they got married after knowing each other for 3 months!!

@cainam (493)
Philippines
June 17, 2009 4:57am CST
my cousin and his girlfried got married last sunday. i just can't believe until now and i wonder if their marriage will last a lifetime. they only knew each other 3 months ago and i think that there's no need for a hurry coz they are only 21 years old.the girl is not pregnant yet either if that's what you're thinking. they don't even have stable jobs and both imature.. they will just live with my cousin's parents and i already expected that.. i really wonder why.
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
21 Jun 09
well, maye they should of waited, but then again you never know a person untill you live with them.
@dismalgrin (2470)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Maybe there is no hurry, but there is really no need to wait either. I think that for those who choose to marry it is best if they go into it both needing to grow and mature. They need to learn these things together for a stable relationship. If they are already very mature and good on their own too feet they are more likely to focus on the fact that they don't need eachother and are more likely to break it off. I personally won't ever 'get married' in the manner that others are always talking about. But, I don't think it is wrong to get into a serious relationship with someone that soon.
@Ritchelle (3798)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
i met my husband shorter than 3 months and we've been married since 2003. like all marriages it isn't easy. however my husband can stand on his own and we've been really a family on our own ever since. back to your cousin there is no real wonder there. am a psychology graduate and this is one more proof that birds of the same feather flock together rather than opposites attract.
• India
20 Jun 09
I hate to say this like a philosophical person but sometimes there are no answers for love. May be you are right that they are in a hurry. Or you can this as a new experience for both of them. They met and fall in love and now they think that they are made for each other and so they married so fast. Love is always complicated. At least he should have stable job before getting married!
@happy6162 (3011)
• United States
19 Jun 09
It is hard to say if the marriage will last but I hope it will. Both of them need to start looking for jobs so they are not dependent on your cousin's parents. They should have had jobs first but they can still take the time to fine one.
@andy77e (5171)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Well the living with the parents part is a red flag to me. Generally doing that means the parents have some control, and parental control while married is a great way to ruin the marriage. That said, short courtship to marriage time frames, are not always the best indicator. They can work. I've known just a couple that it worked out fine for. I would say, that many don't though, and I'd be a bit concerned. The biggest problem is that short courtships tend to result in character flaws and marriage wrecking habits popping out of no where, because you didn't have time to discover them. Things like a girl I knew got married way too fast, and then 6 months after found out he was a addicted gambler. The following years for her were hell, never knowing if he'd keep enough money for rent and food.
• China
19 Jun 09
May be they think themselves are the best people for each other. but for me, i can't marrie a people who i know for a short time. i need to make sure him is the right man , and we can live happy and last a lifetime.i should be responsible for myself and my life.
@ladyrara (26)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Wow. That is a really short time to know some one then get married. They did not even have time to get to know each other people change drastically over a period of time. Well i wish them the best of luck
@shamzy18 (2320)
18 Jun 09
Seems like they are not stable, but if they themselves think they were ready for marraige then i don't see the problem. I would say if the girl was pregnant then they would be in a worse situation, but she is not and can work and support her self even if she is living with parents. Hopefully there marraige does last!
@lumenmom (1997)
• United States
18 Jun 09
I norammly don't believe in marriage that soon simply because you don't know the partner well. Yet I worked with a woman for almost twenty years who married a man she knew for only a month and they had a wonderful marriage and as far as I know still do. I also know people who wait for years and still do not have a life long marriage. It really does depend on the people. I think it is too early to determine if it will last forever. Most marriages don't. If they have several happy years together they are doing better than most. I think it is worth giving them a chance, and even if it does not last it still may not be because they did it so soon but simply that they are mo longer compatible.
@rainmark (4309)
18 Jun 09
Oh, the girl is not pregnant, too young, no stable job, so confusing why they got married that soon hehehe. It's a similar story to my hubby's friend. He's a brit married to an indonesian woman too early, not even had a year of getting to know each other hehe. Just hoping that their relationship will last in lifetime.
