Daisy May is waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge

OMG tea, I have wondered where you've been!!! I'm soooo sorry you were put in the position of making such a difficult decision. I know you did everything you could to rehabilitate Miss Daisy, but it sounds as if the damage done before you was worse than anyone realized!!! There are just times that you MUST put your family's safety first. There are some things that are just beyond our control. You gave Daisy the best year of her life!!! She knew you loved her & I'm sure she loved you too. She just had damage done to her that could not be repaired. As bad as you're feeling now about Daisy's fate, think how you would have felt had she decided to attack your beautiful grandson instead of you. I can understand your decision. I had adopted a 6 week old kitten from a friend. He was sweet & lovable for the first year. Then he began to attack me every time I did something he didn't like. When it first started, he would jump out from behind whatever he could find & bite my leg. Each attack grew noticeably worse. In less than 6 months the attacks became more & more violent. I felt silly worrying about a silly little cat. I was getting ready for work one morning when he was trying to steal trash out of my trash can. I swatted his head to chase him off. He hissed at me & I chased him out of the room. He turned around & bowed up at me. I grabbed my hairbrush & threw it just in front of him to run him off. I made the mistake of saying what you gonna do about it as he ran off. I finished getting ready for work. About 10 minutes later I was getting my stuff together to leave for work. I hear feet tearing down my hall. I thought it was my baby coming to say goodbye. Boy was I wrong. This cat ran across the room, spun around my leg a couple of times & tore into my leg with his teeth, ripping out chunks of my leg. I liked to never have gotten the bleeding to stop. I put some antibiotic on it & went on to work. By the end of the day, my leg was so swollen I could barely walk. I go to a local Urgent Care Center only to be told the wound was becoming infected. 2 shots & $100 later I was sent home with w prescription to help stop the infection. I was scared to go home. Every time that dayum cat moved I jumped. Anytime I heard him running I froze. I considered having him put down but didn't have the funds at the time. I contacted the friend I had gotten him from. She had a new litter & only one kitten left. So, she told me to bring the attack cat back & she would give me a new kitten. We couldn't seem to be able to find a mutual time to meet so a mutual friend brought me a new kitten & she took the cat to return to my friend. What I didn't know was the friend didn't want her husband to know what we were doing so the mutual friend took the cat out to her home (on a farm) & opened the cage turning the cat loose in the field. She said my cat had taken off running across a field. That was the last time anyone I know saw that cat. My friend assured me that there were 6 farms around hers & he was off chasing mice in somebody's barn as she hadn't found his body squished in the road. That was over 6 years ago & I still wonder if I made the right decision. I was talking to our mutual friend one day & she told me of the day my cat's father had attacked my friend & her 2 children. It was so bad that her husband had to shoot the cat to keep him away from the family. So it seems my cat had been bred from a crazy line of cats. I told you all that to say I do understand why you had to make the decision you made. Had I have had the money at the time, I probably would have done the same. You cannot put your life in danger & you sure couldn't put your grandson in harms way. It's been 6 years & I still feel guilty for the decision I had to make...I just try not to dwell on it. It does grow less with time. Just know you offered Daisy a good home but she didn't know how to accept it due to NO fault of your own!!! Hugs & kisses my friend. If you need to talk, you know where to find me. I promise you won't be judged!!!

The two people I've known who had problems with their dog biting, have placed them on farms, where they have done better, but your decision was honourable. I know it was hard for you to make the decision, or you wouldn't have other cats and dogs. I also know you loved Daisy May, from previous discussions of yours that I've visited. You did what you thought in your heart was best, and nobody knows but you, just how you're feeling right now, so I would hope nobody will scorn your decision. You need time to get used to the idea, and time to thin about the good parts of having Daisy May for a pet. Hugggggggs to you, my friend. As you say, she will be waiting for you at the Rainbow Bridge, knowing that you loved her and had to do the right thing by all of you. Brightest Blessings in love and light.

