When is it time to break up with someone?

I'm starting to think everyone has at least some of these in their relationship. I have fun with my friends too, if its more fun, does it mean I don't like him anymore? I care about him very much, but he said he wasn't ready to say that he loved me for sure, and then in a way, I can't really love him now, and I'm not sure how I feel, because its kind of like stepping backwards all the time. He trusts other peoples opinions more, his friends, for sure. But we havent known each other that long, just i would expect more since i felt we were close.

Give a simple test to him, and see how he reacts. Do it in a one to one situation. Tell him that you have to go somewhere for a few days. Ideally this should be true. Listen at what he has to say, and look at his body language, after you have said the words. If he cares for you, he would probably ask when you would be back, and most likely with a softer voice. It is because deep inside his heart does not want to be separated from you. The jealous part ask who you are going with. Depending on your answer the follow up question may touch on the activities you will be involved in. Physically there will be signs of being uncomfortable with the situation. An example is a slight shifting of the eyes, or staring at you due to the unexpected news.

Yeah that's a very good summary. I mean whether or not they hurt you on purpose or whether they have a personality problem, it doesn't matter. You shouldn't have to be with someone that makes you feel bad.

Does that mean the relationship has been bad for a long time? Cos I don't want to experience that, again. I don't think people should be hanging on til the ship has sunk. I think people should watch out for icebergs in the first place and steer clear of them before you hit it. But i agree, you made a good point about feeling free. Its weird if I feel more comfortable hanging out with my friend or something because I know my friend wouldn't freak out, but I'm not in a romantic relationship with my friend, so maybe you never know what people are like till you know them more. So I'm confused of what good, lasting relationships are built on. I think trust, but its hard at the beginning of the relationship if someone doesn't really trust you yet, so in turn I can't really feel totally comfortable with them even though I can talk to them.