Why is it OK for a woman to yell at her husband, but not OK if he yells?

United States
May 26, 2009 12:45pm CST
Have you ever seen those reality shows where the wife is always badgering and yelling at the husband? Or, she's really nitpicky. And, that's considered normal behavior. He's just expected to sit there and take it like a man. But if he yells at her or is the least bit critical, then people get all mad and say that he's an abuser. Same thing in real life. Often men are held to a higher standard of behavior and seen as abusers if they raise their voice. Emotional outbursts are not tolerated. Why is it OK for a woman to be argumentative and yell and say nasty things at her spouse, but not OK for a man to do the same?