I wish I knew how to help her

United States
May 17, 2009 9:41am CST
My daughter just turned 15 last wednsday. Friday she went back to live at her dads, we have to work everything out in court before she can come back here. we will get it worked out but she keeps calling me crying hysterically that she cant stand it there and she just cant do it. she has no choice. She wouldnt listen to me, wouldnt go to school. I'm too easy and not strict enough. It hurts me to hear her crying so much and I cant help her. I know that it is because she wants to see her boyfriend before he goes to foster care tommorow. I am glad that he is going. Today she is with her dad, he told her that he understands that she wants to see her boyfriend and get some more of her things and she started screaming at him. So I told her that he didnt desreve to be yelled at like that because he was saying I understand and Im sorry but I cant get you there right now. she ended up mad at me. I just want her to stop hurting.
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4 responses
@1boerseun (124)
• South Africa
12 Oct 09
You do the right thing by putting your foot down. If children are spoiled by giving in to all their whims, then they end up not being properly prepared for adulthood and that can be disastrous. It's better that you are strict on her now and let her learn that life is not pudding and pie when she is on her own. All the best!
• United States
17 May 09
If she wants to live there then I suggest you let her. The grass is always greener on the other side and she will come to love you more in the end.
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
17 May 09
Hardest job in the world, and it never ends. Trying to be a good parent, we sometimes don't know what to do. Our kids are master manipulaters, they know what buttons to push and how to push them. I remember being young (long long ago, hehe), its like the world is going to end. I remember how overwelming my first love was, now I look back and think, what the heck was I doing or thinking. Good luck with your daughter and helping her with her problems.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
17 May 09
I am sorry to hear that your daughter is not happy staying with her dad. Teenager of that age is normally quite rebellious and it is hard to control them as they are torn between a child and an adult. They have come to an age of confusion. They wouldn't like to be called small kid and neither are they qualified to be call an adult. Wrong administration would lead them into a wayward life. It is better to put her in a strict environment like in a convent where she has to follow strict rules and regulations and is guided by spiritual teachings. It will take few years to come back to normalcy. So do your best to prepare for her future. She might not realize that her action today bring lots of impact on her future.