husband or wife?

First off I would have to say neither. Being married its a partnership, therefore a wife and a husband Should be on the same playing field. Ok, traditonally back way before me... The wife would stay home and take care of the house and the children. The husband would go to work and pay the bills. In that situation the only differenence between the two are one get paid, the other is well overlooked. Why? A housewife, homemaker, what ever you want to call it does a lot of work that goes unnoticed. If you put it in money terms; a home maker cook hot meals (at least 2 times a day), does the dishes,cleans up after kids, and husband, does the laundry, helps children with homework, balance check book, etc., etc., and does not have a Day off. A homemaker is "on call" 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and there is not such thing as over time. How much would it cost to have a home maker? Would one salary or paycheck be able to cover all of the expenses of a home maker?Now living in the new age, both parent are forced to work. Do you think the jobs of the home maker is split equally between a couple? In most situations that I have personally seen. Nope.. It would be a joke to consider the subject.. So in a lot of case one is over loaded and the other is not. My point is, a relationship is between to people, not the opposite gender... Each person should be equally responsable, and each person should be equally appericated!

Yes!There is a boss in my family.It is my wife.I have allowed her to be.LOL!Cheers!Jokes apart,the couples should go hand in hand with the responsibilities and should allow other to take decisions in his field.Like,a house wife should decide about the health and budget of the family and the husband should decide outer affairs according to his exposure.Cheers!

Well in my situation I guess there is none. There are times in our married life that we need to make decision together and not depend on each others opinion about the issue. So I guess there is no real decision maker in our marriage. Decision are being made by us and if there is an argument in it we resolved it before executing our solution to a problem at hand. I guess ideally there should not be one party that should handle everything it should be a shared responsibility as there are things that a husband cannot resolve nor a wife can do. Each should support each other and whatever decision they had should be agreed upon mutually.

I never married, so I remain merry ... I'm my own boss here.

Well, in our family , each one considers himself/herself "The Boss". But, normally, whenever , major decisions are to be made eg, purch of house/car, it is a joint decision. And , I must admit, my daughter who is just 6 years old is smart enough to make us do what she wants..she will pout, cry or just sigh to such an effect that we feel guilty of not agreeing to her demands...so I think she is the BOSS. :-)

There are wives and husbands who stand side by side. Make decissions together. There is nothing worse than one just going out and buying a car and the other doesn't even like it. Or one buying a house for them both to live in, when the other doesn't like the house. Decissions like this are made together to ensure that both like the car or both like the house. But some marriages do work with one being the boss/decission maker. There are men who will allow the women to make the decissions in the family and there are women who allows the men to make all the decissions. So really it doesn't matter who should be boss, as long as the family life works well. I like to stand side by side by my husband's side. I would rather make decissions together. It is just to make sure that we are all happy with the final decission.

For me there's no boss in our family,it is a matter of respect.Our principle in building our family are love,respect and of course God will be the center of our relationship to maintain the love and respect.