The Lady Of My Dreams! i Met Her Again At Same Place. And Still ...
@Deepak_Online (396)
India
May 13, 2009 7:27pm CST
Hi friends, you might be knowing about the lady i met in the supermarket and she kept staring at me and i, being too shy ran away from the place without asking even her name. I wrote about her in other discussion.
So now i was very excited about her and kept thinking about her all the time. I also went to that supermarket many times but i couldn't find her. so i was very sad:-(
Yesterday, in the morning i went to bathroom and found my soap missing, so i went to the same supermarket to buy some soap. As i entered i saw the same girl standing there. I couldn't believe my eyes. The lady of my dreams was in front of me. But as you all are aware of "The Phemophobia"-fear of girls(beautiful girls:-)) ran into me and my legs started shaking. I tried to run from the place but suddenly i heard a sweet voice calling me.
She said-"Hi!" i tried to reply but words refused to come out, she kept staring at me. then i gathered some courage and went near her. i asked her name and she replied-"Anjali" we had a chat for a while and she gave me her cell phone number and asked me to call her at night.
Now come to the problem friends. I haven't talked to any girl on the phone yet. I don't know what to say and how to say? what not to say? Please help me i don't want to lose her again.
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@cieldz (709)
• Indonesia
14 May 09
hmmm....u'r so lucky cos ur soap suddenly disappear like the magician...
*cling...*
girl loves honest man, so dont make lies to her....and remember always give her respect even is she's younger or older than u and she will respect u as well...just be the real you...
just try to ask her simple questions bout her hobbies and activities, but dont ask bout her private life, cos she just met u...and dont force her to answer all ur questions...
ask her on a date...! go to the cinema or restaurant perhaps...
good luck and hope this ur love will everlasting forever... ^^
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@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
my soap doesn't disappeared, it was eaten by my neighbor. try reading my other discussion "my neighbor irritates me" of course i am honest boy. i never lied to her. she is few months younger just like you but she doesn't call me "Br..." tell me 1 thing, all mylot member are your "Br..." i prefer calling friend. :-D
ya i respect her and i am real to her. simple questions-? when i come in front of her. i could barely speak due to the fear in my heart. i can never force the person i love the most. Date LOL :-) she will kill me. ya i also want an everlasting love. but the problem is how? what makes me so afraid in front of her? how to overcome that feeling?
@Maryam27 (411)
• Pakistan
14 May 09
Hi Deepak, first of all congrats that you found her again ;) Lucky guy you are!
It's simple Deepak, it's your first chat so be casual and friendly, ask her about her studies, her interests, her friends, her hobbies anything and everything and tell her about yours. Oh and by the way just avoid being too curious, that i am sure you won't be but just be simple and if all goes well and you feel the green signals flowing..(as she has already given you by giving her number herself and talking to you) tell her about the first time you saw her and tell her that you are enjoying talking to her and want to remain friends with her ;) that's it for the FIRST call i guess. Good Luck.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
14 May 09
I guess this is your opportunity to talk to her and you should jump over the this as you may lose her again if you don't. Well I guess that fear of yours must be defeated with this if you're really that interested with that girl. If your cellphone has a texting capability then you might as well text her a message before really calling her. That might break the shyness in you.
Hopefully you will be able to let this opportunity pass you by.
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hi! but i can't make use of this opportunity. i have her number but i can't dare to call her. i don't wanna lose her. she is everything i have. how to defeat that fear? what to write in text message? i have even text messaged girls. please help as i don't want to offend her by my message. shall i write poem and send to her? or something else?
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
14 May 09
Don't be a slave to fear. Conquer it! I don't want to give anymore suggestions since the simplest thing of texting her is what you cannot do.... Please taking the opportunity is taking risks too and not making the first step won't do any good to you either. How to conquer your fear will never start unless you make the first move. The girl already made a move it's your turn.
