Whats wrong if men cry ????

Cry - Crying is the best way to release emotions
India
June 27, 2009 1:10pm CST
Well somehow I don't understand this myth that men should not cry, and that shows that they are strong. even scientifically speaking i feel that crying has a lot of benefits.......many studies state that crying has helped many people come out of their frustrations, tensions, bitter feelings, grief, etc. but still i find people who believe that men who cry are not strong, maybe emotionally but still i feel that crying is really harmless and has nothing to do with strength or might..... Somewhere down in our heart we are weeping for something that go wrong in our lives, then why is it that we tend to build it up...... Offcourse people might not just cry in front of anyone, but then yes they do cry when they are alone or in secluded area.......it happens to me sometimes and i cant really let my tear glands flow out..... What do you think about this ????
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Crying is healthy and i cry on a regular basis! I have to cry! If I don't I would take my problems out on everyone! This has gotten me in trouble before because I have a bad temper! I have learnt to control it if I didn't I wouldn't have any friends and no one would want to work me! Crying is my outlet! I try to do it when I'm by myself. Crying in front of people who don't understand or know, me isn't a good thing! Yes is my best stress reliever!
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• India
28 Jun 09
I agree.....crying is the best stress reliever, i do feel relived when i cry.......thanks for the response !!!!
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@PRIYANK1992 (1678)
• India
28 Jun 09
If something really serious which hearts the man then only he will cry otherwise there is no chance..........
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@jesspsk (53)
• Brazil
28 Jun 09
If a man don't cry, I think he's so cold... everyone cries, don't matter how strong he/she is.
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• United States
28 Jun 09
Men have feeling just like a woman....of course they should cry. I dont think it comes as easily as it does with most woman,,,but they do cry even if in private. Dont let em fool ya!
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@OConnell87 (1046)
27 Jun 09
i dont see anything wrong with it, i think its good that a man will cry infront of people shows they dont care that people know that they have feelings, and i dont think it makes them any less of a man, if a man cries in public because his child is missing, does that mean he is any less of a man, no of course not, shows he has a heart. Its just a sterotype that being stong means you dont show your emotions, but doesn't mean you have to abide by it.
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• India
27 Jun 09
wow, feels good......I thought here too people would say the same, but i am glad people find men crying a comfortable mean......and i hope people just relax and just take it as a part of our daily lives.....thanks for responding !!!!
27 Jun 09
crying is such a thing that helps a people to forget his/her miseries, past and sorrow, some people mite say to other people that if they cry then they are denoted as weak, not brave,scared,etc but i totally disagree with this fact because by just crying how can any body say that somebody is weak it doesn't makes any sense,for me crying is a brave thing, the person who fears to cry and thinks themselves as strong are a coward to me, anyone in this world might have cried once in their lifetime so we must not take crying as a negative phenomena,rather i think we must cry once everyday to free our mind with all pain, fears , bad things and make ourselves happy,so crying for me is a step towards a nice big smile and happiness,thats why we must keep on crying following with a smile.
27 Jun 09
crying is such a thing that helps a people to forget his/her miseries, past and sorrow, some people mite say to other people that if they cry then they are denoted as weak, not brave,scared,etc but i totally disagree with this fact because by just crying how can any body say that somebody is weak it doesn't makes any sense,for me crying is a brave thing, the person who fears to cry and thinks themselves as strong are a coward to me, anyone in this world might have cried once in their lifetime so we must not take crying as a negative phenomena,rather i think we must cry once everyday to free our mind with all pain, fears, bad things and make ourselves happy,so crying for me is a step towards a nice big smile and happiness,thats why we must keep on crying following with a smile.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
27 Jun 09
I think that the thing about men crying and how it's wrong, well that's just wrong. Men should feel free and open to cry no matter what the situation is, because crying is just a sign of emotion, and emotions are good. Men who don't cry, atleast in my opinion, seem to be too manly and buff, maybe even mean... I know that not all men that don't cry are like this though.
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• India
28 Jun 09
You are right, maybe its time now to come of of that macho world and let out your emotions........it feels good !!!! Thanks for the reply !!!!
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Yes machoism can go to far. I'm always glad to respond!
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
27 Jun 09
There's absolutely NOTHING worng with a man crying and I was raised to not have any issues with this at all. Of course there's a time and a place for it, but if I'm watching a sad movie for example and shed a tear, then what's the big deal? Am I not human? Am I not entitled to feel emotional because of something that is emotional in nature itself? I really do get quite frustrated when people state that "real men don't cry" because that attitude does far more harm than good. We all need an emotional release, I say let it out and NEVER be ashamed for it.
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• India
27 Jun 09
You are so very right.......i don't really like this particular phrase "real men don't cry" so does that mean men who cry have an immediate gender change......I just take it like an emotional release just like any other toxic release from my body.......
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
27 Jun 09
Even Alexander shed tears for there were no worlds left to conquer. And he was know as "Great"!
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
27 Jun 09
A man who cries is a man who is comfortable with his emotions and doesn't mind showing them. The shortest verse in the Bible is 'Jesus wept.' If it's good enough for Him, then it's good enough for the rest of us, isn't it? I don't hold with anyone - male or female - turning on the tap to order, but what is wrong with a show of sincere emotion?
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• India
27 Jun 09
I could not have put it in better way, If Jesus wept then why not common men like you and me......but then trust me there are many men out there who still don't like the whole idea of men crying and would try to hide their face out thinking that it is too embarrassing !!!! Have a nice day !!
