How much is too much?

United States
June 20, 2009 10:50am CST
I'm making 2 cakes today. My husband ALWAYS gets a cake on Father's day. Usually we're too broke to get him a real gift, so it became habit to bake him a cake on Father's day, regardless if he gets a gift or not. Monday is my son's 3rd birthday. So I'm making each of them a cake. I might give hubby his cake tonight and give my son his cake tomorrow as we'll be celebrating his birthday tomorrow (hubby's day off). Is 2 cakes too much? Would you have skipped the Father's Day cake?
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@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I would say if you eat the cake then it isn't too much. My daughter and my husband's birthdays are 3 days apart. So since we usually have cake and a small party for her birthday, we do something different for his. Our family isn't really big cake eaters so we usually still have birthday cake left over from the party that gets eaten all week. So for my husband birthday we pick some other dessert to make him. Last year I baked a thing of brownies then we decorated it with icing and wrote happy birthday on it. We stuck in candles and sung to him and gave him his presents.
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• Philippines
22 Jun 09
I think its never too much to give two cakes to loved ones. If you don't like giving similar things to different people, you may have a variety like a cake for your husbnd and a gift for your son. Giving gift is not expensive if you are creative. Personalizing gift could be an option. Here is a good site in case you want other birthday gift ideas http://www.gifti.com
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@UK_Shree (3604)
21 Jun 09
No I think it's okay! You are celebrating events that only come round one day every year anyway it just so happens that these days happened to be quite close together. I think it will be alright as it's a one off and I am guessing you don't do this every week!
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21 Jun 09
I wouldn't say 2 cakes is too much, as long as you are happy with making them. The important thing is that no matter when you clebrate each of the events be it early, on the day or as a joint thing, they are still two seperate events and one should not take precedence over the other. .... and I bet both cakes won't last long, well they wouldn't in my household.
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@glords (2615)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Nope... I think they both deserve a cake. From a girl that should be, and kind of is, on a diet, I might take a smaller piece, knowing that more is coming, but other than that I think its a great tradition. I think they are a sign of your love your hubby and your son, and I think that its a great tradition. I hope you have a happy father's day and a great birthday party as well. How fun!
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• United States
20 Jun 09
I don't think so. As Father's day should be considered a day seperate than your Son's b-day. I have similar dilema's as 2 of my kids + FIL + SIL2 have their b-days all in the same week. Like others have said.... MMMMmm CAKE! Never enough cake! *LOL*
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
20 Jun 09
No, they each deserve their own cake and so I think that you should give them each one. I love cake and if it wasn't so hot here I would probably make one today. It is better than yesterday though.
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@check23 (448)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
For me, nothing is too much when it comes to cake. =D
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Hey kats! I don't think that 2 cakes is too much! Not in this case! It is only right that you make your hubby his Father's Day cake! I think he deserves it! And your little boy should of course get his cake for his birthday too! So I guess you have no choice but to bake the 2 cakes! What you can do is send some cake with your hubby to his job so that you don't have too much cake for the family to eat! Keep the cake for your son for the family! You just gave me an idea too! I think I will surprise my boyfriend and make him a cake for Father's Day too! I haven't been baking for awhile since I am trying to stay away from cake! Thanks for the idea! I think he will like that very much! I will make his favorite cake which is the Funfetti cake with whipped white icing! I'm not a big baker so I stick to the mix! Hope your hubby has a wonderful Father's Day!
• United States
21 Jun 09
I stick with the mixes too, especially for frosting, I'm just not very good at that. I did try once. I made a chocolate cake from scratch, which was good, but the frosting just didn't come out right.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
20 Jun 09
Makes sense if you are baking them at the same time. You can also freeze some of it and have some snacks for later. Or you could send the extra in with your hubby to work..... I'd probably do it too if it's tradition.. Although this humidity might make me wonder....
• United States
21 Jun 09
We don't have any humidity... not until I start the dryer anyways.
@gemini_rose (16194)
19 Oct 09
No not at all!!! You can never have too much cake! And besides when there a lot of you it soon goes. I hope they enjoyed their cakes anyway even though this discussion is like 5 months old!
@fasttalker (2797)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Oh I think they should both have their own cakes. I always bake my kids (even though they are grown now) a cake on their birthday. That was a tradition that started a long time ago. My kids never did like store bought cakes anyway so not only did it save me money to bake them one, they liked it better.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
21 Jun 09
No, I owuldn't skip the father's day calke at all. Men are like big babies and although they may protest that it isn't necessary to celebrate a a special day for them - it is necessary and they secretly love the fuss that is made over them
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
21 Jun 09
i think you are sweet to do something nice for him despite not having enough money. we are in the same boat. my son made him a card and they have a father's day gift shop at school each year and all gifts are under $5 so i gave him money to buy his dad a little trinket. i am making him a special homemade dinner and that is that. and no, two cakes are fine because your son deserves to celebrate his birthday separate from any other celebrations as it is his special day. have fun!
21 Jun 09
I think its fine to make 2 cakes, as long as you all don't eat too much! As some who's Birthday is on Christmas Day I know how hard it is to sometimes celebrate two things so close to each other but traditions should be kept I think. I end up eating Birthday cake and Christmas pudding over Christmas!
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Well, I have done that as well. My niece was born on Father's day 4 years ago. And her birthday was yesterday. Maybe have two different flavors of cake that is what we do. And with 7 or more people in the house it might not last as long as you think. I don't feel that 2 cakes is two much. I think that it is great.
@Jakywoo (102)
• China
21 Jun 09
You have a happy life and family,I think.Do not make it difficult.Happy is the easy happy.If something you have done make your families and yourself feel good,then don't think too much.One day you will know that's meaningless to ask a reason for everything.Just enjoy it.You can get more happyness.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
How nice! Well, not that much :-) Each is just enough for each of them. Happy father's day to your hubby.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
Maybe you can make 2 cakes on diff favors. Me and my mom always bake cake when we have family occasion and we always make 2 diff flavored cake. That way when were dont eating with one, we can got for the other one. And yes, nothing is too much with cake. Good luck!
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
21 Jun 09
For me it's not too much because you are baking cake for two different occasions, it is just a clear indication that you loved them both and they are very special. Your husband and son are very lucky to have you, they are very blessed because you are very thoughtful and loving. So go with it and good luck!