Do you want your first child to be a girl or boy ?

@ronnyb (6125)
Jamaica
June 15, 2009 1:35pm CST
And for those persons who already have children ,the question would be rephrased to say "did you want your first child to be a girl or boy". Don’t feel bad if you have a preference we are all humans and it doesn’t mean that you will love them any less if you didn’t get what your proffered or does it is ?There are some persons who will prefer a boy for financial and family reasons because they know that this is the only way that the family name will be passed on .Others will hope for a boy because they want them to carry take on the family business. In some areas like India where boys are more valued than girls this represents some kind of bragging rights for especially men and somewhat reinforces the virility .Others may want girls because they think they are acute in their little dresses and make for lovely memories . Did you or do you have ea preference and why ?
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@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
16 Jun 09
i will rather prefer my first child to be a boy so that he can do some more physical and mental required jobs around the house, female kids are good in some chores as well but the males have more physical abilities to do some things as they grow up and he might probably protect the younger female child afterwards
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
16 Jun 09
Thanks for giving me your preference and reason as well.There are many out there who share your sentiment and I am one of them at least when it comes to my first child.Mysecond child however ,I would want a girl.
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@Wizzywig (7860)
15 Jun 09
I really had no preference as long as my child was healthy - though my husband did want to have a son at some point. As it turned out, both my first and second were sons and I never felt any great need to have a daughter. Sons make for just as many lovely memories and, if I wanted something to put in cute little dresses I'd get a doll, not treat a child as a mannikin. The main thing is to be happy with the children that you have... & I certainly am [em]
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@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
15 Jun 09
lol lovely answer ,I suppose you are right though that girls can be as memorable as boys and vice versa .I ma happy though that you both enjoy your children despite your husband having preferences
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@ddfreedie (690)
• India
22 Jun 09
huh...a dream question..million dollar question...i prefer twins..with a boy and a girl..that would me double happy...
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• United States
22 Jun 09
when I was in high school I always said I would have a boy and then stop....LOL, and would tease and say no... I would like a boy then a girl...this way the girl could have an older brother like I always wanted (I actually have a younger brother)... this is always just girl talk as a girl who says "her and her best friend will marry guys who are best friends and live on the same street and there kids will grow up and play together" blah blah blah.... then I got married when I was 24 --and no, he wasnt best friends to my best freinds boyfriend... and after high school you really do lose touch with friends...but when we got married I just said if it happens then what ever will be will be.... fast forward to 7 yrs later and we had a boy...and after that I said I was done... well as it was I wasnt...last year we had our daughter... so I got what I wanted even if it wasnt planned... and when I was pregnant with my first my gut told me it was a boy.... and then he was born... and with my second my gut said a girl.... and she was born. funny thing is even at the hospital I said to hubby ...well they only come in boys and girls...now we have both... pretty much safe to say we are done!! (I am going to be 38 this year and I really hope we are done...LOL)
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@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 09
To me, it doesn't matter at all. As long as the baby is fine and healthy, I am thankful and happy. Nowadays, there's really no difference between boys and girls. Girls are just as good as boys in business, and can take on the family responsibilities and businesses very well. So I feel that this should not be an additional burden to the poor expecting mother, who has other things to worry aabout.
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@candy2306 (577)
• India
16 Jun 09
Hi, I do have preference too, but that doesn't mean I am one sided! I wanted to have a boy first followed by as many girls or boys. The reason I want the eldest to be a boy is because having little sister or brother the elder catch up to be very responsible. Girls naturally will be one as they have this gifted caring heart from God. Boys a little different, an dI want to train my boy to be responsible and carig as much as a girl will do!