@sysdexlicwriter (1619)
• United States
14 May 09
I don't know if this is the right response but when I dated, I liked a guy who would tell the truth. Women can tell when a man is shy. It is actually appealing many times. I know that her beauty intimidates you but even the most beautiful girl has her bad hair, face, etc. days. Try to be more centered on her personality. Any man that falls in love with a girl should realize that youth goes by fast and age and wrinkles appear. Make sure that you are not just in love with a face but in love with her soul. What you see her doing and acting like will be what she will teach her children. Soon you will have a house full of her personality. Make sure it is what you are most happy with. I have been married for over 30 years and my husband still looks as young to me as the day we were married (he has changed a lot physically. His soul is amazing and wonderful and that is the beauty of love.
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hi sys, her beauty makes me blind, every time i see her i get lost into a different world. ya definitely i love her completely, her soul her everything. she is so cute always and i wonder she will make cute children :-). i accept her as she is. i will also say the same after 30 years that she is still the girl of my dreams and no matter how much she change with time for me she will always be the same. still i don't know much about her soul as we talk less. How and what shall i need to know more about her?
@sysdexlicwriter (1619)
• United States
14 May 09
You should know what her basic beliefs are. How does she picture the role of a man and woman in a relationship. How does she handle conflict. Does she fight fair when there is a disagreement. Is she a loyal person. Can she endure through hard times or does she walk away from challenges. What are her personal habits. What types of foods does she like. Does she know about healthy foods and habits or will you be in the doctor's office all the time with things that she does not understand. Is she well educated. Will your children love education because you and her emulate that. This will give your children a good start in a world that struggles financially. I realize that some of this is developed over a period of time but it does not hurt to at least have an idea. The woman spends more time with children. The woman speaks more than a man and thus ends up teaching more of who she is to her children. Listen to what she knows and how she approaches life. I hope this little list helps. Only you know what little or big habits you just can not bear or what things are endearing. Make a mental list, listen and observe, and evaluate whether you could be comfortable with her in these areas.
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
Still i doesn't know about her much as we talk less. Still we haven't faced any disagreement. i feel yes she is loyal and will face all the challenges with me. she likes normal home food and is not very expansive. i feel that she is more educated than me. I can always hear her sweet voice even in the sleep. yeah this list have helped a lot and she is so cute that can bear her all the habits. i am most comfortable when i am with her. sys will you tell me how to keep her happy?
@ilawise26 (191)
• India
14 May 09
Hey Deepak!!!
I had read your discussion on that shy guy thing!
Let me tell you first ,if you panic and behave in the way you are,it will be a huge TURN OFF for her.
She has come forward and given you her number!
There is certainly some chemistry that is sparking between the two of you right now and even she was realised it.
She's smart enough to not let go the opportunity.
SO don't let this go in vain.
Although i'm surprised how an indian girl gave her number without aby conversation in the first place i still think its worth a try.
These are my tips for you:
1.When you call her ,just let her know that you are the guy whom she met in the supermarket.ASk her if she knows you already?!!!
2.Then tell her you were surprised to find her so friendly.What is it that made her give away her number?
3.Once you are sure you are comfortable start your conversation and keep it short for today.
Just ask her where she is from,what she does and tell her the same about you.
4.Say a nice gudnite and tell her to be in touch.
*Hope to hear from you what happened next! Good luck!
Don't panic ,just be yourself!!!
@ilawise26 (191)
• India
14 May 09
Hehe .DOn't call me ilaji!
Well,Deepak.A few suggestions here.
Never be in a haste like you were in buying your soap! :D
'Dreamgirl' is just a passing phase.
YOu may never realise when you get over it if another girl makes a pass at you!
But ,in this case,just try to be good friends with her first.
Its important to know a person inside out before rushing into a relation of a serious kind.
Just chill and try to meet up instead of calling her on phone.
Or just chat.There is always some gap in every kind of interaction,
be it face to face or chat to chat .
so try all means of communication to be sure if you really like her.
Don't rush with the 'I love her' thought.
