I just saw my ex on Facebook.

United States
June 8, 2009 12:20pm CST
What's weird is he is friends with someone my husband is friends with too, so they have a friend in common. I was curious so I went and looked at his profile, and I see that he now has 2 kids. He's not married yet though. His status says he's engaged. What a strange feeling to see his profile after so many years, and see that he has kids now, and is engaged. I can't really explain what sort of feeling it is, just a weird one. I'm not jealous or anything, I guess I just feel sort of nervous. I don't know why, it's not like he knows I'm looking at his profile, but that's the only way I can describe this feeling. Have you run across an ex on Facebook or a social network? How did it make you feel?
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@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 09
I have not because I have not have a girlfriend. So, I do not have ex. Anyway, I am doing my very best to have meet someone special.
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• United States
8 Jun 09
I've found a few people I've had crushes on and I guess I can kinda say I know how you are feeling. You thank heavens they don't know that you were looking, even just to see how their lives have turned out w/o you in them ya know? Or if they look the same ect...
• United States
8 Jun 09
It's making me wonder though, has he been looking at my page at all... so then I had to look at my page to see if there's anything I'd consider embarassing, because I'd been doing stuff on there not thinking anyone but my friends would ever see it. Sure enough, there's a pic from Christmas that makes me look fat! Maybe he doesn't care as much as I do and maybe he hasn't looked... hopefully!
• United States
8 Jun 09
Yeah, especially if you have a classmates account (free) they do that "look who's been looking @ your page" and tell you so many people have looked ect to tempt you into buying a membership those lil things make me wonder too but not enough to pay for it ;0) I'm on FB under my married name so most of the people I used to know before my hubby probably wouldn't be able to find me other than if I was friends with someone else in my premarriage life.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Jun 09
Found an exes wife on Multiply. It felt quite weird, but at the same time it was kind of nice to see what was going on in his life and all that. For about 30 seconds. lol
• United States
8 Jun 09
Yeah, I went and checked out the fiance's page too, just briefly. Mostly I wanted to see a pic of the kids.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Jun 09
Not nearly as good looking as yours naturally.
• United States
8 Jun 09
Well, I had this burning desire to know what his daughter would look like. He got me pregnant when we were together, and I had it in my head the child would be a girl. I could see her face in my mind, and in my head her name was Jessie, even though I'd never choose that as a name for my child. I wanted to see if his daughter looked anything like the one I imagine, and she sort of does. Needless to say I didn't have that child. (It's all in my blog...)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I have never tried looking for any of my ex-boyfriends in the past at Facebook. I wouldn't be interested in any way as I have ended the relationship between us, thats it though I have one ex-boyfriend 9 years ago and we are good friends until right now. My current bf is always checking my Facebook. If ever my other ex-boyfriends will look at me on Facebook, I will surely tell to myself "I pity the woman who is your gf or wife now..." I think its good that you didn't ended up with your ex-bf as he is totally weird and seems to be irresponsible.
• United States
11 Jun 09
He's not weird and irresponsible, what gives you that impression?
@sahm35 (891)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I have seen one of my old boyfriends on facebook. It freaked me out. We finally talked. I text him quite regularly now. But I just recently called my hubby by my ex boyfriend's name so now I plan to cut all ties with him! I feel awful!
@Jezebella (1447)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I do have an ex on my friends list for my facebook page and it is so weird. Its weird to see pictures of him with his new girlfriend who is WAAAAY older than me and from others have said somewhat uglier than I am. It is weird to see his profile and stuff even though I am dating someone new as well.
• United States
8 Jun 09
I am married myself... been with my husband since about 6 months after I broke up with that ex. So even though I've been married for 6 years, with my hubby for 8, and we're raising 5 kids together, I still feel weird about seeing my ex.
• United States
8 Jun 09
But I won't add him as a friend though! I might accept it if he requested me as a friend, but I will not add him, no sir!
@jillhill (37357)
• United States
8 Jun 09
My ex husbands new finance signed up to be my friend on facebook..and I accepted but not without thinking about if for a few days...I don't go on facebook that much so figured it wouldn't do any harm...but it did give me an odd sensation!
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I haven't so far. Ofcourse i really don't have many ex's. And the ones I do have I would be surprised if they had internet or used it. There is one ex i wish i could find. i'm in charge of getting everyone's address for out class reunion and i haven't been able to find him. He just joined classmates.com but in order to see any information i have to be a paid member. I would pay but i'm afraid that if i paid i still wouldn't be able to see the information i need to get a hold of him.
• United States
8 Jun 09
Other than my husband, I had 1 relationship which lasted over 6 months, and he's the one I'm speaking of now. We were together a bit over a year, and we lived together. It wasn't a good relationship, but oddly enough there's still part of me that thinks about him now and then and wonders where he is and what he's doing. Now I know.
@1grnthmb (2063)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I have not found any of my ex girl friends on Facebook but I have found some of my old high school friends that I have not been in contact with for 35 years. I actually6 went mind running across some of my old girl friends because. all but one of them, remained friends latter on. And even the one that we did not remain friends with I would still like to know what has happened in her life.
@ckyera (17223)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
yes, i understand how you feel coz i also felt that way when i saw my ex (actually we just have a very short relationship)..i know that weird, strange feeling that you're talking about and when i saw on his profile that he is already married, i get curious on who is that girl that he marries, what he's doing now...things like that...and while reading his profile i'm sweating and my heart is beating faster...don't know the feeling...the past just flash back on my memories but that's just happen on the first time i saw him on that social site, the second time...no more curiosity, no more sweating...just normal.
• Czech Republic
9 Jun 09
I dont have an ex :s i am still single, why? im too busy with learning for my schoolstudy also i dont have facebook, but i will make an account soon :P greetzz
@jules67 (2791)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
I haven't been into your situation. But I guess in your case, an old feeling has been rekindled. You are maybe excited seeing him after long years. It would be nice just to say hi and be friends.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
well, i have that same feelings too when i am looking at an ex profile on a networking site. it feels weird but definitely its not affection or jealousy. Its like you know that person somehow has become a part of your life at some point and now your looking at him like his a stranger from somewhere very distant. guess thats life.. and its part of relationships. its just passing..after you close his page, yo instantly forget about it!
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
well, i have that same feelings too when i am looking at an ex profile on a networking site. it feels weird but definitely its not affection or jealousy. Its like you know that person somehow has become a part of your life at some point and now your looking at him like his a stranger from somewhere very distant. guess thats life.. and its part of relationships. its just passing..after you close his page, yo instantly forget about it!
@DrRac0 (126)
• United States
9 Jun 09
weird small world
• United States
9 Jun 09
I see my exs occasionally and the thing is I never have a weird feeling and a lot of times I'm happy to see them finally with someone else and getting their lives on track. For the most part I don't go searching for them on network sites. Most of the time its them contacting me or running into them at the store etc. For the most part I feel like its best just to leave exs alone because it can bring up jealously and it might also start making your partner feel weird about it as well.