PUSHYcat, PUSHYcat where have you been???

Australia
May 14, 2009 4:40am CST
I don't know what to think or say or feel when somebody from here sent me a PM asking me...no...BEGGING me to answer his/her discussions. I'm not a mean person but it really made my eyebrows rise to know that some people could go to such length to beg or make such request. Have you been pushy? What do you think about pushy myLotters? I am sorry. I know we are all after, in different ways or so, of the earnings. But can or did you really came to a point of begging? Just asking....
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@sanuanu (11241)
• India
15 May 09
Oh, that is Pushycan not pu55ycat. Well, I have not got any messages like that, may be I am not as popular as you. Besides, you are a lady so, someone might want to impress you with his discussion.I have not asked via a PM but I did start a discussion on getting zero responses and that was like "Please respond to my discussion!" kind of thing but I don't belive in givng PM to make people annoy!
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• Australia
15 May 09
Hi sanuanu, what is a Pushycan? Is it a can that you can push to open? And does a pu55ycat feel puffy? Well anyway, I don't think I'm popular. And if I were, I don't think that's a reason for anyone to be pushy on me. And if he tried to impress me, I'm sorry, I didn't buy that scheme. Maybe we do try to beg in many other ways, or indirectly but a PM can be a bit upfront. Don't you think?
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@sanuanu (11241)
• India
15 May 09
Oh, my mistake. Read the first line as: That is PushyCat not Pu ss ycat. Oh, well, I have got only one pm ilke that. The person was asking me to give response to his discussions. I have replied that set the notification on for me and I will be giving answers to his discussion.
• Australia
16 May 09
Oh, now that's more understandable. Well I just loved playing with words and tried to make the title catchy. Thank you for the response by the way! It's great that you did entertain the person. You're very friendly sanuanu. I have always noticed that! Keep it up!
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@modstar (9617)
• Philippines
14 May 09
I haven't received anything like that yet. Most messages i've received from someone unexpected were referral links asking me...no...BEGGING me to join them. My hands are full here in myLot so really can't join another site. Well just in case, i think i'll be glad to go to his/her discussion to respond. I mean, why not? That's what i've been looking for especially since lately, myLot is becoming a little boring. I really need that push. lol! Just my 2 cents, literally.
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• Australia
14 May 09
Nice echo of my words you did there,bud! Don't you just like the title of my post?
@modstar (9617)
• Philippines
14 May 09
Oh you're such a pushy! You pushycat doll! lol!
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• Australia
15 May 09
Isn't PUSHY your favorite food?
@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
14 May 09
I don't like pushy so, NOOOO, I wouldn't be pushy...not on purpose anyway. If I noticed you were absent for a lengthy period of time, I might send a PM asking if everything is OK. I ONLY want people responding to my discussions who want to respond. I NEVER want to feel that I had to force somebody to respond to my thoughts. If we were making millions here, I could see it....but for only pennies, NO I wouldn't try & force someone to respond!!! Actually, with me, it would backfire. Not only would I NOT respond to the discussion in question, but I would NEVER respond to another of their discussions!!!
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• Australia
15 May 09
I guess it's human nature to reject dictatorship in any form. If only that person who PM'd me said a simple thank you for being "added as a friend" I would have loved visiting his page and answering his posts, right? The request (pushy request actually ) definitely ruined my great plans for him/her.
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
15 May 09
His loss!!!
• Australia
15 May 09
Yeah, apparently!!
• Lubbock, Texas
15 May 09
They're out there on every site. Can't just be sociable, have to be the center of attention. When I get PM's like that they find themselves unfriended. If I have time, I go through all discussions started by my friends and respond to the ones that I have something to say. But just because someone's on my friends list doesn't mean my interests are exactly the same, and many times I'm not interested in or knowledgeable about their discussion. Someone who's here to be sociable and earn a few pennies doing it understands that. Someone who pushes and begs isn't making me want to respond to their discussions. I don't like people who get in my face and invade my space.
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• Australia
15 May 09
Same sentiments here. I can't believe that some people do try to beg although I don't over-judge them as REALLY pushy. I just don't think it is proper to ask when I barely even have interacted with them. That person was recently added.
@mysdianait (63942)
• Italy
14 May 09
Oh! It's been along time since we were both here together! I can actually answer while you are here too - I like that! I have never recieved a PM begging me to answer I have friends who know that if they have an older discussion with no responses they can send that and if I can relate to the topic then I will help them out but... asking for reponses on a new discussion, no that has never happened (and I hope it doesn't). I'm not pushy in any walk of life. I start a discussion and if it appeals to some then great and if not that's fine. We are all so different and can't expect everyone to be or even want to respond to everything we do. Does this pushy person respond to you or is it only a one-way thing on their part?