Just try spending time knowing her,if you feel she is worth knowing.
The rest shall follow!
I think the Mylotters are really interested in your current life Deepakji ! :D
Enjoy!!!
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hi ila! thanks for taking some interest on a shy fellow :-) Really! i don't wanna turn her off please help me! maybe she wanted to pass time on phone! maybe she is not that serious as i am taking her. i read in a book that some girls use to make fun of boys like this. i will really be hurt if it is so! if she is genuine then she will stop talking to me if i asked her why she gave me her number.
i want to talk to her day and night continuously and i have night chat pack activated on my phone just for her. but i am not even calling her as i am afraid if she is not so serious i will get badly hurt and i will never be able to love anyone again. ilajee still nothing has happened. you are of same age please help me to know whether she is really serious or just trying to make fun of me and will later laugh with her friends at me. i can't bear that. hope to hear you soon!
@tracy_d (76)
• India
14 May 09
hi Deepak... well good to know you found someone :) make sure your soap doesnt disappear repeatedly else you'll have to meet her without taking a proper bath!! lol... jus kidding! Well, just think of her as a friend or colleague and talk casually... you need not make any haste to express your feelings until you are sure of them and until you get to know her very well. Remember beauty is just temporary and will fade with time. But how is she by nature? Are you comfortable speaking with her about anything? Would she accept you with all your positive and negative traits? Would you too accept her in case she is short-tempered, or arrogant, or used to a different lifestyle than yours? Would you get along with each other? You have to find this out by communicating with her. Start by casual and general talks like discussing your interests, professions, movies, music, food, fav celebs, etc just like you discuss on myLot ;-) Gradually ask her out for coffee/dinner and get to know her before revealing your feelings.
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hi tracy_d ! my soap didn't disappeared it was eaten by my neighbor. read my other discussion "my neighbor irritates me". Don't worry i bath daily and still i don't have any body smell as i am too young. :-) I don't have any female friends she is the first one, i was way too shy earlier :-). i know her very well she is the one specially made for me. i will love her even if she is not beautiful, her voice is so sweet. she is cute by nature.
i am uncomfortable with her even can't ask her name if she hadn't told it herself. i think she already accepted me. ya i accept her as she is. i can't communicate my feelings with her that's the main problem! discussing on mylot is a different thing as you can't beat me if i say "hi! sexy" but in the real life you would have killed me for that. how can i get to know her more?
@tracy_d (76)
• India
14 May 09
hey hey dont panic...!! Looking at your posts and responses here I would rate you quite well on communication skills :) But yes, when you meet The One, your heart skips a beat, doesnt it?!! Trust me, let your neighbour keep eating your soaps (thats really amusing!! hahaha) so that you get good excuses to visit the supermarket again and again, which would increase your chances of meeting her. Ask her where does she stay, does she too come there often, discuss about various hangouts in your city/area, ask what does she do - studying/working, then details of her course/prfession, reveal about yourself too at the same time. Ask about her interests - what kinda movies does she like, who are her fav actors, then you can suggest watching a movie together (with respect to something which lies in your both interests). Have some coffee, have some fun and i m sure the conversation will automatically flow from there :-)
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
15 May 09
This is great that you have ran into her again, and maybe she really is the woman you are supposed to have in your life. You just need to remember to take things Slow, but if she is really the one for you things will fall into place. Just take a deep breath, and try to think positive thoughts, and then just call her and talk like you are talking with your Best friend. Maybe agree to meet together in a mutual place somewhere and then go from there.
When I met my husband almost 11 yrs. ago, God told me I was going to meet someone, and he is the only one I met, so I do believe there are people who are meant for others, and when you know, you know. So if you are a Praying person ask God for some guidance and help and it should all fall into place as well. Wishing you the Best.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
14 May 09
woww... that is really lucky of you to be able to meet her again and she actually approaches you... you should make good use of this opportunity now that you have her phone number and she actually asked you to call her... just have a general chat with her for a start and don't get too personal yet... as you get to know her better, then you can start to ask her personal questions and ask her out for a date... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hi! i feel so lucky. how to start the general chat? what shall i ask her now? something that makes her happy? date is too far i am not even able to speak to her. my day can't be nice till i talk to her. please give me some questions to ask her?
