Will you delete your mylot friend?

Malaysia
July 25, 2009 5:43pm CST
Do you follow your mylot friends' discussion? And if you notice your friend is having a bad attitude on mylot will you delete them from your friends' list? Bad attitude as in calling people names, saying people are stupid and things like that? I accept and send friend request when I see that this person is always starting good discussion or always giving good comment, so that I can learn or join them sometimes but it hurts my eyes when seeing someone who acts very bad in discussion. It simply portrayed who or how they are like in real life. Please comment. Peace.
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19 responses
• United States
25 Jul 09
I have deleted a member in the past because they ended up being very mean to another one of my friends and it was totally uncalled for, maybe I care too much what other people think, but I didn't like the thought of people thinking that I am friends, even on mylot, with some that can be over the line rude.
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
I understand you perfectly, just like in real life, you won't hang out with bad people, it gives you bad reputation.
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@kumarpslv (3216)
• India
25 Jul 09
NO..I am not following any one's discussion and I will not look at the user name of the discussion starter at all.I will accept if I get any request for friends and I have not deleted any one from my list.Even in future I may not do. I don't understand in a place. Do you mean calling the make of the members as bad attitude? Am I misunderstanding it? If I am correct, just mentioning the name of the members can not be considered as a bad attitude..But other is really a worst attitude..As I am not looking into the name of the member, even if some one misbehave with the others, I may not able able to identify them easily..Such people can never be a successful one in their real life..
@kumarpslv (3216)
• India
26 Jul 09
Yes..you caught it exactly..Here we are communicating with others via keyboards..we need to think before typing...still we have enough time to think before submitting...If we submit such words in a public forum then what we will we do in our real life..we don't have enough time to think..the flow of words will be much faster..we can talk 100s words in a minute as we like what ever it may be without considering anything.. will be have a smooth movement with others if we do so? If some one breaks the terms of mylot, then even mylot will not call them as "stupid"..Then why should we?We are having the option of "report abuse" ..Why should not make use of it? That's why I am not looking at the discussions starters name at all..If we look at that, we may come forced to think about the old discussions where we had some disputes with some other members..If we started to thinks of this, then this will reflect in the response of the current discussion..
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• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
What I meant by calling names was saying other people is stupid, you know, cursing other people... telling others to fcuk themselves (oppss, I said it!). :-p
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
I think what Kumar meant was if that person has the same bad attitude in real life, then that person will not be successful. Meaning, if outside mylot, that person goes around talking with others with bad language, then not many people will like that person. Ah, erm... well.. just some misunderstanding... :-)
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@marguicha (215570)
• Chile
25 Jul 09
I have too many mylot friends to keep track of all they say. I have some special mylot friends (the ones I´d like to meet in person someday)and those would never say rude things to anyone. I do delete friends once in a while. If someone asks me to be their friend and in 3 months they have no activity at the site, I asume they are not interested anymore. I suppose that, if they come back, they will ask me again if they are interested. Happy mylotting
• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
That is more like cleaning your space... hehe.. :-)
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@marguicha (215570)
• Chile
25 Jul 09
Yes, it is.. And I really need it, if I want to get to know some very nice people who post here. It´s like a housecleaning.
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@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
26 Jul 09
I have several friends whose discussions I follow, because they post good discussions and we seem to be on the same wave length. I can't see any of them being disrespectful to others, but if they were, I would PM them and say I thought they were out of order - anyone can have a bad day, after all. If anyone persisted in rude behaviour, I would certainly delete them. I don't associate with habitually rude people in real life, and I wouldn't want to do it online either. To a certain extent, we are judged by the company we keep, so it pays to be selective in your friends. As you only know what people want to tell you on Mylot, I would say you need to be especially careful who you accept as friends.
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
You must be very close to your friends in mylot to be able to PM them and tell them that they were going a little bit overboard. Yes mem, that is what my mum always tell me when I was kid and I intend to apply that now in mylot. Thank you for your reply.
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@jb78000 (15139)
25 Jul 09
well i check profiles before accepting or requesting so see more of what they write so this hasn't happened to me, yet anyway. yes i would though, i don't want someone rude and senseless on my list.
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• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
maybe it is better that way so that we will not have to mind their bad attitude after that.
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@korki4 (263)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
For me, i will onyl delete those who i think are inactive in myLot now, if they're annoying me to join their sites and if they're trashtalking me ;}
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Yes, you are right regarding the inactive members, it is also to clear some space of your list.
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Thanks for commenting axl... Happy lotting.
• El Salvador
26 Jul 09
I agree whit you, because If he is really your friend never gonna talk behind you, and he not deserves you
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Jul 09
If my friend acted that way, I'd first try to talk to him/her and find out why. If it were someone on my friends list that I had little to do with anyway...I'd probably just avoid that person. Maybe they are just having a really bad day...it happens but it isn't ok to treat others that way.
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Nah, just by reading the whole discussion is enough to let you know why he did that. I'll maybe let it pass if it was only one time, but quite a few comments were rude and I don't want to read that kind of discussion every time because you do get notification from mylot when your friends started a discussion. I think I am not being too fussy but if it was healthy argument then I won't have problem with that. Some people here are just down right rude and have no manners and respect for others. To save my mood, I think I'll just avoid them just like you said or rid them once and for all. I think I am being reasonable, I have my own reason, it is not a childish decision and I will stand by what I believe. Thank you for replying, happy lotting! :-)
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
31 Jul 09
I probably would remove them from my friends list if they were being really mean and disprectful to people. I don't like it when I see people treat other people nicely. So far though thankfully I have never had to consider removing anyone because all of the people I follow regularly are all very nice. I only ran across one nasty person on here and that was during the election. I try to stay out of political discussions but this guy was just totally wrong and I just couldn't help myself and commented. I was respectful though, but his response to me was not. Other than that every one has been nice here.
