Why does their personal life matter so much??

@mommyboo (13207)
United States
July 4, 2009 1:44pm CST
Between all the venom I see spouted by people who have problems with MJ because of his 'personal life' and the raging jerks who are probably responsible for Sarah Palin stepping down as governor of Alaska - can anybody tell me WHY everyone has to attack people's personal lives? Yes, I KNOW that there are some odd things about Michael Jackson but I don't KNOW him. Is speculation enough to hang people figuratively? I am starting to think that with great talent comes issues - look at all the icons who had messy personal lives, drugs, alcohol, overdoses, arrests, affairs, suicides, you name it. As far as Sarah Palin, I refuse EVER to see what her family business has to do with her ability to be governor or to support McCain. I could not BELIEVE the garbage in the magazines and news about her daughter and her grandson and this, that, and the other. Do people not know how to separate one thing from another? What is it? Just jealousy? Just people wanting to... I dunno... trash others for the fun of it?? In my opinion, the whole stepping down thing makes her look like a quitter - and I hate it that I'm sure OTHER PEOPLE are responsible for this. In Michael Jackson's case, he can't defend himself because he's DEAD, so again, it's just really a shame. How is it that other people care SO MUCH about somebody they don't even know personally, enough to rip them for things they only speculate about - which don't even concern them?
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@OConnell87 (1046)
4 Jul 09
its a part of human nature to critisize others other their personal lives, but it is partly the medias fault for reporting such things and more than often exaggerating the truth
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Don't get me started on the media, they are EVIL. EVIL I tell ya lol. Although I suppose I'm kind of glad they are doing coverage of Michael Jackson, only because I'm interested. I don't want to hear crap though, I'm looking for info about the autopsy and then just.. remembrances I guess.
@FFFrocks (306)
• Canada
5 Jul 09
Here are two things I heard once: 1. The things we hate most in others are usually the things we hate most about ourselves. 2. It is far easier to critisize others than to critisize ourselves. I'm not saying that these apply to everyone but I believe they definately play a roll. It makes some people feel better about themselves to find and point out the flaws that they see in others, celebrities specifically because they are so public. It gives them an outlet to vent about the things that they can't admit or confront in themselves, and act all righteous about it. In the case of celebrities or public figures it's ten times as bad because the media gives it so much attention due to the fact that they make money off of it.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Jul 09
I know this is going to sound mean but in light of those two things, it seems like a lot of people are very lazy. If there's something you hate about yourself, why doesn't someone CHANGE IT? I was a very shy teenager, to the point where it hindered me. I got sick of it so I did something, I enrolled in a speech class where I'd have to stand up in front of people, I enrolled in a drama class, where I'd have to act in front of people and do productions. I put myself out of my comfort zone and made myself well... bulldoze through it. Because of this, I am a different person today. I will approach almost anybody, facilitate introductions, host things, try to help someone who is lost, etc. However, it didn't just HAPPEN. It took time and effort and a desire. I feel a lot of people want things instantly. They want to get thin instantly, get rich instantly, get good at something instantly, etc. It doesn't work that way. Some people are just born with a certain talent, other people really WANT IT so they work hard to learn something and become skilled. There are some people I am not fond of certainly because it seems like they've wasted something, but if they actually have talent, I won't begrudge them that.
@FFFrocks (306)
• Canada
6 Jul 09
that doesn't sound mean, it sounds true. I believe some people are truly lazy or they just don't care. It's funny you mention shyness. When I was a teenager I was so shy I would have panic attacks. It SUCKED! Took lots of effort and failures to become the mildly crazy and outgoing girl I am today.
• United States
6 Jul 09
You said it in the beginning, its jealousy, Palin and simple. Even if you got the media to sit these people down and ask them the questions we all want to know it would be twisted and taken out of context. I think that MJ was a great performer, that's all I knew him as and that's how I'll remember him. Palin is a mother first and a politician second, those who blur the two can't understand why their political punching bag is stepping down. Who will they find to try and destroy next?
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Jealousy bites. As a tool to help someone be motivated to improve themselves, maybe it can be good but in general, what a lousy emotion/reason people have for shifty attitudes and actions. Perception really does rule the roost, people believe untruths more often than truths because it's how they see something, not how it really is. I'm sure I'm guilty of that too but I try to back off from it when I know I don't really KNOW the person or I'm outside of the situation - although when it's someone you actually know but you're outside the situation, sometimes you can see it more clearly.
@34momma (13918)
• United States
6 Jul 09
because that is what miserable people do. that's what people do who have no life of their own. i mean who gives a sh*t what people do in their personal lives. as long as they are not braking the law. who the hell are we to judge other people. I say folks need to get a life and not worry so much about what other people are doing! nothing worst then a Hater!!!
• United States
5 Jul 09
Negative drama tends to attract people for whatever sad and pathetic reason. Celebrity magazines are so elementary yet people read them everywhere and they have high rates of subscribers. I agree with you. Sarah Palin's personal life is none of our business, yet the media makes it seem like it has everything to do with how she does her job. The media attention on her pregnant daughter was ridiculous. Does anyone know how to completely control the actions of another human being? No? Then was it her "fault" that her daughter was pregnant? Things happen that people can't control. Sarah Palin is no exception. Michael Jackson seemed odd to many people. I never understood why. So what if he had an amusement park in his backyard? So what if he looked funny? I cannot judge his character because I do not know him. You are completely correct...people have no idea about others unless they truly know them, and with celebrities, that is never the case. We tend to assume and base our judgements on our assumptions. This is why I'd never want to be a celebrity.
