Do you think teens should take parenting classes in school?

@mommaj (23112)
United States
June 1, 2009 12:47pm CST
Do you think teens should take parenting classes in school? I wonder if it would help the teen pregnancy numbers go down or at least make teens that are having children more aware of what to expect. I remember when I was in high school we actually had child development classes as well as "health class" in pe. The health class was more a biological aspect of where children came from. I wonder if the child development classes are still offered and whether the classes deter pregnancy or help teen mothers in any way. When you were in high school what was your curriculum like as far as parenting?
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• United States
2 Jun 09
We had a child developement class in high school. It taught basic care of babies and information on pregnancy. One interesting aspect was that you actually had to take a mechanical baby home for the weekend. It was interesting because it really responded and did all of the things a normal infant would do. It was programed to cry and you had to go through all of the steps to find the reasons. I personally liked doing it, but we had one guy who failed because he locked the baby in the shed all weekend. It wasn't a required class though. A lot of people took it because it counted as a home econ. credit. We also had a parenting program for the pregnant girls. The school gave them pretty much all the resources and help they needed. It was nice that they did this because the girls really finished school and most went on to college also.
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• United States
3 Jun 09
congrats to those girls... i think more high schools should take on that program.. my best friend had a babyu our 9th grade year, she had the baby finished high school and went to college she is now a chef, and she raised the baby. whole she was in school her parents babysat but she was totally responsible for everything with that baby. she did marry the baby's father and they are still together and we graduated high school in 1996. i give her a lot of credit to.. i was with her almost every step of the way so i kind of got the parenting skills along with her. i tell ya it stopped me from haveing babies when i was in high school.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Wow! That must have been a wonderful highschool to help the pregnant teens finish school and concentrate on college. I think more schools should be doing that. Of course if the high schools showed teens what a responsibility parenting is maybe teens would be deterred.
• United States
2 Jun 09
I have often thought that teens should take a field trip to an inner city hospital and sit in the room of a teen going through labor. Now if that doesn't teach some reality lessons, I don't know what would. Most of the ideas about pregnancy and delivery shown in the movies and on TV are so far from reality that it doesn't even come close. I remember thinking how a man would be so excited about his wife having a baby and how much attention the woman would get through that time. Even in the best of situations, this is just a plain fairy tale. There was no curriculum in high school related to parenting when I was in school. I learned to take care of children from watching my mother and taking care of siblings. I knew I did not want to bring any children into the world that did not have a daddy. That served me well when dating to keep my focused on something more than a roll in the sack.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
2 Jun 09
This is so true. I think that's a wonderful idea about the field trip. Kids should have to learn what it's all about instead of seeing the stuff on tv that glorifies it. There isn't anything romantic about pushing a watermelon through a garden hose, losing blood, and then trying to walk. Teens only see the "fun" in having a child until they actually have one.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
1 Jun 09
yes, definitely. a lot of kids think that babies are so cute (which they are) but its a very different picture that is presented at 3 in the morning when baby wont sleep! i remember watching a baby show on TLC. the mother said she hoped she could get to sleep through the night (this was on the first night!) a lot of these new parents have NO clue!
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
1 Jun 09
HAHAHA. That's funny - sleeping through the first night. If the child doesn't keep you awake your own fright will. LOL At least with the first child. I'm still waiting for my second child to sleep through the night. He's four and because he's autistic his sleep patterns are a little different. So I wait until I sleep through the night again.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
1 Jun 09
When I was in high school, we didnt get offered parenting classes. I wish we did, I would have loved to take it just to have more experience. I myself became a mom at 17, just 2 months before turning 18. It was hard but I managed with very little help from my mom and dad. Not because they were mad at me but because I told them this is my fault I need to take responsiblity not you. They help when they can but that's not very often. I am now 23 pregnant with baby #3. I wouldnt wish anybody to get pregnant as a teenage. Finish highschool try to have a good job and know what to expect. I had alot of experience as I babysat my whole life since I was 10 years old. I do hope that every school starts offering parenting classes. I think that it would educate a bunch of young teens.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
1 Jun 09
You were very responsible for taking care of yourself and the baby at 17. I think you give good advice of finishing high school and try to have a good job and know a little about what to expect. So many parents are overwhelmed with being parents and they have graduated high school and are in high paying jobs. If adults have a hard time coping, you know it's got to be rough on a teen who is still trying to go out and do their thing. Instead of you doing what you want you have to do for your baby. Congrats on your third. I hope it is a happy experience.