• Australia
14 May 09
Hi italian girl with a pretty bow!hehe...i appreciate you dropping by. It won't be such a problem if that person is a close myLot friend already.Exchanging favors comes natural with that set up but this person was a recently added one and I found it rather "fresh" when he or she asked me to do that.
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@mysdianait (63942)
• Italy
14 May 09
*sighs* now they'll all want to know what happened to the bow Yes indeed some of the new users are very forward, too much so for my liking. Does no-one teach manners these days?
• Australia
15 May 09
I shall bow to the invisible and invincible powers of your bow that only the two of us and ten thousand other geniuses all over the world alone can see! By the way, answering your question above, in fairness to the person, he/she was the first to respond to my post. After seeing him/her, I added him/her as a friend. After a while, I received a PM thanking me for adding him/her as a friend and went on asking/begging if can I please respond to all her discussions. Guess what? I didn't!
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
15 May 09
I've only ever had one PM asking me to answer discussions before and this was ages ago. Personally I don't consider myself to be a pushy person at all and I certainly wouldn't ever send messages to people asking them to respond to me! People need to understand that it takes time to develop relationships on mylot and to me, sending PM's like this smacks of desperation! If any new member wishes to get responses to their discussions, then be patient and make the effort with others and in time, others will make the effort in return. It's a simnple formila if you ask me!
• Australia
15 May 09
Oh yeah! The great Master definitely SMACKED it! And by the way Oh Great Pandaness, you don't have to PM people forcing, dictating, blackmailing, enticing, tempting, obliging them to respond to your discussions. It's pretty automatic, and .....hypnotic.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
15 May 09
Thanks for the BR Theresa! What you've just shared is spot on. In time you start to get a feel for what works and what doesn't and you develop friendships that will ensure a two-way street with discussions too. The worse thing someone can do is become impatient, not allow these areas to develop and then resort to begging for responses. How can we possibly react well to something like that?
• Australia
16 May 09
You are most welcome! You deserve it. Now, don't blush! I agree with you about the two-way street stuff. And so far, I haven't encountered anyone who got too impatient that he would terrorize everyone just to garner responses. I hope that doesn't happen, and that no one should tolerate it. Happy day to you Cairo guy!
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@arkansos (546)
• India
14 May 09
Well, never happened to me then again I am not as active on mylot as I should be...But I think its despo to push someone...atleast someone in particular to reply to my discussion. You post, someone answers...that's it you don't make someone reply to your discussions
• Australia
15 May 09
In fairness to the person, I guess he or she didn't intend to force me if I really didn't want to respond but then again, I found it unbecoming of him/her to ask me to reply to his discussions like I was asked to wash the dishes.
@arkansos (546)
• India
15 May 09
In that case I would say he isn't really desperate. Just thought of you as one of his friends. Probably you didn't feel the same way
• Australia
16 May 09
Like what others have said, it takes some time before a myLot friend wins the confidence of someone. It takes time to build relationships here especially and despite the fact that everything is virtual. It definitely didn't feel that much comfortable to me when he/she asked me to do that. He/She was RECENTLY added. I don't go asking people such favor unless it is someone I have built a certain level of camaraderie with. I am not actually making such big fuss. I am just explaining that I didn't feel comfortable about it. And I felt that it was a bit of a pushy gesture.
@Hatley (152118)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Sep 09
hi theresaaiza well to go on with that pushy cat I do'think that person might as well go to London to visit the Queen since'most honest mylotters are not going to be very thrilled to have have some mylotter begging you to answer their discussions. I feel that my discussion has to rise or fall on its own merits and I would be utterly embarrassed to go begging anyone to respond to my discussions. That is simply not the way to go. If you have a good discussion people will come, if you dont' people will not come. I mylot for many reasons,money is only one and its the frosting on my cake, as I like to mylot for friendship and sharing, for caring, for being part of the' mylot community,not just for money. I would never beg anyone' for anything,that is not my style at all.
• Australia
28 Sep 09
I really was surprised with the begging. I don't know why the person did that. All I know is I didn't buy it.
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
25 May 09
sometimes im annoyed when i see that my lot so called friends didn't even tried to answer my discussions but i won't beg to them to did it for me and for my earning. i can understand too maybe they just don't like my discussions and hate it. lol. no really i dont beg but i do tell them them though specially those friends that are i think become a true friend here in mylot to me.
• Australia
1 Sep 09
Sometimes when we get responses, it does have a way of boosting up our self-esteem like we're famous or something to some people! Haha. I do appreciate you both dropping by at my posts. I apologize however if I fail to respond right away.