@yinqing (15)
• China
16 Jun 09
Whether a boy or a girl is very good.because it is my child.When it is growing up.you can feel it is cute.No gender differences.When it is older.you can know your painstaking is not in vain.so I think it not important about its gender.the key is the whole process.I believe if you experience this.you will understand it.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
it could be both if it is twin lolfraternal twins which is common to our family blood line just like my elder sister they are fraternal they dont look the same and are different in many ways and if I where to choose i like it to be twins a girl and a boy lol too impossible I guess actually any would do I would still love them and take good care of them as there father and make sure that I will give everything that is needed to raise a healthy child and give him what is needed.tender loving care the rest will follow
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
16 Jun 09
I wanted to have a boy when I found out that I was pregnant. I was done so wrong by so many guys and knew the father of my child would not be a part of her life. I wanted to raise my son to treat girls right but I ended up having a girl instead, but I am happy just the same.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
15 Jun 09
HI RONNYB, I had no preferance, all i wanted was a healthy baby & thank heavens i got my wish. When 20 years later i was having another baby i really was glad he was a boy to. I will have to admit i am partial to boys. When my first grandchild came along i was glad he was a boy to. My son thought i'd be disappoined when he told me it was going to a boy & i told him i was glad.I do have a grandaughter now & i'm very proud of her but don't get to see her much to my sorrow. AS LONG AS BABIES ARE HEALTHY IS ALL U SHOULD WORRY ABOUT.
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• United States
15 Jun 09
I f i were to have kids, I would want 4 boys, no girls. That way at least One would want to pick upi the family business.And with 4 boys my duty as a wife would be well done.
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@suzzy3 (8368)
16 Jun 09
It made no difference to me as it did not make any difference in our culture.Girls and boys are just as important as each other as they both get educated the same and some woman keep the family whilst the man stays at home to be a parent and househusband.I think it is a shame in some parts of India girls are not thought of as highly as boys.I have heard tales of baby girls being slung on the rubbish tips there.If countries keep losing girls like this the balance of nature will be upset.And there will not be enough woman to go round to look after all these so called men.
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
16 Jun 09
Thank you Suzzy for your answer and I know you would never have had any preference and I suppose too that the culture you grew up in makes a difference too.Yes in parts of india many girls are discarded because of the culture which persist over there
@suzzy3 (8368)
16 Jun 09
I can see if you like why it is done,but like most civilised cultures find it repulsive.How can they do it,I know boys are looked upon as the breadwinner and will look after them.They ought to educate everyone ,as a female maybe I take it harder then most.You often hear about how India is advancing fast and take our jobs in England over there call centres etc,so maybe things will change,as traditionally they are female jobs in this country.Having grown up with equal rights in most things in our country find it unbeleavable to think I have little sisters left to die it is upsetting.
• United States
22 Jun 09
well at first I wanted a girl bt 2 weeks before i met my husband I had a dream about my 1st born and it was a boy so i had to accept that , yes I admit at the time i ws upset I wouldnt be able to dress up my lil one in frilly dresses but knowing what I know now having 4 the 1st 2 were boys and then I had my daughters , I learned that i got my daughters when I could AFFORD them lol after all those cute lil clothes dont grow on trees! and 2nd I knew by then what type of woman I wanted to help mold her become the same with my boys after all it is not all the fathers job to make your son a man it dosent mean they are momma's boys but there are just some things that they cant talk about with their father I think that goes for both sexes ;) ~M~
• India
22 Jun 09
Hello my friend ronnyb Ji, After our marriage and when time approached, we both wished to have daughter, and for this as an Indian Lady, I kept Fast, bur our desire was full-filled after having first two Sons. WE both consider that a family must have daughter and son along with their parents. Only daughter and only sons are not good. Daughter are great help to our families. May God bless You and have a great time.
@kalaga (550)
• United States
17 Jun 09
A girl..so that i dont have to worry for the 2nd time.i cannot believe u wrote that "name to pass" stuff.so it is universal.i dont know why people think like that.older folks are like that.but for me i wanted to have one girl.i dont mind having 2 but one must be girl.i like girls better than boys.
• Malaysia
16 Jun 09
My first child I would not ask for a boy or a girl but anyone that comes first will do.As long as they child is delivered safely and borned perfectly. Not having the looks will not be the problem but having a perfect body will be more than anything for me.
@ivana980 (156)
• Italy
16 Jun 09
I prefer girls at all... but if will be a boy i don't matter.. i will love him!! The important thing is that i will have babies!!!
@MAllen400 (830)
16 Jun 09
I didnt mind but was worried about my Mum and Husband. My husband each time (we have 3 children) would say what they were going to be and I would dread if it was the opposite. He was right every time and has been with our 3 Grand children but its still a worry. My Mum done the old trick with a piece of cotton and a needle to see if it swings or goes in a circle and luckily, and I am sure it was luck, it worked every time.
@dakiss (181)
• India
16 Jun 09
what ever doesnt matter for me..