how do you take criticisms?

@cainam (493)
Philippines
May 22, 2009 4:24am CST
it is really hard to take criticisms positively. most of the time i take criticisms from others somehow like being humiliated. it really depends on how that person criticized me. if its vulgar and tactless it hurts. thus, sometimes it is much better if it is not direct to the point.. but criticisms even if hurts sometimes are really helpful for me to improve my self.
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@Philbo (579)
• Canada
22 May 09
I got asked this question once in a job interview. I accepted the job and discovered that this was really an offer for verbal abuse and harassment. I try to take criticism constructively whatever the spirit it is delivered in but the wrong kind of criticism can be very stressful. I still work at this job and wish almost daily that I didn't have to. Someone who is very encouraging can give constructive criticism and still be appreciated. It is a valuable skill that anyone should learn not just bosses.
@Pigglies (9340)
• United States
23 May 09
Wow, that is crazy. I will watch out for that question. I take a lot of verbal abuse at work and I'm always annoyed by the double standard. I always seem to get in trouble if I dish it back out.
@pickoy (735)
• Philippines
23 May 09
It really depends on the people who are giving it coz there are two kinds of criticisms one can be constructive and the other destructive. There are people who don't know how to give honest criticisms coz they lack tact and respect, they don't deliver it in a proper way to help the other improve but only to pin him down. If criticisms given are unwarranted and absurd you'll definitely be hurt coz if you know yourself really well you'll know that what his saying has no basis and substance and at most invalid. Its constructive if you know that the person gives it coz he cares and he just want you to change something, a room for improvement... I love people who tell things honestly, specially my friends... I hate hypocrites, those who'll always agree that everything's okay when you know that there's something wrong they're just too coward to admit it... Some criticism can also hurt but I know if its given by the people that I love I gladly adhere to it coz I believe it won't hurt to try. I listen to this stuff if it came from people that I love and from those who care for me but I get irritated when I receive it from people who just love to ruin your day and from those who give it even though its unsolicited.
@loisvite (48)
• Philippines
23 May 09
At times I cried if it really hurts.. But I always look at the brighter side of it. I ask myself why I was criticized, and then I learned from it. It makes us change also for a better person.
• Philippines
23 May 09
Well, honestly I really hate criticism!!!!I mean i'm not a numb person so I know my lapses as a human being. I know that I have to improve more and be good to their eyes but hey it hurts a lot when someone make criticism and they whispered those to the other people and that people do the same so that kind of cycle continues and it give them bad impression that resulted to more and more criticism. It ruined us guys although there are some that really help you to improve more but we have to be sensitive over the feeling of the others.
@Pigglies (9340)
• United States
23 May 09
I don't mind constructive criticism. But generally, I find most people just want to yell at you instead of actually telling you something useful. If people give me something useful that I agree with, I'll try to change if possible. Some things I really can't change. Like when I'm struggling to read a passage at school and people tell me to practice reading more. No amount of practice will fix my reading abilities since it is my inability to see the words correctly that makes it difficult for me. In that case criticism just makes me sad that I cannot do something that most people seem to find very simple.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
23 May 09
Like you said...it is all in how it is delivered. If they are mean & tactless it really doesn't do much other than hurt. If it is meant to be helpful and delivered in a respectful way then I have no problem listening to it. We don't see ourselves as others do.
• Philippines
23 May 09
I always take criticism. I even thank those person who cretici me. cretisism is a way to make you or your idea perfect.
@modstar (9615)
• Philippines
23 May 09
Well there are criticisms that are just way off and kind of offensive. Those are the type of criticisms which i don't take lightly. It makes me on a defensive mode. I would reason out of course because it's not right anymore. Nobody has the right to criticize anybody without any basis. Though there are criticisms that are delivered fairly well. I think those are the constructive criticisms where we should take into consideration for our own good. Life is like a review, some don't approve of it. So we make use of it for improvement.
@amylan (191)
• France
23 May 09
Well the manners in which people do criticizing really matter alot but in my cases, wether I could take it positively totally depends on the personal relationship between that person and me. If it's somebody that I put trust in, i would really think seriously about the criticism and do some reflecting. Otherwise, I'm really easy to get pissed off no matter or constructive it could be.
@zhdy89 (304)
• China
22 May 09
I believe those who criticized me talent is real hope that I am a better person,they are the most valuable assets in my life.In fact ,I do have a few friends around,they will direct to the point that I could not simply I can not be avoided.Every time I do not know how to deal with,and finally to tears,but I still understand that they feel there is nothing wrong with that.When I need help,it just these friends give me a hand.Not usually meet with a smiley face,they only see your joke at one side.Of course,there is a person at all times no matter what the criticism of you,in your times of difficulty will be adding insult to injury,this person is not worth mentioning. To criticize you,hope you will be better,the people are truly worthy of you cherished friend.
@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
22 May 09
Sure you can learn from criticizem. But, then again I try not to criticize others. So, I don't like it when someone is criticizing me. If I need there help, I will ask. Until then, they should mind there own business. After all, no body is perfect, and especially one who criticizes. Take care.
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
22 May 09
There is nothing wrong with constructive criticism, in fact it can be very helpful. None of us like to be criticised, but we should try and take on board what has been said, as we are never too old to learn. When I criticise someone or something, I try to balance it by first saying something positive to sweeten the criticism when it comes. As in all things, if you think before you speak, what you say will be worth hearing. Good topic.