How much do you know about your father?

I know nothing about my father, except a name my mother gave me. She didn't know him very well. So yes, I grew up without a father. I don't regret it because I don't know what life is like with a father, and you can't miss what you don't know. I'm sorry your father passed away.

I am sorry to hear that your father passed away.. At least you have some memories of him.. My father? Well all I really know about him is that he is a truck driver, and that I have his DNA.. I was a result of a one night stand, and there were several different men... So the few memories that you do have, hold on to them tight, its better then nothing.. Please do not take me the wrong way, I am just trying to help you feel better.

hi,rosdimy! i think we are the same with the feeling towards father...it had been the 5 years now after my dad left me and my family member. i didn't show that how much i love him until he couldn't come back to be around us forever. he is very much like talking and even kind of a boaster which is part of the reasons why i hold negative impression on him. so i want to learn more from my mom than him which leads me to know not much about me. but now i suddenly realise that he is rather a good man though with some shortcoming..how foolish i have sometime been. and also the very sad thing is i didn't get the chance to say a last goodbye or u are a good dad to him. he show his profound love to his kids in his way.

i am the only daughter - so i have always been 'manja' (Daddy's pet).. my father is not one who says much.. in fact he hardly speaks to us, i dont think i ever had any real 'conversation' with him.. but i do have memories of stuff we did together - once he tried to teach me to ride the bicycle but i cried and gave up and he gave up too,.. he used to take us travelling (he loves travelling), i remember i almost drowned when my dad took my elder brothers and i swimming in a public pool in singapore, he also taught us to enjoy 'international food' like 'steak, chinese, japanese'- i have to admit that we were quite 'well-off' when i was a young girl.. things (income) got pretty bad as i grew older, especially when i was in my teens (but i didnt feel affected, because i had spent most of that time studying in boarding school, and abroad after that).. the thing i remember the most i would say - is that he never said 'no' to whatever i asked (mostly books).. and one act that i will never forget, and will always cherish is when he was the one who performed my 'akad-nikah' (maritial ceremonies).. i still have him.. he's 69.. i wish i could provide more for him - but i do the best that i can...

Somehow you are still lucky you have a father that you see even rare but at least you know he is there and that really sad part because no matter how bad our father they remain our father that owed our life from him, although our mother sacrifice for us for 9 months until we were born. Physically my father is tall, and hairy. He is talkative and have a sister where i got the shape of my face and height which is short. This is according to my mother and aunt. He is doing something that according to my aunt, Heal someone who've possessed of other kinds of people living around us whom we cannot see unless you have a third eye. I am only a result of his lust to my mother. I only saw him once, and gave me old coins that couldn't used to buy something, and one dictionary. I couldn't remember or visualize his face even i try. I do longing fro him and i want to see him again before he pass away because he is already in his mid 70's. Other than this i have no more information about him, because i do not asked my mother about him, although mama did not hide from me who is my father.

hi rosdimy...i'm sorry to hear about your story. and it touches me. yes, most of us are not close to our fathers...we look at them as if they we're the strict serious person in the house...but its not. i remember when i am still a child, i don't have a good relation with my father. i said i don't like him...but i love him still, its just that we're not close with each other. i sometimes envy my cousins who are very close with their fathers and their fathers are sweet with them. my dad is not like that. he's a quiet type person, gone through many mistakes...he once become a "bad boy"! but thanks God, those days were gone... he is a totally different person now. He definitely changed for the better! Now, i see to it that we can make up for all those years that we grow apart...we are closer now, we can talk as friends and i am wrong when i said that he's a bad father or a bad boy...he definitely is the best father for me...coz if he's bad, why did i grow up nice? even though we're not that close before, i can say that now, i know him so well, i understands him and appreciates him! i feel no more envious to my cousins with regards to their relationship with their fathers...but they feel envy to me now! i must say that we should always cherish every moment we have with our loved ones...because time when lost cannot be back...we should make the best out of every moment, chances we have so that when that day comes...the day that we need to be apart...we don't feel any regrets...and what we will always remember are the happy moments we spend with them when they are still with us! have a nice day!

Oh, feeling very sorry for you that you could not even say a last goodbye to your father. I did not get to know my father too well during my growing years. Dad went abroad when I was about 2/3yrs old and he returned when I was about 12yrs. So my childhood was spent without his touch. This also resulted in the fact that I got too close to mom. Dad was OK with the fact that mom was taking good care of me so he did not bother to involve himself. I too was hesitant to breach the gap. Nowadays however my son spends his days at my parents while I stay at office. Dad simply dotes on my son and the feeling is very much reciprocated. Its only now that I am seeing a more human and vulnerable side to him and trying to understand him better.

Not much. I know that he was a hard worker and provided for his family. Not only was a police officer, but he moonlighted as a roofer as well. He was always working. My parents divorced when I was younger so my father and I didn't have too many bonding moments, that I can recall. And as the years went by the more distant we became. Things started to change after I gave birth to my eldest son. My dad even surprised me when my youngest was hospitalized by coming to visit us. But now things seemed to have gone back to the way they were before. I'm trying to make it a habit to call him a couple of times a year so that he knows I still love him. Happy Father's Day to him and to all the dad's out there. Have a wonderful day!

