I am feeling very insecure..

@jugsjugs (13045)
July 16, 2009 12:22pm CST
I have been married for nearly 13 years and now i feel we have a big,big problem in our marriage.If he has done something wrong with who ever i wish he would tell me at least then i will know why we have a problem.Would you want to know if your partner had been with someone else?
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@doormouse (4619)
16 Jul 09
i'd definatly want to know.....ask him ! you've got nothing to feel insecure about,you're a great person and friend and the kids are lovely,you're too good for him anyway
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@loki1982 (782)
• Dallas, Texas
16 Jul 09
Yes absolutely. The girl I lost my virginty to, cheated on me within about a month. I had to find out through other people.
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• United States
16 Jul 09
yes i would infact i had that same problem but the diffrence is that he acted like everything was ok i new there was something wrong i could feel it then when i asked him he said no but i did not believe him so one day this girl told me on the phone so i asked him again and he told me the truth that it only happened 1 time we talked about it and some how worked through it but he knows if it happenes again i am gone . i believe that if a girl believes something is wrong most likley there is so talk to him about it.
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• United States
16 Jul 09
Hi! Most of the time, our suspicions come from our own insecurities, not from whatever someone might have actually done. My husband and I are 100% honest with each other, and over many years, there have been things each of us has done that make the other unhappy. Still, we discuss it and work it out. I used to be very insecure, and I worried all the time that he'd be with someone else because I thought I just wasn't good enough. After a long, long time, I'm finally secure enough to believe that we really are a great couple! I wish the same for you.
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@paying (123)
• Singapore
16 Jul 09
Yes, I would like to know who is he/she? And why him/her? What do you want next with our relationship?
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@snowy22315 (45558)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I would want to know if I felt they werent committed to me. If it were a one time occurence I would think it would be better for me if I didnt know. I dont want to have to worry and think about that situation all the time, if it didnt threaten the marriage and someone just got carried away I think they should keep it to themselves.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Yes i would like to know,truth always hurts...but i want to know the truth from my husband directly,rather to know it from other people. It is really hard to think each day what is going on with our relationship,thinking everything is alright,then all of a sudden we will see the world crushing down right infront our very own eyes.
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@tbmorris1 (158)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I'm sorry you're going through this after 13 years of marriage. Communication is an important part of any relationship. It would be wise to sit down and talk to him about how you're feeling and ask for his complete honesty with you. I would want to know if my husband was seeing someone else because there would have to be a reason for it. It would be important to me to figure out why he is seeking attention and love elsewhere. Good luck with it and I hope you're able to work things out. Don't give up on each other!
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