Does anyone get sick of falling love?

United States
June 15, 2009 8:22pm CST
Okay, I know this seems like a silly question, but don't you get tired of being in love? Wouldn't it be better to be free of all the pain that love can cause you? I sometimes think about this and think that it might be better if I could turn my heart cold and not worry about love anymore, you know, just worry about my own self. How about you all?
3 responses
• China
16 Jun 09
i have never had this situation,my hubby and i are still lovestruck although we have lived almost ten years,but there were many friends have same question around me as you,i dont know why there are so many tired love and the person who in love offair want to be free,so i think won't you give it up easier if you love your spouse so much as exceed yourself.
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• United States
16 Jun 09
Thanks for your response. I love the idea of being in love, but there are so many problems associated with it, you know? I just don't know if it's worth all the trouble. Seems to me I have cried just as many tears as I have said I love you's over the years.
@dragon54u (31607)
• United States
16 Jun 09
Yep, and I've sworn off love! I think it's a form of mental illness--you lose your self respect, your free will, your independence, your common sense. After my divorce in 2006 I swore the rest of my life was my own and it's been a wonderful 3 years so far! I don't even date. I might, someday, but the past 4 years of celibacy has been bliss. I hope I never "fall in love" again, I'm enjoying life too much to mess it up!
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• United States
16 Jun 09
Love can be a great thing, but it can also take you down to the lowest depths of your life. I don't know about the celibacy parts, but the being in love thing can really be for the birds.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
16 Jun 09
I think you need to read the book Journey of the Heart. I also think you need to have a healthy perspective on love and relationships. I think that if there is something you are currently going through, the answers you need are not going to be found in this discussion, but in an awareness of the situation that helps you not feel pain so much as a dull ache so that you can learn what there is to be learned, heal and move on.
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• United States
16 Jun 09
Good suggestion, maybe I will try reading that book. I actually am in love now. I'm always in love. Just not sure it's worth all the junk you have to go through when you are in love.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
16 Jun 09
What about all the good stuff? Eventually all that other crap falls by the wayside. If you are both mature it will work out. As they say, better to have loved and lost...
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• United States
16 Jun 09
Yes, I understand that. I don't know that I could ever really be cold hearted. Sometimes through my life I have felt that I should be or find a way to be. But then again, when I see my grandchildren, it would all melt away anyway :-)