@Belle109 (23)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
yes, youth nowadays enter into family life at a very early age. they should know how it is to become parents. they must be equipped with knowledge and skills on entering the stage of parenthood. one good and conducive way to educate the youth is to offer parenting classes in school. we all know that family is the basic foundation of our society and the success of every family lies on the hands of the parents. aside from parenting classes, reproductive health classes should also be offered.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I believe that not only should the parenting classes be offered but they be mandatory. There are too many parents who wish they would have had a class for parenting. I know in our high school it was offered but not mandatory. This made the class a little more interesting because only the kids that wanted to be there were in the class. Unfortunately, the kids that needed the class didn't take it. I think parenting classes are just as important if not moreso than the secks ed. Both should be taught at older ages. I don't like the fact that so many schools are trying to teach these lessons at an early age.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
1 Jun 09
In my high school they had a family course class. It had all kinds of lessons involving cooking, sewing, cleaning, and parenting. They had a whole month dedicated to parenting. And during one week starting on monday they would pass out this electronic baby dolls. Then take them away friday. The way it would work is the doll worked on a timer crying at diffent times throughout the day and night. Never the same times or never the same amounts. One night it could keep you up all night while the next not cry any. I made a 100. And it does grade you. The way it worked if you didn't get to the doll fast enough and stick the key in its back then it would deduct a point or more. Also it wasn't that simple. You had to put the key in twist it and hold it to the doll made a burp. Then if you didn't get the key out afterwards it would start crying again and that would cause more points. Still though I dont think it was enough to convince students how much of a responsibility children are. Most students made a joke out of the course. Some would laugh at it. Some thought it was cute and fun. I think there should be something more convincing.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
1 Jun 09
The doll sounds like a really good idea. Teenagers being teenagers are going to make fun of anything that is serious. Most of them are just immature. I am glad this was a highschool course that was available to all. It's good to know that the knowledge was available if any of the teenagers took the opportunity to learn from it.
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
2 Jun 09
hi mommaj, I do not know about the classes today in schools. We had one class in school about childrens care...(I am 43). But that was all we had. I would actually consider that children in school do have classes about parenting. Becouse there is so many things and issues that you are not aware of when having children. what you do not know you can not do without mistakes. And I think we as parents have done many mistakes that we really could have been without. If there was classes, perhaps there would be less teens with children. You cannot parenting a child as a child yourself.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I say you SHOULDN'T parent a child as a child yourself. If you have to, I think there should be courses to help you. If you are responsible enough to want to care for a child you are responsible enough to learn how. I was 28 when I had my first child. I had tried earlier and had a miscarriage so it just wasn't my turn I guess. My first child was wanted and treasured more than anyone can imagine. She was with me 24/7. She goes to school now but those years are treasured. I think it makes a difference when you want a baby compared to getting pregnant by accident, regardless of age. I love my son just as much but there is something treasured about the first that you don't have with a second.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Jun 09
When I was in school...30 years ago....we had child care and child development classes. There still are those classes. My girls have all taken them as well as a course on babysitting. Does it deter teen pregnancy? I really don't know but any education certainly can't hurt.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I'm glad you shared your info. It's good to know that kids are taking those classes and even better to know that the classes are offered.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Absolutely! I think their parents should take parenting classes as well. Often when a parent comes to school to pick up their kid you end up feeling sorry for the poor kid who you realize is doing the best s/he can under the circumstances.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I agree with you on that. I have to admit I would probably visit the class more if I thought it would help my daughter. This year, I learned that if I come to school she expects it. I feel so loved because she wants me there. I know that will change so I am enjoying it now. In fact, I just had lunch with her. I see these kids that need so much direction. I don't believe they are bad but I think they need to be focused and they need some direction in getting focused. This one little boy is so hyper I swear he has some sort of problem. I feel bad for him. No one takes the time to help him.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Multiply that little boy by 5 and you will understand the challenge of teaching today in some communities. I swear my class is reserved for those special challenges that just can't make it in the other enrichment classes. I guess I should see it as a compliment but it just leaves me so exhausted some days.
• Singapore
2 Jun 09
When i was in high school.there was no such parenting classes were there in our curriculum.but we had a moral science class where they mention all about living in a right manner
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
2 Jun 09
We had the choice of parenting classes and going into the schools today I wonder if these kids have it. I see all these elementary kids wearing clothes I wouldn't wear being married. I don't know what the parents are thinking. Okay, actually some of the stuff you can't help but buy because that is the only choice you have besides t-shirts. Although, tee shirts would be better than some of this stuff. I think parenting classes would help kids even in adult hood.