Any relationship can be normal?

@bamakelly (5194)
United States
June 3, 2009 10:38am CST
I realize that there is controversy these days over homosexual relationships and the fact that gay marriages are becoming legalized. This is a subject that has been up for some argument for some time now. I am just trying to lead into the idea of the fact that relationships can all be normal as long as there is love and respect involved. I am a heterosexual woman and have not always had a great relationship. That is just what happens. Sometimes homosexual relationships don't work out either. I just believe that if there is mutual respect in any relationship then it can work out. Life is about diversity. There are biracial relationships, of course. It is not for me to judge. Nothing looks out of place to me where there is two people that are mature and can handle their lives accordingly. Do you have an opinion on this? I would welcome a mature point of view.
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
any relationship can be normal, as any condition can be also be workable, as long as it is worked hard for and treated with love and respect. however, as with anything that is worked hard for and treated with love and repect, it is others' points of view and treatment that would be the ultimate test of whether all that had been sacrificed and taken cared of would stand the test.
@soulist (2986)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I think everyone should have the right to be in love and be married to the person they love. I mean like you said all relationships thrive on love, respect, honesty. I haven't had the greatest of relationships as a straight woman. I mean there will always be relationships that aren't great heterosexual or homosexual. A relationship is two people coming together with love and respect for each other. I don't think there is anything wrong with any relationship no matter who it is between.
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• United States
3 Jun 09
However, we have expectations in a relationship. Is it ok to expect one for the rest of our life?
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@MisterPlus (1917)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
To have a relationship was so difficult to me before. But I realized that having a relationship is a great deal feeling and sharing. I had so many relationships in the past. Nothing had lasts. I am looking for a new relationship to cherish again this time. I have always took care of my relationships. I believe that whatever or whoever you are with you have to be caring and loving and understanding in many ways to keep the relationship going. Who might know it be your last or the only one for you.
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@se7enthbird (8327)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
i dont want to be judgemental. i have relatives who are gay and lesbians and i see them in a relationship and they are happy. its not easy to survive in this cruel world if you are alone. you need someone somehow to be with you in hardtimes and push you up when you are down. i can see them happy. i dont want to judge anything and be the one to say what is normal and what is not. we have our own lives to live and own problems to deal with. as long as they are not hurting anyone then i think its okay. like i said it is hard to be judgemental.
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@winterose (39917)
• Canada
3 Jun 09
my feelings are the same as you on this matter. If two people love each other and are in a committed relationship then I feel that it is nobody's business who they are, live and let live.
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@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
3 Jun 09
As a woman married to a great guy, I say to each their own. It took me long enough to find my guy. And in the process kissed alot of frogs. It's hard enough to find someone to love that loves you back, along with ll that goes with it, support,believing in you etc. Regardless, of the circumstance, when you do get lucky enough to find it, I say go for it.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
hello.i agree that love and respect should be involved in a relationship, but i don't think that any relationship can be normal...because not all relationship is right and normal. not just in the issue of homosexuals but let say a married man having a relationship with another married girl or even single lady, they say that they love and respect each other, do you think just because they have that love & respect their relationship can be treated as normal? of course not...
@savypat (20246)
• United States
4 Jun 09
I think the government should stay out of personal relationships. Who people are and how they love each other is nobody's business but theirs and the people involved, like children.
@justmeh (189)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
Nope of course not all relationships are normal. especially the thing of having intimate relationship with homosexual. No offense meant but my point is that having such commitment towards those are still not that acceptable in the society. We know that with just having PDA will let the people feel kinda awkward so better yet to stay away from those kind of relationships to also avoid the rumors of people...PEACE to all!!!!
@mrbluey (36)
• Singapore
4 Jun 09
Homosexuals are commonly misunderstood. They are often condemned for having 'relationships against the order of Nature', and charges of the sort - by common people. To top it all off, even many Christians are using words from the Bible, particularly the chapter of Leviticus, where the Holiness Codes of centuries ago appear. By the way, a Holiness Code is something appropriate for a particular time and culture. Know why I say this? Well, for one thing, in Leviticus, playing with pigskins is prohibited. Why not take that and fight it, then, if you're trying to be fair and good? Why not ban football? (that's effectively what it would be) Now, simply because this age-old and abandoned code appears in the Bible, people are using it to fight against the rights and moral acceptability of homosexuals. Yes, in short, I believe relationships exist, totally acceptable (at least in relation to the people involved) if they have no conflicting beliefs, and do not play a negative role in the lives of others. (When I say this, I mean it in terms of morality and the integrity and general good of life. If a 'normal' relationship was opposed by someone or a group of people, would that relationship be having a negative effect on those people? Of course not. The point here is, people who oppose homosexuals have had no true and honest case against them.) It is no right of anyone to push their beliefs on others. (That's not saying that Christians who quote Leviticus and use the Bible to condemn homosexuals are wrong in this way - because what I meant about that was already clarified in the previous paragraph. They're just wrong about their reasoning; the issue about rights does not encompass this matter.)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
for me ,that any relationship can not be a normal because that is very bad some of girls or boys are easy to have a relations of others. for me ,im not okey i hate that kind of people who have a relations even they will getting married already. and its depends that what other relations here it mean ?
@missybear (11395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
it doesn't matter to me, "homosexual, heterosexual or whatever you are". It's about being happy together. As long as you get along and enjoy life. I don't know why some people have to get involved, it's none of there business. That's how I feel.