Who will pay for the wedding?

When I got married, my father paid for most of the wedding. I think my future husband chipped in some, but I did not have that much money of my own and my unofficial foster mother paid for the reception and she made the cake. When my older son got married, he and his fiance were both working and making a good income, and they paid for most of their wedding. They wanted to do things all themselves.

The tradition in our country is that the groom's side must pay for the wedding but due to the financial crisis we are all undergoing, it is basically depends on the person involve. Based on my experience, my husband and I paid for our wedding last year. We did not oblige any of our parents or siblings to shell out money for the wedding. We make sure that we only spend what we can afford. We have the same beliefs that a wedding is just a one day event and not even a basis if the marriage will last long or not.

Personally I think a lot of the time, it depends on how old the couple is when they get married, how close they are with their family, and if it is their first Marriage or not, etc. I got Married for the first time myself just over 10 yrs. ago. My husband and I for the most part paid for all of it. I was not close to my family really, and no one had any money to help, and I was in my mid 30s by then so it did not really matter. I think more often anymore you will see more people paying for their weddings themselves unless they are getting married just out of college. To me it puts a lot less burden on your family members as well.

I depends on the agreement of the couple. It is very common now to share the expenses of the wedding. If the husband to be can't shoulder the expenses you can share so he will not burden with the expenses of the wedding. Back then the groom's family always shoulder the expenses in the wedding. Right now that life is very tough it think it is good to share than to shoulder all by yourself.

In my culture, the groom's side always pays for the wedding. Not the bride. The bride's parents just give a dowry to the groom's side before the wedding. The groom usually pays for everything, even the house. I like it that the groom's side pays for all that stuff. Haha. It makes the groom more gallant too.

I wish we had a tradition. Unfortunately, my fiance and I are both paying for it ourselves. Our parents aren't really contributing at all. Well, I guess that's kind of a lie. Our wedding is a double wedding with my mother and her fiance, so my mother IS paying for half, but that's only because it's her wedding too. :) Otherwise she wouldn't be paying for anything. And my father's not contributing anything, either.

In my hometown,the groom side should pay for the weddings ,including the house,the ceremony cost,the photos,and he should give tips to the guests.On the other hand,the bride only take some furniture such as fridge,television,sofa and it is differ from one to annother.