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
16 May 09
I have not gone to the point of begging someone to reply to my discussions. I always leave it to anyone to respond or not. Some people may find our discussion interesting and some may not. Obviously each of us have different opinions and interest. So the decision is all up to the members. I have not also received any pm asking me to respond. I do however respond if I find the discussion interesting.
• Australia
16 May 09
Of course, we practice democracy here in myLot! Thank you for responding sir!
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
15 May 09
i can be pushy without me knowing but i don't beg with the word "please". i explain why it has to be my way. teachers have to be quite adept with this . however, begging to answer my mylot discussions? no way!
• Australia
15 May 09
I do believe we all beg in some ways but as much as possible we don't explicitly do it! Be proud to be a teacher, the future depends on you! hehehehe
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@hotsummer (10300)
• Philippines
15 May 09
i don't mind if they will give me a private message asking me to reply on his discussions. there is nothing wrong with it. but it does not i will actually reply if i am not interested on his discussions. i will check it out first if i don't get interested i will just ignore his message. there is no bad feeling if they keep insisting on it. i will keep ignoring their message. it is easy ignore it. it will not in any way disturb or make my activities here hard.
• Australia
15 May 09
Ignoring is the best way rather than ending up arguing with that person.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
15 May 09
I can't imagine begging someone to answer my discussions. I guess if I got no responses, I'd just try to find something a little more interesting to write about.
• Australia
15 May 09
That's right. Besides, we just can't please everyone so it's no surprise that some of our posts are really just not that bestselling! :-)
@GardenGerty (87614)
• Marion, Kansas
15 May 09
I have not had that particular request. I have had lots of people ask me to join something or another as their referral. I have had at least one person who asks for Best Response please with every post ( and they are not even good responses.)I would not be inclined to do anything for a pushy person. I am not pushy. My friends answer my posts if they can relate to them, otherwise they just pass them by. I do the same.
• Australia
15 May 09
Hehe...well that's what I am talking about! There ARE pushy people. That person who begged for BR was just front-act!
• United States
15 May 09
I haven't had this happen to me yet, hopefully I never will. The only thing that I have received was a request for a referral as soon as I accepted someones friendship. This might be the same person because around this time is when I started see others talking about someone asking them for a referral and friendship.
• Australia
15 May 09
I have been getting those equally annoying referral requests too. I declined almost all of them. Sorry
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
15 May 09
Hey Theresa! I think that your title is on the money! It is very cute! And as for someone begging you to answer their discussions? I have never heard of that before? I don't quite know what to say! Are they that badly in need of the earnings or do they just want your input? It sure isn't exactly within the mylot guidelines! But, I guess the decision is up to you!
• Australia
15 May 09
Definitely and my decision is: to respond only when I am interested!hehee
@savypat (20248)
• United States
14 May 09
I think if I start getting this type of pressure I'll bail out. Who needs it, I certainly don't for the little bit of money I earn here. I would rather just send them the amount of money that they think they can make from my response.
• Australia
15 May 09
Like a check worth two cents!
@MasonL (97)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 May 09
I'm not going to ask or beg any one to respond to my discussion, and I never experience any one begging for me to respond to their discussoin, but even though if some begs me to respond to their discussions I will respond only if their discussions interest me. If their discussions are not interested I just won't respond but I won't make what they did a big issue.
• Australia
15 May 09
Hi Mason, welcome to myLot but I hope I didn't create the impression that I was making a "big issue out of it" by making a discussion about it. I was just a bit surprised that someone actually gave me such PM. I found it rather unusual and well, pushy in a way. Again, welcome to myLot and hope you have a great time here! :-)
@mentalward (14716)
• United States
14 May 09
I'm not sure how I'd handle that. I respond to discussions that I find interesting or funny. There's no way possible to respond to some because they are about things I have no knowledge of or no opinion about. If the person begging told me why, such as they desperately needed a few extra dollars a month to make ends meet, I'd do what I could and respond to their discussions IF I had something to say. But, if they had just requested me on their friends list and send that PM, I dunno... I might take that as being awfully pushy. It hasn't happened to me so I honestly couldn't say how I'd react.
• Australia
15 May 09
Aside from that particular PM, I also get referral requests from several users which I honestly decline because all these Paid-to sites popping out here, there, and everywhere are really making my head swirl. I stick to the PT sites that I find interesting, like myLot. Thanks for the response. Belated Happy mom's day to you, wardy!
• Singapore
14 May 09
i never come across such thing before, i only respond to those i feel like responding, no matter who, i feel like responding their discussion, i will respond
• Australia
15 May 09
If you happen to come across the person, would you comply? In my case, I didn't. Hehe