OMG I was just chatting with her yesterday

@dawnald (84124)
Shingle Springs, California
July 9, 2009 1:17pm CST
One of my online friends (from Yuwie) was murdered yesterday by her husband. He was arguing with her son, shot the son, then her and then himself. http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/5532745/ She's wanted to get away from him for a while, said he was an alcoholic and that he could get nasty. I'm just speechless.
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@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
9 Jul 09
Oh my gosh Dawn, that is horrible. I haven't been on Yuwie in months and months, but is it someone I would have known from before? You can PM me if you think I might have known her. We all hear about these things but when it happens to someone you know, it makes it all the more horrifying. It could be any one of us ...
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
I'm pretty sure you didn't know her. She came on a little over a year ago, so she wasn't one of the first groups of people on Yuwie.
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@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 09
Hello dawnald, I am sorry to hear that. I am speechless and I can't imagine to have a same situation like this; like knowing that someone that's just being murdered is actually my friend. Not long ago, I heard a news that one of myLot members passed away on the operation table. It wasn't tragic like what happened to your friend here but I felt sad for her and the family though I didn't know her at all.
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@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
9 Jul 09
I just told my mum abt this story. She said the man must be mentally deranged.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
9 Jul 09
Dawn you are kidding, I can't believe this Why and what was going on, do I know the Person? I am so sorry Dawn that this has happened to a Friend of yours, I will go and read it now
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
Really sad. She was Mystical Lynda on Yuwie. Here is her myspace profile: http://www.myspace.com/ljs53 Do you recognize her?
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
9 Jul 09
Yes I do she was not on my Friends list but I have seen about at Yuwie, that is so sad I just read it that is so terrible
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
yeah, we used to chat and laugh and complain about our husbands, but she never let on that it was THAT bad with hers. :-(
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@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
9 Jul 09
Sh*ts happen so get use to it. I don't know why su*cide is common among westerners. Am not saying it doesn't happen in africa, but in my area its very very rare.
@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
9 Jul 09
What the heck kind of a comment is that? A man killed his family in cold blood and then killed himself ... and you say 'get used to it?' I can't believe you would post something so cold-hearted and callous.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
Yes, sorry, I think that comment was out of line.
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Megaplaza, 2 innocent human beings were murdered in cold blood, one being a mother, another being a son. IF IT WAS YOUR MOTHER OR SON WOULD YOU SAY S*IT HAPPENS SO GET USED TO IT? I doubt it, and if you would, well that just goes to show the kind of heartless prude you really are!
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Sorry to hear this Dawn. It's always sad when something like this happens but it really hits home when it's happened to someone we have grown to know and care about. I being a SURVIVOR of domestic violence try my hardest to stress to people how truly important it is to get out of that situation, but so many don't listen, as I didn't because I "loved" him. People want to leave, but they fear being alone, being able to financially make it, and whether or not the abuser will come after them. They need to know there is always a way out to safety ALWAYS someone somewhere is willing to help. It's really terrible that Lynda didn't make it out before it was too late. My thoughts and prayers are with her family, and thank you for posting this as I did not know.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jul 09
A friend on Yuwie also suggested that friends and family let the person know they have a place to stay if they need it. I think she thought she had the situation under control though. :-(
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
12 Jul 09
Yes it is truly important, as many think they don't have anywhere to go, or are more afraid of the challenges ahead if they do go, then they are of being abused. Unfortunately whomever is the "victim" won't leave until they have their mind set to do so, and even then they will go back to the abuser more often then not. Hopefully though they will make their decision to leave for good. I wonder... an idea came to mind, but I don't want to talk about it here. I'll send you an email tomorrow.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Jul 09
Oh gosh I missed this reply!
@katsmeow1213 (28690)
• United States
9 Jul 09
How terrible! Sometimes I wonder how people like that are allowed to walk the Earth! How old was the son, any idea?
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
The son was 21. I so wish she had gotten out while she still could. She though having her son there would make her safe.
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Some times people just don't think these things will ever happen to them. It's the saddest thing!
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
Yep it is...
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 09
Oh goodness. So sorry to hear this. How could a person think that he is powerful enough to claim the lives of others and then himself? Gosh, I'm so sadden by this too. You stay strong there. Take care
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jul 09
I don't know, but if he was going to kill somebody, too bad he didn't just shoot himself first. :-(
@savypat (20248)
• United States
9 Jul 09
I am so sorry, this is when a news headline becomes fact for you. We live in a world full of violence and feel that it is an acceptable way to deal with life/s problems. It is common to blame yourself, to reexamine every word to see if you might have helped. Don't waste energy on this, there was nothing you could do, now just send good energy to your friend to send her on her way. Blessings and tears
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
I wasn't really blaming myself, though now that you mention it I do wish I had spoken to her more strongly about leaving. But can't change the past. May she rest in peace.