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
14 May 09
lolzzz....ur dream girl again? how many time will u learn?....lolzzz just kidding. all i can say is good luck my friend. just follow what you heart told you, dont against her thought too much and always make her laugh... she will like you. :)
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
14 May 09
Hi again. I wish I can give you some tips but I dont know what it will be tho. I dont really know :). That's good, keep it up and I will push up and support you all the time, as you know.
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hey smiley! ya she is back. i will learn as many times as my teacher is as nice as you are. i love your kidding :-D my heart told to fall for her and i did that already. i never go against her thoughts and keep her laughing as i keep you always.:-) are you impressed with me? can you give a few tips how can i impress her too!
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
14 May 09
Finally, out of your 12 posts, only one is standing right here for me to respond to.. lol =D What happen to u huh??
Anyway back to the topic, i guess u are lucky and that she's interested in u.. If not, she wont not have talked to u first, when guys are supposed to do their own introduction to gals.. haha =D ON top of that, she even willingly gave u her contact number without having u to ask for it, it can only mean one things, she's feeling for u.. lol =D
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
15 May 09
lol =D NOt everybody is comfortable with gals around.. Because that's a totally different kind of experience.. haha =D Just be yourself, and treat her like the way u are chatting with a normal fren ^_^
If u are interested in her as well, by all means impress her with whatever u've got ^_^ Very soon, both of u will be going out for your first date.. lol =D
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
you meant to say 12 discussions, Aren't you? :-) so now i know your topic of interest! yes i am the luckier person to have her. shy and silly guys like me never dare to introduce themselves to girls as they fear of getting slaps and beaten by the public :-D yeah she is interested but what to do of my problem phemophobia? i never feel comfortable with girls?
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@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
14 May 09
To first discussion of you about this girl, i told you that if is your destiny you will meet she again. And i were right, you will be with this girl if you really know to keep she, and if you are honest. When a man lie a woman, love story will broke soon or later...so, be honest with she and...good luck, i am happy for you!
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hi icy, i remember each and every word of yours.(joking:-)) Its my destiny and my stars are favoring me so i met her again. that was the question i was asking, how to keep her happy? of course i am honest (except sometimes :-D) don't worry i will never lie to her (only lie to u :-D) glad to know you are happy. i thought that you feel jealous to see others happiness :-D ha ha ha
hey icy tell me how to impress her Please!
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@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
14 May 09
Girls are easy to talk to. Ask her what she is into. For example, what does she do for a living, what kind of music she likes or movies. What she does on the weekend. Ask her if you can take her out to dinner or for some coffee.
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hi flirty! your name says that you can be of great help to me :-) so i wanted to know how to say hello! to her. taking her out for a dinner so soon. i can't just talk to her. she makes me feel nervous.
@aakansha12 (183)
• India
14 May 09
Wow , sweet love story . I am glad you find her again but was she really your dream girl ? haha kidding
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
thanks akansha, its a real life situation not just a cute story. ya i am also happy to get her back as i thought we would never meet again. it was impossible to find an unknown person in a city of millions. but God wants me to be with her. ya she is the girl i keep dreaming whole day and night. tell me how to keep her happy?
@ptclickmail (123)
• Philippines
14 May 09
I think you should not let that chance again miss you. You could start with asking her how she's doing. You could also tell her honestly how you feel that why your acting like that and may help you get loosen up a little. Then ask her stuff like stuff she likes to do you might meet with a common interest and start off. Good Luck :D
@Deepak_Online (396)
• India
14 May 09
hi friend, i also doesn't want to miss the chance. i want to ask something which make a good impression on her. something that she will keep on thinking even when she is asleep. i cant tell her how i am feeling,she will think that i am a fool. can you tell me how to make a good impression on her?