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• United States
28 Jun 09
what if their not christians
@candy2306 (577)
• India
27 Jun 09
Human body is meant to laugh and cry. When a human can laugh the same human must know how to cry. So I don't know why men shouldn't cry. Men also have feelings and they have all the right to share their feelings. But I've seen in the National Geography Channel about Tribal People in Africa. In that program, the boys/men are not supposed to cry during their puberty test. The test is when the elder will tie the young boy who is ready for the test in a sack filled with fire-ants. These boys must be naked and not supposed to cry while they are tied p to neck high in the sack. Once the test is over he is allowed to clean himself and will be called as man. They will gain a man's respect from the tribal. Tribal men has to show they can handle pain and face danger. As they are leaving in wild with no choice apart from following the custom. I don't understand why men in civilised society is pointed wrong to cry?
• India
28 Jun 09
gosh i didn't know that, A test to test a mans strength in this way........it might be so very painful...... Yes and this civilized society still thinks that men should not cry....... Thanks for the response !!!!
27 Jun 09
There's nothin wrong when a man cry. Crying is way of venting out your emotions when you're sad, hurt, and even when your at the top of your happiness. a man is not measure when he doesn't cry, but a man is the one that let their tears fell without hesitation, because they are the ones who undergone hardship, who faces challenges and fears. "a real man is not measured by the strength of his muscle but by the size and strength of his heart."
• India
28 Jun 09
"a real man is not measured by the strength of his muscle but by the size and strength of his heart." wow its so very well put........
@mama_bear (1124)
• Canada
27 Jun 09
there is nothing wrong with a man crying, nothing at all. crying is a human trait and nowhere does it say it is for women only. i respect a man who is in touch enough with his feelings to not be ashamed to cry. i would not judge, just administer a hug *and not one of those weird macho man-hugs either* there is not shame in having emotion, i pity those who are not enough of a man to be secure enough to cry. and yes crying is very cathartic.
@whizkid08 (715)
• India
27 Jun 09
That's absurd, what's wrong in crying??!! Crying is another way of showing emotions and in a way it relaxes the muscles. You must have noticed tears come in eyes when you yawn. So, whenever those muscles are strained, they have to get relaxed and tears flow out. It does link with emotions, like when you feel disgusted, dejected, or tension, frustration etc but then it has nothing to do with the gender. And strength is in heart and in muscles, they don't link up with tears!!
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• United States
28 Jun 09
I do not have any problem with men crying and in fact its so rare Im sure many woman would flock to a man crying, lol (see, he IS human, aww). I do agree that its not a myth but a societal standard put in place a LONG LONG time ago SOME_WHERE probably when men were put into battle to fight war, just a guess not very sure, and look at boxing--I love it! and Im a female but you never see boxers crying after a fight (though Ive seen many that have WANTED to, face doesn't lie) or take Ultimate Fighting, once I did see a guy crying from a fight but that's because he got kicked in his precious 'jewels' and any man would sympathize with that! Nearly all sports reinforce this behavior and if a man got caught crying at work i bet you 9 times our of 10 he would be accused by his male counterparts of 'being a girl' and that's just not how men are 'supposed to conduct themselves'.
• United States
28 Jun 09
lets not forget at birth we designate for our children boy and girl colors, boy and girl toys--yea, you can say you allow your son to play with Barbie but would you let him walk around with it in public, sure you'd catch some stares because this is a collective norm PUT into place that many abide by as soon as a child is born.
@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 09
Well, for me a man will need a cry if he feels sad. But a man who cry in front of his lover is a real man, because he loves her. It is so touch if I see my man is crying... So I don't think what's the wrong for man to cry.
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
28 Jun 09
there is nothing wrong when men cry ,afterall we are all human beings and there is an extent to which we can all endure situations, so i don't feel suprise when i see a man crying its just a show of feelings which is everyone, some men do try enough not to cry over some situations but then ended up going into hiding and crying over the same situation
• United States
28 Jun 09
I think society often paints a stereotype and then people think they have to accept it and adapt to it. I think a man who cries is a much stroner man who does not ..because it shows he is not bound to rules and molds ..he is not afraid to let his emotions show ..or his sensitive side.. Men have emotions just as much as women do..why should they supress them.. Men end up drinking because they cant cry .i feel.. Better a good cry then a lifelong alchoholic.
• Philippines
28 Jun 09
Before I give my opinion, let me first ask this question: Are we the same person *every* time or do we fulfill roles depending on who we are talking to? Of course the easy answer would be "no", but in fact we behave differently in front of different people. We show only facets of ourself to a person; a parent, a sibling, a friend, an acquaintance and a significant other would have different perceptions of our personality and we tend to fulfill those expectations with our behavior. Taking this a little further, society also imposes norms onto its people, a guideline to what "correct behavior" should be. In this case, crying men seems to be unacceptable to some cultures because it connotes weakness and loss of control, but obviously culture is relative. Now, on whether it's "right" or "wrong" is dependent to the culture that views it, but morally or existentially, there's nothing wrong in having a good cry - even if you're a man.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
28 Jun 09
its all a myth. Men should be able to cry and let out their feelings just as a woman would. It has been proven to be unhealthy for anyone of any gender to hold in emotions.
@angelajoy (1839)
• Philippines
28 Jun 09
I don't really mind men crying. My boyfriend cries in front of me when he's feeling really sad or frustrated. I don't think it's silly. I even encourage him because I believe that it's healthier to cry than to bottle up all your negative feelings. Many men actually have a heart attack because of trying to keep a "macho" image. But of course, there's a limit to how often a person should cry. We should all cry for the right reasons and not just because of shallow problems.
@whelsw (8)
• Singapore
28 Jun 09
There is nothing wrong if men cries...weather he cry or not still he's human being wont change. infact crying is good, this is where you can express what you feel when you hurt,sad,disspoint,stress,happiness.thnigs were natural for all of us and there's nothing wrong with that.