what do you do when your tooooooooooooooo mad

I don't get really mad anymore, it costs me to much. If I do I just get very quite and leave the area so that I don't damage anyone with the things I'm going to throw or the words I'm going to say. My next reaction is revenge, I plot and plan how I am going to get even. Now there have been times in my life when I did this for real. But now I know that I will make myself terrible sick with a headache so I come out of anger pretty quick and then my sane mind kicks in and I start looking at what made me mad and why, that usually cools me down fast. For many years I was a hit first and ask questions person, but not anymore. I guess it's called growing up.

I was a kinda self destructive person when i got very very very angry... I choose that because maybe that was better than to hurt someone that hurts me... Anyway, actually so destructive at all... When i'm so angry, i just go to a pub or club and drink a lot until so drunk.

What I am going to write is not too remarkable but that is the way I am and I do plan to make an effort to meditate and change- Enough of introduction , let me come to the topic as to what I would do-- I just get tears of rage in my eyes and without doing anything concrete either by way of giving it back good to the person who hurt me or just leaving the place, I would allow some smarter person to get the better of me and then come and wail and lament at home to my husband and son with stupid tears of rage in my eyes.Now, I prefer not to deal with aggressive people.

I'm sorry something has upset u that much. I DON'T ACT VERY NICE WHEN I get mad.I talk very ugly & very loud.

i used to be violent when im angry like i throw things whatever i see in front of me but now i have learned to control it. when i get angry i would just cry then i would feel ok afterward. you call it anger management.

i am more on a patient person. I don't usually burst in anger.

i thought yesterday was a fun day and when i logged in today, i found you mad about something. it is pretty serious i believe since you don't want to go into details. hmmnnn... when i'm slightly mad about something i have to let off steam for a while and in a few minutes it will be gone. when i'm too mad for words... nobody should dare speak to me because i might say something i might regret later, coz when i'm too hurt i just might lash out at someone. they say the most dormant/inactive volcano unleashes the eruptions of great magnitude. i guess that's what i am. i can pretty much tolerate a lot of things but when it becomes too much, people close to me knows the signs when i'm mad coz i don't speak to anyone at all. the best jokes in the land won't even make me smile. i've only been really mad twice in my life, once in highschool and once at work a few years ago. the latter, i was wrongly accused by my boss who didn't have the balls to apologise after everything has been cleared the next day. i was so mad then i couldn't bring myself to cry. i didn't know how mad i was until my colleague and friend told me my nose was bleeding! whatever the cause for this outburst, maintain your calmness and reasonable side. being self-destructiive or hurting back the person who have hurt us will just bring hurt to us even more especially if the person you are mad at happens to be family, friend, or your partner.

hello HelScream, Well, as far as I'm concern if I'm really really mad I better go somewhere or away from that person to avoid things that I don't like to happen - like hurting her or him physically and emotionally. I don't like things that will happen that eventually make me so sorry of what I did. So, for me it's better to go away and be back when both of us are ready to talk and solve about it. For me, I guess this is the best.

I take a step back and wait until the anger is gone...I don't try to hurt anyone back....that's not me. But when the situation cools....and I am thinking a bit more on the civil side..then I find a resolution.

I don't remember being mad anymore. It is something that I have learned not to do because it makes no difference at all except making the situation worse. cheers!!

This isn't something I like to admit, but I have a very short fuse and a bad temper. When I'm mad, I have a short twenty second (or so) fit of rage then I calm down a little. Music helps calm my nerves very quickly, so I often carry my iPod around with me just in case.

i used to be violent when im angry i throw things whatever i see in front of me but now i have learned to control it. when i get angry these days, i would just cry and then i would feel ok afterward. you call it anger management.

I know exactly how you are feeling. It seems like everyone will have some sort of problem or dilemma and if it doesn't go our way, we get upset and angry and want to just go really mad!! The truth of the matter is we need to be careful how we react when upset and try to control ourselves. I'm not the type of person to take revenge on someone who has done anything bad to me but we must leave those things to our ruler. They are the ones who will take care of it all and it isn't worth getting upset over someone or something who has hurt you. Let it go because they will get theirs sooner or later.

I get really red and usually i cry I usually talk about it to someone and i feel better but first i cry

Vengeance is my middle name. Actually it is Elizabeth. Anyway, when I get angry and I mean really angry I start thinking of the proper revenge.these days doing nothing is the best. In other words they are assuming I'll do what they yelled at me to do , I am not doing it.When I get angry , only time and being alone And the proper revenge will calm me down.

Me? I don't get mad easy. But, this morning I was very angry! I have a course to learn German on a DVD with my computer. It does not work properly. I have to be very calm when I start it. Sometimes it does not record what I say, then I end up saying the same thing again and again with no result. This gets very frustrating. Sometimes I think I am pronouncing the word(s) good but the computer course tells me I am not. Even my BF who speaks German, has problems with it, hahaha! Well this morning I had to get away from the computer for an hour. I was very angry! I went and watched some tv to calm down. hahaha! Screaming at the computer is not going to help. hahaha! That is what I started doing, hahaha! Normally when it comes to getting very angry with people. I try to ignore or walk away. When I really get angry and my hands start to shake, then that person is in trouble. My hands are very fast. I don't say much, I try to just walk away to calm down. But, like I said, that normally does not happen to me. It is not easy to make me angry. To make me sad or disappointed yes, but I don't get angry.

I don't stay in myself when i go mad. I do things which i should not do. But now i am trying to get out of this problem and stay calm when i am mad. But it seems it is not easy.

when i am tooooooooooo mad... my adrenaline pumps up, i yell at the person i am mad at, say everything what's on my mind, break things. am not self destructive, nor do i hurt back (physically) the person i am mad at. but on being a mom and kids did something real bad that makes me so mad, i have to spank them, i dont break things.

Usually when I get mad I go into a self-destructive mode.. I do not want to hurt someone else the way that I was hurt.. But there comes a point where I just blow, I use to be a walking time bomb.. and any little thing would just set me off.. I had a major anger problem.. There was a point in my life that I would use my fists instead of my words.. As I got older and wiser, I have learned that words can hurt even more then my fists.. But now I am finding that the best way to really get your point across to someone is talking what you feel with out raising your voice, and then just leave it alone.. Silence is a deadly killer... The other person has no idea what to expect or what you are thinking.. Which can either make then extremely pissed off, and/or defuses the fire completely.. So then you can talk out your problem and resolve it. Instead of adding to the fire which can and will get out of control eventually.. Which ends with either both or one of the people involved in the fight hurt emotionally and/or physically hurt... Yes there is one person in my life that I am extremely mad at, I would love to have that person feel my wrath, but it would not solve my hurt, just make it worst... So I just do not talk to this person at all.. Its not worth all of the drama.. There is too much more to live for.. I hope these words possible help you with your anger, and I hope it did not make it worst..

I just keep my self calm, coz if not I can that person who hurt me. I'm not a bad boy who spunk the one who hurt me but if they really want me to get mad they will see. Haha I can't imagine myself like that. Happy mylotz!