what do you think of a good hearted robber?

@victorywp (3526)
Malaysia
May 22, 2009 8:46am CST
my friend was robbed by a robber last week on her way to get her car in the basement of a shopping complex. the robber took her purse away. she begged the robber to return the photo (photo of her mother who had passed away) inside the purse while she could offered every other things to him. but the robber left straight after she handed her purse to him. it happened so fast & i am unable to help at the moment. she felt so down for the past few days until she received a mail from the robber in an envelope containing the photo, together with her identity card & driving license. i know that to rob a person is wrong, but do you think that at least this robber is a good hearted person?
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
22 May 09
Are you sure the mail was from the robber? Someone may have found her purse after the robber took all the cash, etc and thrown the purse away. It could have been just a person sending back her stuff. Then again what would a robber need with that. On the other hand I would now be worried that the robber has her address...
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
well i have never thought of that. maybe as you said, it was some other people who found it & posted back to her according to the address in her identity card. i'm worry too that the robber has her address, so this case still not closing...
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• United States
22 May 09
I would have to agree with jillmaltiz that there is a much greater likelihood that the purse was ditched by the robber and someone found the other things later and mailed them to her. If the robber wanted her address, he pretty much had it from the start, anyway, given that her driver's license was in the purse.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
23 May 09
hi astrosoccergirl! yes that's more logical to think that way. it's not the robber who is good hearted.:(
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• United States
22 May 09
i personally wouldn't feel comfortable the robber knows where i live. maybe he felt a bit guilty about it.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
that's what i think too. he might felt a bit quilty about it & returned the photo by mail. thanks for mentioning that it's dangerous that the robber knows where she lives. i will remind her to at least be careful of her in & out.
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@rexertea (117)
• India
22 May 09
Certainly robbers have become matured now a days.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
23 May 09
i thought this robber is 'newbie' instead of 'matured'? LOL!
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
22 May 09
I guess in away he is,he did not have to return anything.Robbing is wrong,but he did take notice of her plead.I think this means he is not a harden robber yet,and he stills has feelings of it being wrong.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
yes, i agree that he is 'new' in robbering things & his heart is still not harden yet. he still has the feelings of being wrong & returned to her what she needed while actually as a robber he did not have to.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
22 May 09
I had a similar experience a few years ago. My wallet was stolen, and a few weeks later it was returned by a post master, less the cash, but photos and credit and debit cards were in tact. I believe these kind of robers are desperate for cash, but realize and respect the owners the owner.
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• Canada
22 May 09
Oh wow! That's great that you got everything back minus the cash! Cash is easier though as it's untraceable! I have seen some cases (friends and family) where they haven't gotten anything back!
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
this kind of good hearted robber is not active in robbery. they might do it once a while when they desperate for cash. so i wonder whether it's the same robber? LOL! but you are lucky because you have your credit & debit cards back.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
22 May 09
I think "kind hearted" is a little flettering, as I don't believe anyone who takes something that doesn't belonging to them is kind hearted. AA kind hearted person is one who considers others!
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
22 May 09
No. A goodhearted person doesn't go around robbing people. This person at least appeared to feel guilty enough to send the woman back her photo and IDs. However, the fact that this person mailed the items back just reinforces that he knows where she lives and can rob her again.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
your points seem true also. i really worry for her now & i hope that he will not rob her again...
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
23 May 09
She should change all the locks on her doors because more than likely her keys were in her purse as well when it was stolen.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
23 May 09
thanks, i will remind her to change all her locks... or to move to other place...:D
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
22 May 09
Interesting. Robbing people is wrong. But times are tough and some people are turning to crime to get by. It's wrong but I also understand just a bit. My thinking is that maybe this fella feels guilt over what he feels he MUST do. And your friends story may just have pushed the guilt even higher. It's good that he feels that. Maybe it'll help him pick a better path in life.
