do u like it?

@shibham (17025)
India
June 15, 2009 3:31am CST
do u like it when people ask about your payout in the job u are? my fathar says that never ask a person about his age, salary and caste. it can make a person uncomfortable in some situations. so i never ask anyone about these. if someone ask about my salary, then i hesitate to say. usualy i avoid those persons who frequently asks about someone's salary. what about u? can u endure those persons? please share.
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@aikhong (664)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 09
Ya, it's true that asking a person about his salary will make him or her feel some sort of uncomfortable. I personally do not like this either, when someone asks about my salary, i'll just try to avoid that question, or if he insists to know that i'll just give him a rough figure. Just wondering also, is that knowing others' salary can help? or is there anything the person can get by knowing others' salary. Some people even like to make comparison between someone's salary and someone else. Ths even makes me feel irritated when he or she asks this question. So, i think the best way would be just try to talk about other topic to skip that silly question,haha.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Jun 09
hi there. there are some persons who often compare their salaries with others and find themselves either envious or satisfied. i think it should not be considered as human behaviour. thanks for response.
@flaky03 (225)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
Yes. I agree that sometimes i feel uncomfortable when someone asks me regarding our pay or salary and the type of job we have. Its just that we tend to think what will they say or they would look more onto it like how did we get that, he it is suffice to support our basic needs like our bills and expenses, he we are happy or contente and worst is comparing it with others.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Jun 09
hi there, i agree with your comments. thanks for sharing it with it me. take care.
@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
15 Jun 09
No,I don't like it because those who ask these questions and love to compare salaries want to know if they earn less or more than you.If they earn more, they are proud of themselves and sometimes become arrogant, if they earn less, they envy your success.My salary is my own business.I'm trying to avoid people who keep asking questions about my personal life, beliefs or salary.
@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Jun 09
yes there. that should be better. i also try to avoid the companionship of those person who often ask about someone's earnings. thanks for your response.
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
15 Jun 09
Hi, You have a point here. Many people do not like to be asked of their salary particularly those who pretend to be in high profile job but do not get that much pay out feel embarrassed when asked about their salary. Similarly people hate when they are asked about their age and caste. Particularly caste is a sensitive issue. I ask about salary only them who are well aquatinted and close or else I do not ask at all.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Jun 09
hi boss, i think your thought about this matter is positive. anyway thanks for response.
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
15 Jun 09
I won't and I don't like it when people ask about my pay in the job and I will never ask anyone else about theirs. Just like what your dad says it will make a person uncomfortable if let say he/she is getting lesser payout than you.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Jun 09
yes dear friend. this is the main cause that i respect my father heartly bcoz whatever he says, it is proved right by me. thanks for response.
@med889 (5958)
15 Jun 09
Hello there! Well I heard that we should never ask a girl's age and the salary of a man because we should not be interferring so much in one's life. If someone ask about my salary too I feel veru uncomfortable because I think they are too concerned about things which are not related to them at all. When someone ask about my age also I do not like it because they have always a comment to make which I have never asked for.
@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Jun 09
yah med, u are 100% right. in case of a girl, age is a major factor if she is unmarried. people frequently criticise about her if her age is crossing the married age line. in this world some peoples are more conscious to other lives than their lives. beware from them, they are so nasty by mind. take care.
@flaky03 (225)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
Yes. I agree that sometimes i feel uncomfortable when someone asks me regarding our pay or salary and the type of job we have. Its just that we tend to think what will they say or they would look more onto it like how did we get that, if it is suffice to support our basic needs like our bills and expenses, he we are happy or contente and worst is comparing it with others. But most the most important thing is that what we earn and work for comes from our own effort, in a good legal way.
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• Philippines
19 Jun 09
Yes... I also hate someone asking for my salary, especially those people not close to me... Most of the time I refuse to tell or answer their questions.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
thats better. thanks for response yaar.lol.
• United States
17 Jun 09
It has always bothered me when people ask "So, what do you do?" It seems like a simple question, but they are usually referring to your type of work. Regardless of what position you hold, I generally do not believe a person is their job. We usually generate income to sustain a lifestyle, we do not have that life just to work. I usually respond to those simple queries with a simpler answer. "So, what do you do?" "Love, learn, seek adventure..."
@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
yes friend, your answers are positive to those questions. some boring questions are always either should be avoided or just simply be ignored. thanks for response.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Jun 09
Hi shibham! I hate it when people question my earnings at work. I just tell them that it's not something I want to discuss or I say that's a personal question. It is very uncomfortable because they are usually just wanting to know so they can tell other people too. The only person I discuss my salary with is my boss. It's better that way.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
yah jenintn. i also discuss my salary with my staff. actualy we are well known to each other salary. anyway thanks for response.lol
@tonyllenium (6266)
• Italy
16 Jun 09
Normally i don't ask to people about salary or others things you mentioned!!So yes in some cases it would be uncomfortable and even when a people is not so near you you can think why they ask you as so!! As regards me if somebody ask may be i will answer but normally my answer will be wrong such as not true than in reality really is...so not true informations i will say about salary for example..hehe...