I would not say I am very close to my dad but when i was young he is very strict to me and my siblings.We are not allowed to have junk foods when we were young back then and he never spoils us at all.If we asked for something we always have to wait for atleast more than a month before we can get it.My father is always reading and reading seems to be his hobby or something since he works in the press,when ever he has nothing to do he will open up his books and start reading.My room is a quater filled with his books since his room is overloaded already.When we were much older my father became less strict with us and start to joke with us more and more.Though recently we broke into a little arguement which lasted until now he is still not talking to me at all.I wish things would be back to how it was.

Yes,i know too much about my father.He comes from a poor and divorced family,so he really want all her daughter success like him and enter university.For right now,i still try to follow his step to get my fisrt degree and have a good work like him.Even my father is just a teacher but i think he is a great father a nd teacher too and really a good worker.I love him so much because i think no man in this world now can follow his way and his attitude.I see many father serve their daughter like an animal and cannot believe if they can be like my father.My father also like politic and i also like it too.We always discuss about politics in Malaysia.I will do the best for my father and my mother too.For me he is agreat father a nd no man can challenge him.Have a nice day.Thank you.

OH my Father is so amazing! I have learned as much about him and his father as I can. I will miss him terribly when he is gone. I am one of the blessed ones though. Not many get a chance to have a man love them as deeply as a father can love a child. Now it's my turn to make sure my kids know their father! I will never regret any of it.

I dont know much about my father, my parents seperated when I was still a baby. I know his name, I know what state he's supposed to be living in, and thats about it. I personaly dont feel I am any better or worse off in not knowing him, but the past is the past so we'll never know.

Being a female our relationship affects us in a different way then males although when one lacks that knowledge of who their father was what they were about or the past the history it can leave a hole. I ended up leaving home for good when I was 15 more like booted out the door my parents never made any secret of their contempt of me or my sister and overall I am ok with that but it still leaves me with questions our cases different in many ways but leaves open questions that I now can not even pass on to my kids my parents are still alive ironically have all the answers I would need and refuse to tell them like even medical information that is in turn affecting the grandchildren mine and my sisters It can be very frustrating but sometimes when one can do no more one has to let it go if it is meant to be it will be if not enjoy what memories you have live life to the fullest and try not to have regret for in the end it will not change what is and what will be Peace be onto you

Tomorrow is the father's day.but i'm in shenzhen now,while my father is living the the countryside of hunan wity my mom,and they both are taking care of grandma. i love my father so much,though he has not much knowledge,just an honest farmer.he devotes himself to the family. Now it's my turn to repay.i know father likes eating fish,so i give enough money for him to buy.i know he likes the wind coat,i buy them for him.i know he likes watching ,so i buy the dvd for him to watch when he wants.now,i'm planning to take him to the place to have a visit where the movie once was taken.etc i'm working,to realize myself value,to let my parents live a happy life... here,in advance,i sincerely wish all the fathers in the world a happy father's day!

I lost my dad at a very tender age, but that didn't stop me from knowing him. He left alot of legacy. He keeps record alot and tru his diaries i was able to know him. I can tell you his hobbies, ideology, views about issues and people and even what he did at a particular time. He is the type that can write in his diary that at 12.00pm i was eating pizza @ office brought to me by my P.A., He also left books for me that helped to model my mentality and ideology. I only miss his physical presence.

I'm sorry to hear about your father. i'm not close to my father ever since. when we were young, we used to leave very early to go to school, by then he would just be arriving from work or whatever he did. we never get to see him and if we somehow bump into each other, we would only sa hi.. Sometimes he would ask questions about school, other than that, it's purely business. Now that my siblings have married, i'm the only one left in the house. He has somehow changed. We would be concerned about me, too concerned in my opinion. I feel like he wants to control me. I don't know, i'm just not used to this kind of attention from him. Now i get to see him everyday, we get to talk alot, mostly about things that he wants/needs..

I know my dad very well, well enough to be able to talk a lot aboout him. He is very close to us. We are amoung five children, four girls and one boy, he says that daughters are his life and son is the life of my mother. He adores us. He scolds us when necessary but has never beaten us or insulted us. He is very positive in life and respect us a lot. Recently he is a bit angry because I have chosen someone in my life and he disagrees a bit because of my boyfriend but I am sure he will agree because he might just be a bit restless as He does not know that man very well as he did for my elder sisters. He is a wonderful person. A family man and I never miss an opportunity to tell him how much I love him.

I can fell the same thing as you do my friend rosdimy... My parents get divorce when i was still 3 month years old baby and i came along with my mother since then. I do ever meet my father once when i was on the age of 15 and that was the last time i meet him just for a couple hours. Actually, i'm not sure where he is now, whether he still alive or not. I already tried to find him based on the information i got from any of his old friends. Still i couldn't found him. It just like his already disappear. And now, i don't think i could ever meet him again for another last time.

sorry rosdimy, my father had past away so only i have the memories of him.

scanning thru your discussion made me figure what kind of personality you are.you were saying your father is a stubborn one and very independent,not knowing you are walking the same path and track your father had been through and that is one reason why u keep distant with him.you were as stubborn and independent like him.but the sad thing is,you never give a try to build a good relationship between him,and u missed all the chances of having more happy memories with him.i just hope you will not do the same thing with your kids my friend. have a blessed day always and take away all the worries,live the best what u can each day for we never knew if tomorrow still comes in our life. =)