@savypat (20248)
• United States
18 Jun 09
You can never tell what is going on in others lives. When I was their age all I wanted was a stable family, I disappointed my family by not wanting to continue my education but I knew what was important to me. I don't know what others thought because I married so early but it didn't matter, I made my choice and I have lived with it for over 50 years.
@nanajanet (4437)
• United States
18 Jun 09
My husband and I dated for one month and got engaged. I was 2 weeks shy of my 21st birthday when I married him. He was 26. We will be married 34 years in September. We did both have stable jobs, though. I have seen people who dated for a long time and then marry, and then divorce. There is no rule!!!
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
18 Jun 09
I married my husband after only knowing him for 3 months and we've lasted for almost 5 years now. We would talk on the phone and on the internet. Infact we met on the internet. I was 21 and he was only 18 but he acted alot older than 18 to the point I thought he was 26. I had a child by a different person before that. My son fell in love with him, he was only 6 months old at the time we got married but he met him when he was 3 months old. I don't have my son, my family soon stole him from me when he was 9 months old. That's a long story. If they don't have a stable job that's hard to do in this economy, everyone is losing their jobs left and right.So please try not to judge them because of how a short time that they have known each other. People didn't think that me and my husband would last either, because of how soon we got married after meeting. Look at us we are going on our 5th year of marriage this september. We have a beautiful 6th month old daughter that I gave birth to last Novemeber.
• India
18 Jun 09
well they got married after knowing each other for just 3 months !!!! Well, in my country thats not a big issue at all, Caniam..atleast here they get to knw each other for 3 months ,: there are several instances in our country where a man and an woman get married get married just by knowing some 1 or 3 days !!! I know u wont beleive it, if you ask anyone from my country, I am sure they will agree to it..!! Leave this, in olden times my grandfather/grandmother -they didnt even got a chance to see each other !!! their parents just tell them whom to get married to and the first tiem they will be seeing each other in the marriage ceremony !!! So if we take all these into account, a 3 month acquitance is nothing, Cainam.. But well, some points i should agree with you..In this case, ur cousin is very young , might be they are not matured enough to get into in this institution called marriage..And it is sad that even after they have become "one", they depend upon their Parents MONEY for their Support --Oh thats a small disgrace..I will never allow that to happen in my life..Im lucky that i m yet to get married .I hope the newly married couples will get a stable job soon...Dear Cainam tell my Hai & my best wishes to them..
@p1kef1sh (45648)
18 Jun 09
I met my wife in the July. We got engaged in the December and married the following October. We are just about to celebrate out 23rd wedding anniversary. All that I can say is that it worked for us. We were in regular employment and I owned my own apartment. But I can see no reason why if they really love each other that they can't make it work. Good luck to them.
@SViswan (12096)
• India
18 Jun 09
I understand that it's unusual in some cultures to get married in a few months of meeting each other...especially in cultures where the decision solely rests on the two people who want to get married. But in our culture 3 months is a reasonable time to get to know each other. I, myself was married 3 months after my engagement (which took place a month after we met each other for the first time). But mine was an arranged marriage...and it was a common arrangement at that point of time. Coming to your cousin, I know the scenario might be different....but they probably felt they were right for each other soon after they met and didn't need to wait longer. And at 21 you know how people think they know better than others around them about their situation. They've taken this step even when they don't have stable jobs just proves their immaturity. I'd say let them bear the consequences.
@velentina (893)
• Mauritius
18 Jun 09
I think you should hope for the best for your cousin and his new wife. long ago people married not even knowing each other yet their marriage survived. In arranged marriage love starts after marriage. At least your cousin knows her wife for two months and i think 2 months is enough to know a person if your love is strong.
• Italy
18 Jun 09
Certainly it is a risky choice, but love is love and I hope that they truely love each other and that their marriage can last for a long time, rather forever!!!
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
Oh they must be really inlove, crazy in love.However there are much disadvantage on that scenario as they don't more about themselves, maybe today they are happy but being rushed to marriage for sure they will be having difficulty in the future. They are very young. OMG.