@cynthiann (18576)
• Jamaica
9 Jul 09
I'm so sorry tha this happened. So senseless.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
Yes, very. Sigh...
@kircho (493)
• Bulgaria
9 Jul 09
What a shame. That is very bad. My deep sympathy.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jul 09
Thank you.
@bunnybon7 (30476)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jul 09
this is just so sad. we never know whats going to happen to friends online and it hurts when we couldnt help them and they wouldnt even take advice from us. it could have happened to me a couple of times. some men are just crazy when they drink. wish God had seen fit to save her also. so sorry.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jul 09
This one was obviously crazy...
@debrakcarey (19925)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Thinking about what I should have in place if something prevents me from being online for a time, or forever. I value my online friends and would not want them to be left wondering. We are only physically connected by keyboards and wires. The heart connections are stronger and need to be honored.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jul 09
True, some people just disappear into cyberspace. Very sad.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
22 Aug 09
Wow I am so sorry, I don't know what to say, I am speechless, what a coward he is/was,
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Aug 09
Yeah, why can't people like that just shoot themselves first...
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
23 Aug 09
Hi dawnald, Exactly what a horrible thing to happen, I am sorry, I could only imagine how you felt, we have to really be careful now a days you hear this more now then ever, these men are nuts, they take their children as well, I really hope he burns in he]], I don't want anything to do with an aggressive man, you never know what they are capable of, someone woman feel when men control them its love, Not, its his insecurities and he will hurt you if gets the chance, we all need to be careful with the men we choose to have relationships with, so scary thanks for sharing.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Aug 09
:-)
@babyangie27 (5178)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I just spoke to her a few days before this happend and the very day before she had commented my myspace and uploaded some new photos of her and a butterfly morph type thing. SHe is finally free and now an angel even more than before. I feel so bad for her son,he had 5 kids. I just wish I could ahve helped her to get away. I have some of her poems scottsman just emailed me. I will miss her and don't understand why this is so common lately.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 09
Here is a link to some of her poems also: http://www.helium.com/users/459263/show_articles
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• United States
12 Jul 09
Thanks dawn I will bookmark it so i can read them.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Jul 09
They're on her myspace page too...
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@nancyrowina (3852)
10 Jul 09
My god that's awful dawn, I have nightmares about something like that happening to my online friends and I'd never know because there would be no one to tell me. Life is really ugly sometimes and with a situation like this there's little you can say or do to comfort someone or yourself. What was her user name on Yuwie? I have a feeling I knew her too.
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10 Jul 09
Just found out she was mystical Lynda from Yuwie radio, she wasn't on my friends list but I remember her show.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jul 09
That's right. Her Yuwie profile is gone, she deleted it a while ago. But here is her myspace profile: http://www.myspace.com/ljs53
@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
10 Jul 09
So sorry to hear the news of your online friend and her son both being murdered by her husband, and shocking news for you, especially since you were only chatting with her the day before. She should have left him a long time ago, she might still be alive today, and her son. I often wonder why some women stay in these abusive relationships; your friend paid the ultimate price for not making the decion to leave him sooner. So sad.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jul 09
yeah there's a message there. If you're in an abusive relationship, leave now. There may not be a tomorrow!
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
22 Aug 09
Hey Dawn - thanks for BR!
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
10 Jul 09
Hi dawn, I saw the video and its clear that they had a verbal fight before the actual event came to the fore. Now these are the recurring events world wise. I do not understand what is the undercurrent? Ok you get divorced or something that pleases you but killing and all is too bad. I feel sorry that you lost a good friend of yours.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
10 Jul 09
Its really a sad event....
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@janebeth (2035)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
hi dawnald, that is very shocking, but it's true.. condolences for her..!! let's just pray for her soul with her son..!! that man should also be kill.. it's so disgusting.!
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Jul 09
He killed himself too. Too bad he didn't do that first!
@betlynfrnds (1138)
• United States
14 Jul 09
I am very sorry dawnald. Please accept my deepest sympathy. Many of the members here at myLot are very caring and supportive. I hope this will help you.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Jul 09
Thanks1
@MsTickle (24756)
• Australia
12 Jul 09
What is the world coming to? This must be a dreadful shock for you my friend. I know I would be totally devastated for an online friend to die in such a way. I didn't know this person and I find I'm having a bit of shock as a reaction to your post. Big hugs to you dear one...hope you are ok.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 09
Yeah, I'm ok, but it was definitely a big shock.
• United States
12 Jul 09
yikes!:( how sad..the poor woman. i've had a couple of online friends die,but from natural causes. urgh..that's just awful.
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@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 09
There were two girls over on Yuwie got caught up in a car jacking that went wrong, but I didn't know them.