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
It is annoying to face people like that, imagine what they are like in real life? I guess we'll never know.
@chivann (138)
• Cambodia
26 Jul 09
I wont that do that. I still keep them..it's my personalities no reason...lol feel free to play free games at www.game4pal.com
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@payout (3794)
• United States
25 Jul 09
To be honest I just add anyone who asks me for a friend request because I love having friends and meeting new people so yeah I just add anyone. I don't look at there discussions or there profile i usually do that after I add them as a friend haha.. well yeah I guess I'm just different. =P
• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
it is okey, some people do that because they were provoked by others, that I understand. I was referring to those who came here for the sake of poking people around. Honestly I do or will delete people like that. :-) Happy lotting!
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@lala501 (1532)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I dont delete my mylot friends. I just answer there discussions. Why would you delete for. They cant get in a fight with you or anything.
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
well, my opinion is that if I don't do something about it then it is like supporting what she/he did or said. I won't go around telling people not to be her/his friend anymore, but it is enough if I just do my part. Who knows maybe in the future, they will do to you what she/he did to others. It's just my opinion, so I better stay away.. thank for replying..
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
26 Jul 09
I have never delete a friend. I also often treated rough here. But I still try to respond wisely. Do not be affected. Discussions with friends who care and positive thinking indeed fun.
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Thank you. That is what I am trying to focus more on now. Positive friends.
@edrian (17)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
When we accept friends,the attitude of that, i think he or she wanted to limit his or her friends.But i think is their choices they made and no matter what happen we have to continue this mylot website that gives us,a good opportunity.I don't care if someone deleted me but the most important is we continue a peaceful discussion.
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Thank you. That's what I want also, healthy debate and peaceful discussion is fun. It can stimulate your brains, more like a brain exercise.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
26 Jul 09
When I respond I first check my friends' discussions, I try to find out if something will get me interested there. If that's what you mean by following, then I do, but not religiously though, because if I don't have anything to share in their topics, I leave them alone and find something else. Fortunately I haven't encountered any on my friends' list that is rude, or anything close to your description. I accept all friends requests sent to me, I assume that before they requested for my friendship we must have met somewhere here at myLot already (most probably I responded to their posts, or they responded to mine). I don't think I will delete anyone on my friends' list - if at one point they're not so kind, maybe they just had a bad day, I'll let it pass. If they are naturally rude to me and/or to others, then maybe I'll just stop responding to their posts.
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• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Yes, maybe just an ignore will settle my mind, hopefully next time this won't happen again. Maybe I should take note of what everybody posted here as I really don't want any bad reputation.
• India
26 Jul 09
No never i never ever delete my friends on mylot account it is a not so good delete our our friends i have never delted my friends on mylot accounts so i would never do that it anymore and it make so trusted and made be again
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Okey, points taken! Thank you..
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Hi there! I am very lucky for I have no rude friends in my list. I have a lot of friends, some have come and go but none have been rude to anyone. Well none that I know of. I choose my friends carefully. I don't accept a friend's request outright not unless our discussions and responses have come across each other several times. I also check their profile first before accepting friendship cause I like those who are really nice people and their discussions reflects their personality. But if a friend of mine becomes rude to someone here, I will not be judging him/her immediately. My friend could just be having a bad day or that the topic just triggered the anger and became rude. Unless he/she does it often, then that friend's notification will be turned off and I will forget about him/her. I will not be deleting the friend from my list. Deleting won't do any good. It's just the same as turning the notifications and you will not be answering his/her topics. Ciao!
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Thank you for sharing. I too will be more careful accepting friend request from now on. Happy lotting.
@anangf (1146)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 09
Sometimes, there is a friend from my friend list that have been not active for long time. Maybe they are leaving myLot.. Then, I will check their last log in, if there is more than 3 months myLot will delete their account, so their account will be no longer in my friend list too...
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
That is one of the reason to delete, thank you for replying. :-)
@akuler (3531)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
Hi chi2nasrin, Sometime I do follow my friends discussion and sometimes not. I only response where I think I can contribute something to that discussion or because I want to have some fun with them . So far I never see my friend do that here. But I am thinking to deleted some of them from my friends list for other reason like not active or copy and paste someone discussion and make them his/her's. In your case, I will deleted them. It is not rude to do that for a rude person. We always have some disagreement on certain topics but that is not the reason for being rude. There is a lot more nice ways to show your disagreement. Happy mylotting and have a nice day.
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
Thank you so much for commenting on this... :-) Have a nice day to you too!
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
If a friend behaves that badly, I just have to delete this person. Mylot is a community, and we are suppose to be helping each other and behaving badly does not in anyway help in anyway.
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
Exactly, I mean, some people will remember things that you said. It is just not worth it to hurt other people here on mylot. We have to accept whatever other mylotter's comment on us, be it good or bad and it is never wise to get boiled up because people gave us good comment but against what we believe. Peace.