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• United States
23 May 09
Are you really justifying robbing another person because of the economy? That's not even spiritually correct in most faiths. So, he felt guilty, he should have turned himself in and done the time for the crime. There is never an excuse to rob a person. Namaste-Anora
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
23 May 09
You know what I find interesting? In 8 pages of responses, some of which say basically what I did, it is only mine you take issue with. Interesting. Now having pointed that out I will answer you, that I never said that I justify his robbing because of the economy. I said HE might. "feels he MUST do" is what I said. I also stated I understand the thinking... because you may have taken that wrong I will try to explain - some times people get desperate when things are rough. Some times they do dumb things because they don't know another way. While it is wrong and they know it, it may just be all they could think of. I understand desperation. I'm surprised that you don't. I would be surprised to hear anyone say they have never know a moment that they weren't desperate for something. I've been desperate to help my kids through their pain, desperate to figure out how to make that last bill when there is no income in the near future. Yes, I didn't pick a life of crime but I understand how some come to that path. Now.... Be Well.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
23 May 09
hi tlchimes! i understand what you mean with your points. there are always negative thoughts coming when we were in time of desperation. i like when you said that the robber felt his guilt & might help him to pick a better path in life. sometimes what we say might change the way certain people think or act. don't worry, i think anora_eldorath is not against you or something. she might have came across your profile & saw your latest responses, so just adding her thoughts on your response in this discussion.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
23 May 09
Wow, what a thought, a good hearted robber. It is like kidnapping a person and giving good meal to him. Can he be called a good kidnaper, no because he is asking money as ransom money. Don't get me wrong but I am against people who says that if a thief has returned something which was special to us and nothing to him, he is a good hearted person. A thief is a thief. If s/he got caught by police, s/he will still get a jail, don't they? Everyone tries to make his point on whatever they do. I have once stolen one video game from my cousion but the next day I returned it by saying that I found it in the garden. Although, I did a right thing but still I commited two crimes: 1. Stealing 2. Lying.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
i think that he is just hoping to get a lighter sentence if he get caught for that offense one day. maybe he just wished that my friend would speak on his behalf.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
31 May 09
Can he speak on behalf of the thief, I have doubts. Well, you have done a fantastic job, congratulations on getting 100+ response and the good thing is that you are commenting each and every one of them! Good job, dude!
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
31 May 09
hi sanuanu. i have not completed replying all the comments. i'm still working towards it. thanks for your encouragement.:)
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
23 May 09
Hmm, sometimes there are good people being backed into a corner because of some factor or other. Perhaps the robber was really just in need of finances that he had to resort to such acts. Sure, doing them would still be a crime even if the intentions were good but at least this time, the robber had enough conscience to give back what his victim asked of him. Also, I think those items would be of no use to him so maybe to appease his conscience a bit, he sent those items back. At least there are actual instances proving that not all criminals are evil.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 09
yes, not all criminals are evil, some did it out of desperation factors or others. but of course this should not be an excuse to be a criminal.
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
I agree, a crime is a crime no matter how much it is justified.
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• Canada
22 May 09
One lesson I have learned in this world is that not all people that do bad things are bad, and not all people that do good things are good! Maybe this robber was desperate for the cash and felt they had no other way to get it, but the guilt ate them alive afterwards. My only concern would be that the robber now knows where your friend lives. The robber's dna and fingerprints would more then likely be all over the stuff the robber sent back too, so if taken to the Police your friend may get an arrest made against this robber.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
hi purpleteddybear. but the robber might have wore gloves & the envelope also have fingerprints of the postman or postmen. furthermore, the mail might not be posted by the robber himself. it might have been posted by a real good person who found it thrown at roadside?
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• Canada
24 May 09
Good point! That very well could be!
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@venshida (4837)
• United States
22 Jun 09
A robber with a having a good heart. It sound like the robber may have a conscience after all. I give him credit for returning the victim possessions.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
hi venshida! how are you today? for me, i also give him credit for returning my friend's one & only photo. at least that's something he did that people would appreciate.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Jun 09
Not everybody who does bad things is totally evil. Most robbers would have just thrown those things away. So this robber at least has a soft spot.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
hi dawnald! i believe you must have forgotten that you have responded to this discussion. LOL! sorry for taking such a long time to reply to you. yes, at least this robber is not that bad.:D
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@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I think that robber is really in need of money but still have conscience to give back the things that are important for her, but I don't agree that he has a good heart because what he did was not good at all.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
thanks, becdmd! i understand your points. it is better to say that he has a conscience rather than he has a good heart. have a nice day!
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@midautumn (219)
• China
17 Jun 09
most of the robbers just need money.they robber for a good living. but they are good man in innermost.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
really? i thought that most of the robbers are bad except for certain ones like this?