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
14 May 09
OKay you just simply say hello, and it is okay to be shy. When I met my boyfriend we would just say hi to each other and say little things in church. THen the church started this bowling thing and there things advanced he asked me different things about myself and told me a few things about himself and then asked for my number. When we talked on the phone the conversation just flowed naturally. He asked about my degree and that got us talking about goals in life. I asked him about his childhood which got us talking about beliefs in education and raising kids. Different questions can lead into a bigger discussions.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
14 May 09
Hi Deepak, I feel that things may have changed a lot since my first date, so I won't offer much advice. One thing I can tell you is that I was probably as scared as you are. Maybe you should let her do most of the talking and just hang unto her every word, so you will remember everything she says later. Good Luck and Blessings.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
14 May 09
Cute story but I thought that I was the girl of ur dreams, lols. That other girl is just nothing but practice for when the real thing comes along, lols. No seriously if you want to get with her so bad, then just give the girl a call and say hey how you doing? I was just thinking about you. Then just let nature take it's course. If it's meant to be then it will be. I used to be kind of shy too but as you can tell now that I've graduated from that stage. All in due time the shyness will clear up and go away. Especially if you realize who you are in Christ Jesus, oh but ur indian I forgot, my bad, so u might not be learning about Jesus over there in India, right? Anyhow, just believe in ur creator that he never intended for you to be shy, it was all just a fluke of the past. Then come on out of ur real cool bag and start rappin to the girl like ur the town stud and you will get very far, I guarantee it. Good luck and don't forget to let us mylotters know what happens.
if you score a touch down then you owe it all to me, lols.
but I thought that I was the girl of ur dreams, lols. That other girl is just nothing but practice for when the real thing comes along, lols. No seriously if you want to get with her so bad, then just give the girl a call and say hey how you doing? I was just thinking about you. Then just let nature take it's course. If it's meant to be then it will be. I used to be kind of shy too but as you can tell now that I've graduated from that stage. All in due time the shyness will clear up and go away. Especially if you realize who you are in Christ Jesus, oh but ur indian I forgot, my bad, so u might not be learning about Jesus over there in India, right? Anyhow, just believe in ur creator that he never intended for you to be shy, it was all just a fluke of the past. Then come on out of ur real cool bag and start rappin to the girl like ur the town stud and you will get very far, I guarantee it. Good luck and don't forget to let us mylotters know what happens.if you score a touch down then you owe it all to me, lols. 
@bcdesjardin (38)
• Canada
14 May 09
take some deep breaths man or you'll freak her out. just call her and ask questions. you have never really talked to her so you should have lots to talk about. dont worry about what not to say just ask her about her day and use run on questions from there. you'll be fine just ignore the butterflies in your stomach and go for it. If your really unsure of your self make the phone call a short one and ask her to coffee wher you can talk face to face.
Call her and let us know how it went if your ok with that.
Best of luck
@binsoy (2)
• Philippines
14 May 09
I felt exactly the same way when I was still in highschool meeting my crush. Well, I guess we all have to overcome our fears.
@COLLEGEGIRL0720 (21)
• United States
14 May 09
Even though she is very beautiful and you find it hard to talk to her, when you talk to her, just be yourself and she will love you for that. You definitely don't want to be someone you are NOT, because then she will not know the REAL YOU. Just talk about things you like and dislike and find out what the two of you have in common. That is a great starting point and it is also a great way to get to know eachother. It will also be a good way to get information for later on down the road. For example, if you find out that she loves flowers, you can send her some beautiful flowers one day.
It will get easier to talk to her the more you do it. I would suggest leaving time between the time you talk though, for one, because it will give you more ideas of what to talk about the longer you go without talking, and also because you want to give her some time to miss you and think about you between the time you do talk. Leave her wanting more! :) Good luck!
