Why do you live there?

United States
June 16, 2009 7:42pm CST
My mother lives in an absolutely horrible neighborhood. She hates it, my sister hates it, they don't even like leaving their house because of their neighbors. Some of their neighbors even sit on my mom's porch... these neighbors have their own porch, but they sit on hers anyways, I don't know why, she doesn't know why. So I keep wanting to ask her "Why do you stay there?" Well, I already know the answer. She can't afford anything else, and she has to stay within walking distance to particular things because she can't drive because she's blind, and she has to stay near a bus line. Where she lives now is convenient to all the things she needs, including a bus line that runs regularly. I live where I am because it was the only 3 bedroom available to someone with bad credit who had cats. Most apartment do not want pets, and I had to keep my cats, but I couldn't afford to pay extra in order to keep them! Why do you live where you do? Did you choose your home because you liked the house and location, or are you living there because it's what you can afford right now?
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
17 Jun 09
We bought our house partly because of the location and mostly because we loved it. It was bigger than what we were hoping for and it had features that we loved. The dining room has built in cabinets with glass in the doors. There are pocket doors between the living room and the dining room. There is a nice open staircase inside the front door leading upstairs. There are two living rooms downstairs so we were able to convert one into a play room for the kids. There are hardwood floors in a lot of the rooms too. The only thing I don't like a lot is that we are on main st. So there is a good bit of traffic and the porch is always covered in road dust. But other than that i like it.
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• United States
17 Jun 09
There are a lot of beautiful houses on the main streets here, but I don't think I could live on such a busy road. My last place was bad enough, there was a factory down the way so lots of big trucks coming by, and a school down the road so lots of busses. It's funny how quick you get used to those noises.
@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
17 Jun 09
I am happy to say that I will FINALLY be moving out from where I live now after 5 LONG years! I've stayed here because I couldn't get anything else before until now. The Landlord doesn't like to mow the lawn or fix anything that's broken. He actually takes forever in fixing things and you have to remind him more than once. It's frustrating and for the amount of money I pay every month, I feel that he should be willing to fix things that need to be fixed. I'm sorry your mom has to stay there. I'm sure she doesn't like strangers sitting on her steps and I hope the situation changes for her. I would be truly annoyed. Best of luck to you and your family!
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• United States
17 Jun 09
Your place sounds like the one we lived in before we moved a few months ago. What's worse is the house was owned by my father in law, lol.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
17 Jun 09
My place is safe. I live whee I live because it was affordable. For some reason I wanted to have a house. Maybe I shouldn't have a house, but condo. With my activities, it is so hard to take care of everything.... I hope your mother is safe...
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@imsilver (1665)
• Canada
17 Jun 09
I moved in here because it was cheap and available right away. My best friend used to live here. She moved out just as I was splitting with an ex so we just arranged with the landlord that I'd move in. I'm still here 6 years later because I love it. It's the only townhouse complex down the hill. I have WAY too much stuff to live in an apartment and it costs too much to rent a house. I'm within walking distance of the hospital, the shopping center, the library, the kids school and best of all the river and forest. Right behind me lives my best friend/sistergirl/mother-in-law. Across the street is my sister's ex-brother-in-law and her nephews (who call me auntie as well). I live in a small town where everybody knows everybody - especially in my neighbourhood so I feel completely comfortable letting my kids out to roam.
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• United States
17 Jun 09
I love small towns. I've lived in one for just over 3 years and it's awesome. I love knowing everyone you see whenever you go somewhere in the community.
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
17 Jun 09
We bought our house 19 years ago. It was very affordable then. Since that time we've made lots of improvements and still it was affordable. It's been the last two years that we have been struggling to stay. If the economy doesn't improve soon, I'm not sure we will be able to afford it. I would love to sell now, we really don't need this much space, but that won't happen either because of these economic times. As for the neighborhood, when we first moved in there were on five houses in the neighborhood. Since the boom it has become a fully developed neighborhood and I don't really like it. Like I said, I would love to sell it!
• United States
17 Jun 09
That's pretty sad you're being forced to move from the home you've lived in for so long.
@cobra1368 (702)
• United States
17 Jun 09
Before I even start, I want to say how great it is to hear that you are sacrificing your own comfort to keep your beloved cats!! I am so tired of people dumping their pets, just because they have started to become a "minor inconvenience." They give every excuse under the sun, most of which can easily be solved if you really wanted to keep your pets! My dogs and my cat are like children to me, and getting rid of them is not an option! Seems to me that you feel the same way. I think that's awesome. Okay, I'm done (steps off soapbox). My husband and I both have good jobs and therefore were able to choose a house we liked in a good location. We have a completely wooded backyard with old hardwoods and a few pines in it. We live in the best school district in our county and less than a mile from the Chattahoochee River. We love it here and will likely not be moving for quite some time. Good luck to you and your family on getting your finances in order to be able to move to a better (and safer) place! It sucks when you have to settle for less than what you would like. I've lived in a double-wide trailer before, so I've been there.
• United States
17 Jun 09
This isn't even a double wide... and I have 5 kids to squeeze in here!! Hopefully it will only be for a few years anyways, just until the finances are in order.
