Some people can be very mean to others. Although I sometimes make a reply filled with sarcasm, I never bully and I never try to hurt others with the things I say. Still, I think some people take internet a bit too seriously, which can be understandable at kids, but as grown up you should be able to realise that internet is only internet and that you don't really know eachother and mean things are just words.
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@LadyMarissa (12163)
• United States
7 May 09
Sticks & stones may break my bones but words will never harm me!!! Sometimes words do sting, but I just brush those off & just keep going!!! Why would I take to heart the words of someone I don't really know & who doesn't know me at all??? I might consider their opinion up until they start to attack. Even friends here who I love & respect, I quit listening to when I feel attacked!!!
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
6 May 09
I have not only heard of it but seen it in action. I had a few students who were doing this and my reason for joining several sites was to look out for them and report them to parents and the site. Kids do not understand the consequences and part of that I blame on the parents for not instilling this into the kids. Kids do what they see adults doing, usually their own parents.
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
7 May 09
I think there needs to be more done about this problem. I was bullied in school too and nothing major was done about. I am a survivor but I know it is so hard to make it through it.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
7 May 09
I plan to watch her show when it's re-broadcasted later. Yes, a lot of people can get in the "attack" mode even here....it's been done to me a few times. I had one person attack me during a discussion since my discussion what how I thought Yuwie was full of crap. Well yikes this ya-hoo out of nowhere said pretty flaming things and called me a loser, stupid and a failure and some of his friends also attacked me as well. The way he was defending Yuwie it was like, yikes does this guy have stock in it? Anyway some of my friends came to defend me...and then he and his buddies were nasty to them..and on and on....he's no longer here by the way....He actually then did a website how this place was a scam all because he got banned here--and he even had screenshots of discussions from here and even pointed me out in particular. As far as the whole bullying thing in general...it gets me ticked of no end but I DO know how to fight back---in other words I don't take crap from anyone..LOL