A One Night Stand

United States
May 11, 2009 3:21pm CST
Could you forgive a one night stand? Let's say your partner was away and he/she got drunk and slept with somone just once. could you forgive them? I think I could. I would hope any steady I have would understand that lies are more hurtful to me than a one night stand and he would be man enough to tell me what happened or at least don't lie about it. how about you?
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@wmfhed (121)
• China
12 May 09
Well, that depends on how deeply we are in love and we understand each other. If I love her so much and I am willing to believe the one night stand was just a mistake, then it was a mistake and would certainly not influence our relationship. Otherwise, any tiny suspicious behavior (like a hug with someone else) would become an excuse for our separation, let alone a one night stand.
• Malaysia
13 May 09
I think I would be able to forgive too. But the pain would still be there, even though he didn't mean it in the first place. There is still negligence involved in his part, or else the mistake would not happen in the first time. However everybody is just a human being and human being make mistakes. But in my situation it is impossible for my husband to drink and get drunk because he doesn't and never drinks. I don't drink too. So if he makes a mistake it must be in his negligence but he's still sober at the time. I know it would be painful to me and from time to time I would recall the incident but I will learn how to forgive. And I hope I would be able to forget too.
• United States
13 May 09
That would be a huge sign that something is Really wrong if a non drinker got drunk and had a one night stand. i added the drinking because I couldn't think of any other instance where a faithful person would make this type of mistake.
@tabsnlos (587)
• United States
11 May 09
It is great that you and others are forgiving. Its the way things really should be=) But I'm going to be honest once again and have to say NO... I can't forgive that one. I am all about keeping promises and when we got married he vowed to be faithful. I won't be able to look at him again the same. Its one of those things were I would be thinking about it all the time and throw it in his face when things are bad. Thats just not right. Plus I feel when you love someone the way I love, you just could never break that persons trust by doing something so careless and then make excuses for it.
• United States
12 May 09
Okay. Thanks for your response.
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
27 May 09
I agree that I would be more upset if they lied about it, but I don't think I could forgive that kind of behavior in the first place. If my girlfriend got drunk enough at a party to forget that she was with me, that just became solely her problem because I would leave. The difference if she didn't lie though, would be that I would leave peacefully. I would be disappointed, but I wouldn't get all angry. I think I'd get pretty angry if I had also been lied to.
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@russso (1701)
• Philippines
25 May 09
Absolutely Can't. When I am in a relationship, I am very loyal to my partner. I expect the same from him. If he truly loves me and respects me and our relationship, he would not do something that will mar the relationship. If I found out that he had a one-night-stand, I'm out. I don't like sharing my partner to other women.
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@sisco100 (2345)
• United States
13 May 09
i dont think that i could. sorry to say but if my partner cant conrtol how much she drinks and gets that drunk that she does something like that, then whats stopping her for doing it again. if i'm in a relationship with some and i was drinking then i would watch how much i drank because i wouldnt want to do anything that i would regret or that could mess thing up with that person. i wouldnt put myself in a situation where something like that could happen. the only way it would happen is if my girl allowed me to have one and at that point i would have to be very drunk to the point that i wouldnt remember any thing to do some thing like that. i just wouldnt beable to live with myself know that i did that even if i was allowed to.
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• Philippines
12 May 09
I dont think I could forgive my partner for doing that. I drink but I still know how to control my self when I got drunk. And my partner should know that she has a girlffriend. If he did that it means he have forgotten that he has a girlfriend and he has forgotten me that night.I think its not correct.
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• India
12 May 09
I don't think I would forgive. Because when one forgives, there's a mental note in the other person's mind that she has been forgiven. And when that person gets drunk again, the drunk person inside her might open that mental note and tell her that he forgave you the last time and it might even be ok this time. But hey, how do I punish my partner, I mean I'm a man and she's a woman. I won't punish her as such but I'll surely give her an emotional lecture which'll make her cry...
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
11 May 09
I am not sure how I would handle it.....and I hope I don't have to ever be in that kind of situation...it would be very hurtful....so I guess I can't answer your question....I guess I would have to be there to be able to cipher what I would want do to.
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@hepizoj (40)
• Philippines
14 May 09
wow... this is tough. can just get back at her by having a one night stand with woman? i think if i forgive her, that incident will be brought in future arguments/fights. might as well get even and forget everything.
• United States
14 May 09
I like the way tou think, don't get mad, get even.