Sweetheart no one has the right to judge I am as you know a very big Dog Lover I have always had Dogs in my Life which always where Rescue Dogs, Gissi is the 4th Rescue Dog, when we take an Animal that had been badly treated or made to feel insecure for the start of Life, we take a chance, we love them, we care for them, we protect them, we teach them to trust again, let them know that we will not let anyone hurt them again and it is hard work, a lot of patience (which you have had with Daisy May) a lot of love (which you gave her) and trust (which Daisy May was not willing to give as she was in bad shape) Some Dogs yes they can change which fortunately 3 of mine did, but one Dog, Sheba, did not, she would turn Vicious just like that for no reason, never towards the Children though who where only 2 and 5 then, I was not taking a chance though and put a mussel on her, I tried everything with her to get her to trust me, in the end I took her to the Vet and explained what has been happening and was happening, the Vet checked her over and she tried several times to bite him and attack him, so the Vet had to give her something to make her drowsy, she then told me that checking the Dog over, and the way she was acting earlier, the Dog is damaged, her life had been so bad, nothing I do would help her and she might end up killing someone one Day. I had Sheba for 10 months, I got her out of a Home where she had been tied in the Hall way on a short rope, she had scars from where she had been beaten regular, the Vet also found other damage on her that was not visible, so I had to make the Decision there and then. The Vet said I could think about it, while she had another Patient in I sat a room with Sheba, I stroked her, I told her I am so sorry that my Love was not enough to undo the damage done to her, she looked at me with sad eyes, for the first time I saw something in her eyes close to love, I think she knew and knew I had no choice, yes she was fine with me as such but I never knew when she would attack again, the vet told me that Sheba had Brain damage due to blows on her head in the past and that one Day she will attack my Children and me, I held Sheba and again for the first time in 10 months she cuddle into me, which made it worse for me, the Vet gave her the Injection, Sheba went to sleep in my arms, her face was relaxed and no fear or fierceness to be seen anymore, Sweet, it takes a long time to let a pet go, thinking it is you who killed it, but I realized I did not kill her I released he from a Life of trauma, pain and Memories, we can only do so much and if there is danger then we have no choice, it is part of the love we have for them Do not blame yourself do not feel bad, Daisy May has been released from the suffering in her body I could go on but I have already written a lot here lol , So before anyone here puts the abuse here, it is hard and a chance we take when we take on Dogs that have had a terrible Life before very hard I could write a book about it believe me Love you Sweetheart, the Pain will ease

Oh, I am so sorry. I know you loved her and you tried so hard to help her. I can remember how tormented you were sometimes because you wanted to do the right thing and she was so impossible some times. You did a fantastic job with her I am sure, but you also did the right thing. It was very concentious of you to do what you did. You knew it was not going to be possible for another family to go through what you did, and you put her to rest. I am so sorry you had to go through this. I know you did the right thing and it couldn't be avoided. Go easy on yourself.

Oh I'm so sorry to hear things did not work out with Daisy May, but you tried and did the best you could with her, and it is all that you can have done. Even though you loved her, perhaps it was not enough, and now she is at piece and rest in a better place. Not to mention the other pets that you have could not keep going through what she was doing to them. I also think you did the right thing by not passing her onto someone else, as they would of went through the same heartache you had to. My heart goes out ot you, no matter what losing a pet really hurts.

I never had to put an animal down because of aggressive behavior. I train dogs. The only reason i had to put animals down, poor health or old age/poor health. When u get a dog that is damaged to the point that you got her, you have a very rough road ahead of u, trainer or person that lus dogs. Sometimes u win, most of the time u don't. The animal usually wants it their way or not at all. When u cannot put up with it any longer,there is a mercy rule. At least u didn't beat the animal to a pulp, as most aggressive dogs go. Most end up in very bad ways. You still can hold your head up and be an animal luver.. The pain takes a long time, only remember the good times... ALWAYS LUV YOUR DOG/PET, THEY WILL ALWAYS LUV U..

I am so sorry for your loss. It is always hard to have to have a pet put down. Sometimes it is due to physical damage and in other cases it is due to mental/emotional damage. You could not keep a dog that was dangerous to the people and animals around her. You did not cause the damage; she was that way when you got her. You did your best to try to help her; but, the damage was too deeply ingrained. Do not feel guilty. It was not your fault. The blame lies with whoever caused this dog to become so aggressive in the first place and then "passed the buck" to someone else. At least YOU were responsible enough to make the proper decision and not pass her on to someone else.

I'm sorry to hear about Daisy Mae, but you put up with her biting a lot longer than I would've. You gave her every chance. I'm sorry for you that you had to do it, but at least you took the responsiblity and didn't pass on the problem to someone else. You can't have an agressive dog, even a small dog, and if she had gone to one of these places where they properly evaluate the dog, then she probably wouldn't never been placed for adoption at all. I know it hurts, it hurts to put down a healthy animal, heck, it hurts to put down a sick animal. They do become part of the family. And when you can accept that you have done the best thing by doing the right thing, you can get over the guilt.

Oh teapot....number one I've missed seeing you here since I remember you were having a lot of problems with your husband...has that situation changed any? When I saw in my email a notice you started a discussion I was glad to see it, until I read about Daisy Mae. I'm so sorry things didn't work out with her and she continued to be so aggressive not only with you and biting, but your other furbabies....you had to think of your safety and theirs--you did everything possible to make it work but it didn't, so don't blame yourself ((((hugs))))))

Hi tea~ I know how very difficult it was for you to write this post. It was very hard to read it so I can't imagine how you were able to write it. I am crying too, for you and for Daisy Mae. I know how very much you loved her and how hard it was for you to make that decision, but I know that you had no other choice. You tried to fix her, but you couldn't, as you said the damage was done a long time before she came to you. You did the best you could. No one would ever say you didn't try. You had to protect yourself and Petie and the cats! I am so sorry tea. I know how terrible it is to put a pet that you love down no matter what. I understand and you had no other choice so don't feel guilty because it wasn't your fault. Daisy Mae understands and she is waiting for you on Rainbow Bridge. I hope she is with my cats Mystique, Cougar and Jaguar too! They will take care of her! Mystique was no angel, she bit me all the time so they will get along really well. I'm so sorry tea, don't feel guilty, I still love you and you did the right thing, Love, Opal/Leslie