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Jul 09
I'd never want to be one either. Any mention of 'rich or famous?' I'd choose rich without anybody knowing about it. I would seriously threaten the life of some reporter or camera hound who I caught stalking any of my family members or asking friends about me - and you know people like that follow/stalk and question friends or family members of celebrities all the time. It's creepy. Then the same reporters and magazines make fun of said celebrities for punching out cameramen or ranting in public, but seriously who wouldn't try to protect themselves from intrusion? LOL! I've even laughed from time to time but then the thought occurred to me - what if that was ME? yeah, I'd be crazy angry too! It would have been wiser to completely keep her daughter away from all that. Things happen. Her daughter was still a minor I think, why couldn't she have just said NO about anybody mentioning/filming her? It became all about 'her pregnant daughter' because it was allowed to happen, I don't know how exactly but I do think parents have rights to say no filming of their kids or no mentioning their names/activities, etc, don't they? I just try to put myself in their shoes and either way, I don't come up with anything approaching reasonable justification for some of the things people assume or blame on them. I do know though that if it was me and happening to me, I'd just go on with my life and do whatever I was going to do and the comments, gossip, issues OTHER people have - be damned. Whatever. I wouldn't let it affect me or change anything I did because what are other people in the scheme of life? No influence at all if that's what you choose them to be. The mistake is when celebrities allow it to become personal and affect their lives negatively and influence at all what they do.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
5 Jul 09
Not just the two you mentioned but any celebrity. I don't really get it either. I did not follow the OJ simpson trials nor Clinton's. I don't understand the intrigue into their lives but you are very right....it is there. Look how the tabloids sell.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Jul 09
LOL! I didn't follow the OJ Simpson stuff either but the boyfriend I had at the time... his mom was GLUED to the tv during that whole thing. This was before tivo I think too so that's all she literally did, which is funny in retrospect. I didn't pay attention to Clinton either, honestly the only reason it bothers me about MJ is because I like the music and I don't think what kind of person he is or was has any bearing on the significance of the music.
• United States
4 Jul 09
We have turned into a nation of gossip mongers. I guess we do not realize that gossip is just as lethal as going up to someone and hitting them. I think that we are a selective society. If we like someone it is okay to close our eyes to their faults, if we do not like someone's ideology it does not matter if they are doing a good job or not, they are open target season. All in all it is the public that buys this stuff and therefore pushes the engine. Every time we want some "news" on someone we buy into the slaughter. I know I've been guilty of this.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Jul 09
One thing people can do is not let the gossip or false news affect what they do, but that's why I mentioned Sarah Palin. It doesn't matter what people say or have said, her actions present one thing and it's hard to see it any other way. I'm not sure if it has to do with other people at all but it looks that way after all the crap she has been through. I wish people did not play the gender or race card in politics, I don't care what gender or race someone is, and neither should be counted as far as ABILTY TO DO THE JOB and stance on issues. Whatever happens in their personal life shouldn't even be mentioned, because again, people tack THAT onto how they feel the candidate will do their job. It has nothing to do with the job tyvm.
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
4 Jul 09
In the case of Gov. Palin, I'm pretty sure it's jealousy from the women. She is pretty and intelligent, and a lot of women can't handle that, especially after hearing men everywhere saying that Palin is hot. Another reason well known people get dragged through the mud is probably boredom. The average 'joe and judy six-pack' don't have a life, so saying cruel things gives them something to do. By the way, I just heard on the radio that Palin said she is not ruling out the possibility of a run for the presidency. So let the trashing begin!!
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@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
4 Jul 09
Thank you for this discussion. I don't see why their personal lives MATTER SO MUCH. I don't know why we care so much - that's why I ignored most of the MJ discussions about his life (I think I only commented in one discussion). I didn't know the man - I knew he was a great talent. HECK! I didn't know if he did all those things he was accused of doing back in the day, and look now! It's crazy, it's ridiculous. And this whole Sarah Palin thing - it's gotten so out of hand! Even her kids are being dragged to the tabloids. This is what reality tv has done to us!! We care so much about "reality" that we don't care if we hurt people along the way. We speculate about how these people live their personal lives and we judge them without even thinking twice!
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
6 Jul 09
I think they deserve a break. Whether or not I agree with whatever either of them did is beside the point. It doesn't change the existence or value of talent, does it? Not to me. I would never want to be famous, NEVER. I can just imagine running over a paparrazzi person with my car and then where would I be? Fighting a jail sentence because I didn't want the idiot stalking my daughter? LOL! Some of the stuff they do looks ridiculous to us but we don't always know what caused them to snap, do we? I think it is even worse to stick your family into the spotlight to get it off of you, when instead you could get it directed completely AWAY from all of you if you try hard enough! I always think of the fact that these people have families too, at some point in their lives they were just normal folks, it bugs me when they get put up so high on a pedestal it's almost like people start thinking they aren't even human.