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
hi there, it is better to avoid this question than giving a wrong answer, otherwise u will be considered as a lier. thanks for response. lol.
16 Jun 09
No! It's not the done thing in the UK to ask about a person's salary. At work there's no need to ask, because of the grading system it is easy to know roughly a person's pay. It can be like those embarassing people who want to know how often one has s*x
@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
hi there, it does not belongs to UK only, it belongs to any country. and your mentioned issue is also private. thanks for response.
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
i dont like it either when people asks me how much i am earning from my work... it makes me uncomfortable because they would most of the time make comparisons... but if i am asked, i would reply honestly as to who much i am earning... and then would make a mental note about that person who asked... i dont asks people how much they are earning too, but some of them tell it without being asked... , kind of bragging, especially when they have a high salary...
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
yes it is a big opportunity to examine a person by their behaviours. who are with a high salary, they frequently announce their earnings. i dislike them also. thanks jayrene for your response.
@shaggin (36845)
• United States
16 Jun 09
It really doesn't bother me at all to be asked how much my household makes a year. I know a lot of people are very private about it. My father is like that but I just don't think its a big deal. I like to know what other people make so I know what kind of jobs pay how much. I could always call the company and find out how much workers are paid but its just easier to ask a friend or family member if they arent bothered by that kind of question. If someone didn't tell me how much they made or was avoiding the issue then I wouldn't ask them again because that would make them uncomfortable.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
yes i am agree with you. i also discuss about my earings with my family members, my father also shared his pay with me but i don't like if anyone except my family members ask about my salary. thanks for response.
@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
16 Jun 09
I dont like it,either.My mom is a big mouth in my opinion.Once she told one of our neighbors how much I make in a special single day when I get especially early.Long time later,I got to know that when I had some small talks with the very neighbor.I got really mad at my mom.I hate people irrelated know something about my personal stuffs.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
ha ha ha..... your mother is pussing you to a problem but i think your mother is disclosing your identification to someone being pride with u. as a human being it is natural. thanks for response.
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
16 Jun 09
I do not mind if the person also shares what he earns. At least there is a basis of comparison. otherwise how to improve and know the market rate. However, if the person ask purely for sake of judging, I do not like it and I will just patronize him.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
yah friend, there are some person who often ask someone's earnings just for judging,it is disgusting. anyway thanks for response.
• United States
16 Jun 09
Your father is right. You should never ask someone such questions! It's not anyone's business how much someone makes. It's very rude... I find that people won't come straight out and ask what you make, they will beat around the bush to find out. But again, it isn't anyones business. Ask them why they want to know if they ask you, that will shut them up :-)
@shibham (17025)
• India
19 Jun 09
hi, your idea to stop those stupidities is very good. we should not be concern to others that how much they earn? it is better to be concern about ourselves that how we can earn better with a good utilisation. thanks for response.
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
I don't like it when people ask about how much I make from my job. I think that it's a personal information that should not be brought up casually. I actually think that only a few people should know how much you make - it kind of puts a stamp on your forehead and it makes people see money instead of your actual personality once they know. I prefer people asking me if I want to do something for the weekend instead of assuming that I would or would not just because they think I can or cannot afford to go. Thanks for the response on my discussion :)
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@shibham (17025)
• India
16 Jun 09
hi oyenkai, my thoughts are 100% similar with you. thanks for this similarity friend.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
I can ask those question to any person but I know the feeling of it and I felt what they are feeling. Somehow, sometimes I don't just bother to ask those question as it gives them uneasiness. I do study person first, when the person is easy to talk with I think I can freely ask the question and they will answer me what answer do you want the truth or the lie and we just ended with laughter.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
16 Jun 09
yes friend, we should study someone's mind before asking these type of questions. it helps us better to prolong a good relation.thanks for your response friend. take care.
@pickoy (734)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
The question is too personal, so I'd rather not answer a person who often asks about salary. Besides what good it will do to him to know anything about it? I'm not sure what they are thinking. I'm not offended if the question is coming from a family member or from long known close friends, but to hear this from the stranger, its like stripping me off. Although there are cases when it helps, coz if you wish to encourage people to join you in a site the only way to convince them is to show them the proof that you really are earning. I don't force people to join me either, I just tell them there's a great site and I show them my payment proof, if they join then its good if not, then I can't blame them. If its hard to convince your family its harder to win a strangers trust. A salary or wage is far too personal that's why its meant to be kept. Some people don't earn that much eventhough they work hard and its hard for them to accept criticisms or being judged for the amount that they are earning. If this stuff remain hidden, jealousy among co-workers will definitely diminish.
@shibham (17025)
• India
16 Jun 09
yes u r right.i have no hesitation if any close one asks me about my earnings but if someone asks me just for comparing with him/herself then i can't bear. my salary is my personal matter, i don't like anyone's interference. thanks for your response.