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@halynn (1809)
• United States
13 Jun 09
While it is not okay to rob someone I think that it was nice of him to return her personal belongings. Maybe the robber was down on his luck as MANY MANY other americans are & decided to deal w/it that way. It is sad that he robbed her i'm not condoning that, but maybe was the only other option he felt he had. @ least he didn't hurt her thats the imp thing.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
yes, the most important thing is the health of a person. at least he did not hurt or my friend in any way. that's a good relieve..
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@emandi (102)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
I think it must be hard to say if anyone, thief or not, is good-hearted. But in the situation you talked about, he probably returned it because those things--IDs, driver's license, and a photo--really are of no use to anyone except the person they belong to. I'm sorry your friend lost her bag, but I'm also glad that she was able to keep her real valuables.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
thanks for your concern. that's also what my friend concerns the most - the photo. she is so happy to receive it back. yes the things are of no use to others but i guess there are people or underground organizations who are willing to pay a price to buy people's identities.
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@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
9 Jun 09
i dont know .maybe he should have left a returned address so that they could arest him.if he would have ask her for money i am sure she would have gave it to him. just out right wrong to do that to the girl.if he did not return her money i would say he is not as kind hearted as you may thing.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
here in my country there are too many unemployed asking for money all around, especially in food courts. i don't think that people here are going to offer any to them unless for those who are handicapped. that's the reason that they turned out to be robber.:(
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@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
Wow...impossible to believe but if there's a robber out there like him I think he is not really that bad. Maybe it's his first time to rob that's why he was eaten by guilt of what he has done.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
i believe so too. but im more impressed with the story mentioned by the responder above you. it's just WOW! :D
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@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
Hello victory I think that there are some good hearted robbers , maybe they were not criminals by instinct but their situations made them , some are so poor , some feels unfairness from others .. Here in Jordan something really strange occurred , a robber was watching a house to steal it , he found that there are man and a woman come regularly to the house with some one else , they both leave and the third person doesn't , after few days of watching the house he became suspicious " where are all those people go to , and why they stay at the house " , he called a local radio station and told them the story , and he told them to tell the police because he cant as they will arrest him, this happened at the live hour for that radio station , the police headed for that house and when they entered they found dozens of bodies stored at refrigerators and their organs have been removed .. the police arrested the man and the woman who were managing that house , and it appeared that they were a part of Organ Trading mafia .. so this robber had made a favor for the country that would never be forgotten
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
is that for real? anyway, that's truly a good true story to be known. the robber indeed did a great favour for the whole country of jordan! thanks for sharing!
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@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
23 May 09
I have read a few of the responses before submitting my own and a few of you said she should be worried that the robber now knows her address (since mailing her items back to her). Well here's a news flash: EVERY robber who takes anyone's purse, wallet, etc that has identifying information in it has that person's address! In that respect she is no worse off than any other robbery victim so I don't think she needs to walk around fearful because of this fact. Having said that, most robbers want the money and valuables and have no interest in the other stuff. I personally have found a few purses that had been tossed aside with ID, pictures, keys, etc still in the purse. I have never found one with money in it. When I do find these I take them to the police so they can return these items to the person. In this case either one of two things happened. Either the robber or someone close to him had enough heart to return the items (which is probably the case especially if the picture was not damaged in any way) or someone found the items and put them in the mail. Either way, she was very blessed to have this happen even in the face of the actual robbery.
@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
with that kind of way that the robber robbed my friend, i don't think that he would be planning to rob my friend's house with the address. that's a lot more difficult to get away if he rob a house compared to robbing at open places. i see that the robber is a person who just desperately needed for some cash & definitely not a person who has a detail plan for a robbery.
• United States
23 May 09
That really is an incredible story I can't imagine what was going true his head when he was robbing your friend. I am not excuising that person for the action that he did with your friend but we really don't know what made him do that. We also do not know if he or she has a family and maybe he got desperate to get money for them. Or he is a bum that wanted money for a fix. It might have got to him that he had or has a family and he would have known what something special like a picture is really worth more than all the money you may have in your wallet or purse. So yes I do think he or she has a heart we all do and there are just a fue people that really don't care about the reast of us. :)
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 09
that's really a possible thing to had happened. thanks for your sharing your thoughts. :)