• United States
17 Jun 09
Yeah, sometimes you have to make sacrifices. Circumstances in life are always a tradeoff. You can either live in a nicer place and have to give up your cats, or you can live in a not-so-nice place and keep the cats until your situation improves and allows you to make a better choice for your family. It is obvious that your cats mean more to you than material things. I definitely wouldn't be ashamed of that. And think of how close your family will be living in such close quarters! That is, if they don't kill each other first.
• United States
17 Jun 09
Well I stay in a really bad neighborhood I am right in the center of Los Angeles. The historical Central and Vernon. it is gang infested and alot of proverty strunken people live in that area as well.this area is on the news atleast once a month... some call it the "hood" or "Ghetto" but I tell people those terms are a state of mind (another subject). Well I live there because my church organization owns rental property next door to my church. it is a beautiful apartment and my beautiful church is right next door. the one bedroom apartment I reside in is very cheap, yet very nice despite the corruption going on around me I feel very safe gated in with security. because it is so affordable I stay. My husband and I are saving up for a home in Atlanta, so its just temporary.
@gemini_rose (16264)
19 Jun 09
I have lived in my current town for 17 years now, I have never really liked it. Its a pretty small town, grown a bit over the years but still the main inhabitants are all related or know each other in some way and have all grown up together. In a town like that its hard to fit in, I have never really fitted in here, I have tried and tried but I still feel on the outside all the time. I came to live here simply through the direction my life had taken, my parents had moved here a couple of years previously and I was in so much trouble that I had no choice but to move here. I stayed here because I could not afford to move and I still stay here because I cannot afford to move.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Jun 09
We got lucky with our last house in LA. I was pregnant and didn't want to live in a bad neighborhood with kids, so we sold our first house and found a fixer upper in a good neighborhood when prices were low. Then when we moved to Sacramento, we sold that house high and were able to buy a new house for less. I kind of feel that we had delusions of grandeur though. I mean, we can afford the house as long as both of us are working, but on the other hand if one of us loses our jobs, we are in trouble. And being 14 years away from retirement with a 30 year loan is kind of an uncomfortable feeling.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
17 Jun 09
My fiance was living in the house that we have now when I met him. I just moved in. I love our area. We live in the country where it is a peaceful and we don't have neighbours breathing down our neck when we crank our tunes. We are in the middle of nowhere (we don't even get cell service) which I'm totally fine with that. And our closest neighbour is over 5 miles away. We have done alot of upgrading in our house so we are very happy to be living there. Couldn't ask for a better home.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
29 Sep 09
Hey, Well I live where I live because my parents live here, if they move I have to also move because I live with them. I have no choice, because I am still dependent, and I am still looking for a job so I can become independent. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
@JodiLynn (1417)
• United States
17 Jun 09
We bought our home mostly because of it's location and amenities, such as the horse barn and a large fenced dog yard. When we were searching for our home, we 1st looked at school districts and tax rates, then moved on to pricing, to narrow our search parameters. Being a rather rural place, we don't interact with our neighbors other than a wave or roadside chitchat, or buying/selling/trading produce from our gardens. The home itself is smallish, 15oo sq.ft, not including the double garage (man space), but it suits our needs and limitations. Hope you get Mom a better neighborhood soon!
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
18 Jun 09
I moved from NY to New Mexico because I couldn't stand the area where I was living in NY. I picked this house in NM and I love the house and the area but can't find a job. So I may end up having to rent the house out or sell to move once again.
@Ruby722 (796)
• China
17 Jun 09
I will considering the location,but it doesn't the most important reason.Now i am satisfaction for my new department .Cause it convenient to get a bus to the supermarkt and my company is nearly here.i can get up late if i want.and i like the big window ,sure the environment is the reason we must considering
@Archie0 (5636)
17 Jun 09
well. yeah i myself think that it doesn't the most imp reason..i am living in pune ..and i am loving it.. my flat is not that beautiful.. but its great .anyways...here i got all sorts of facilities...
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I live in a student's dormitory at the moment and I am sharing the room with one occupant who is also a girl. I choose to live there because I like the location and its within my budget. I just don't like the common bathroom as its being shared with every occupant on the 4th floor and it has one shower room and doesn't have running water, its stinky and dirty most of the time. I didn't see the bathroom when I was looking at the place as it was locked that time. I want to moved into a new place when I have the right budget and have my own room again as I don't like sharing a room with someone though my room mate is a nice girl and we get along well. Its still nice to have my own privacy thats all.
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
17 Jun 09
I live here because this is my parents' house and my mom still live here. It also 10 minutes drive from my workplace and my neighbours, thankfully are nice and helpful. The neighbourhood make me feel at ease. I feel sorry for your mom. But unless she can find a better place to live in, she has to settle there. I did live in a rent house before. Even for three months, the neighbourhood was creepy and irritating. I only go out for work or shopping. I won't stay out for no reason, even to talk to neighbours. They were people who like to keep things to themselves and not really fond of new people like us. I don't know why they were like that. Sometimes they parked their cars in our garage for days and my housemates had trouble to park their motorcycles. They saw that but they don't seem to care.
@vkakochu (67)
• India
17 Jun 09
I live in a village and I am satisfied with my house.My neighbours are friendly,caring.They are always willing to help us.I am living by roadside.Thats little horrible.