• Philippines
14 May 09
i just noticed. my post is missing a couple of pronouns and few words. don't they have an edit button for posts? they should consider people who don't proof read.:)
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• United States
18 May 09
That's okay. I could still read and understand it.
@prinzcy (5049)
• Malaysia
14 May 09
I forgive him but that's the end of us. I can forgive him since it's normal for human to make mistake. Sometimes things like that do happen. But he already hold someone else in his arm, I can't never forget that. Everytime I look or be with him, I'll remember that accident. Our relationship will never be the same. It is best that I end our relationship.
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@prinzcy (5049)
• Malaysia
14 May 09
Can this one be deleted please? Thank you~~~
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• United States
14 May 09
To have it deleted, you must ask My Lot to do it. Just tell them the discission address.I have this happen before.
• United States
14 May 09
They may delete $10 so I'll respond here. I guess I am your polar opposite I think. I wold never think of my guy with anyone , even though I assume thee would be someone else from time to time.
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
12 May 09
I can't... Simply can't.
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• United States
12 May 09
Thanks for your response.
@russso (1701)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Just the thought of it should it happen to me (I hope it doesn't). It makes me angry. Sigh.
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• United States
12 May 09
i think one night stands happens in your partner not good in bed.
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@Andi21 (85)
• Germany
12 May 09
I think one night stand is not good whether you have a partner or not. A one night stand is not really love it is just for fun and this should not be.
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• United States
13 May 09
If you don't have a partner or you have an agreement with your partner before hand, then a one night stand is okay by me.
• Canada
10 Sep 09
Not in a million years. My husband and I lived apart for the first half of our marriage, because of business, immigration, etc. We both stayed absolutely faithful to eachother, because we loved eachother, and we were committed to eachother. Before we got married, I knew someone that I "could have been with" but because I saw my future husband and I committing to a long term relationship, I did not take the "opportunity." I'm glad I didn't! The person in question actually became a best friend to both of us. We all joke around about what could have been and what didn't happen, as only BEST FRIENDS can. Bottom line, I resisted temptation, I was patient, and my partner at the time and I were on the SAME PATH, and it all worked out for the best. If we could have gotten through that, and the "other guy to be" became a close friend of ours, like a member of the family, then there is NO TEMPTATION that can tempt us away from eachother.
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• United States
10 Sep 09
Yu two were made for each other. guess I'm not like you in many ways. I could forgive a one night stand,especially if it were just s@x.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
14 May 09
Yep, I could forgive him but it won't mean that I would forget. I wouldnn't like the it if he told me a whole bunch of lies, as when we tell the truth we shame the devil. We've all messed up somewhere along the road of life and it's best to be forthcoming with the truth and allow the cards to fall where they may. Good luck and happy mylotting!
• United States
14 May 09
Being truthful is the key. A strong relationship could be mended .Good Luck to you too.
• India
12 May 09
i cannot forgive such blunder at all. this is not mistake. for me that's a murder to my faith, my loyality, my life and end of every thing.
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• United States
13 May 09
Wow! I would feel the same way if he hit me.
• United States
11 May 09
I don't know if I could forgive them because if they do it once and get away with it there is no saying they will do it again. I'm not saying everyone is the same but ig they learn that their partner will forgive they might keep making excuses to sleep around
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• United States
12 May 09
It depends. I guess if the person wants to cheat , then asking and getting forgiveness would be a " get out of jail free card' But when I thought of this post I was writing about the person who would have never cheated but did and it was Only once.
@Amorti (201)
• Turkey
11 May 09
If she is getting drunk to forget about all her responsibilities and her consciousness, there's nothing left to be forgiven... People do make mistakes but obvious moves that will lead to disaster can not be tolerated..
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• United States
12 May 09
Thanks for your response. I never thought of that angle. If your partner is drinking too much, the one night stand isn't the main problem, the drinking is.
@ronnyb (6119)
• Jamaica
10 Dec 09
I guess it all depends on the person you are talking about .If its someone who always goes out there and have on enight stands ,no I wouldnt forgive her but if this was a one time occurence especially if she has been a good girlfriend before I think I may be inclined to forgive them but I would have to have a strong dedication and promise it wont happen again
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@KrauseHome (35690)
• United States
15 May 09
Personally for me, it would really depend on the situation as how I would feel. If it was with someone I knew that would definately make it a lot harder. But since my husband does not drink and does not travel anywhere with out me, hopefully things like this would never happen. I just hope for those who are ever faced with this can work thru it as well, but here's hoping most people never have to experience this as well.
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