My Partner Do Not Want Me To Grab The Promotion!What To Do?Need Your Opinion!

customer service - My Partner Do Not Want Me To Grab The Promotion!What To Do?Need Your Opinion!
Philippines
July 26, 2009 5:58am CST
This is in relation to the post that I have made yesterday. Before going further I would like to thank all the members who has responded to the discussion yesterday and give their opinions and advices. For those who do not know what I am talking about, it's all about my promotion. My team leader chosen me as his assistant team leader in our company. Anyway, for the information of everybody, I work as a customer service representative. The problem that I am encountering is that if in case I will be promoted there will be no increase in my salary but my workload will be doubled. Based on the discussion that i have made, many says that I should try the position, since eve there is no salary increase, I can use the position whenever I applied in other company. I approached my partner about this, and informing her that i was promoted. I thought she will be happy for the achievement that I get, but i was wrong.her first question was, "how much increase you will get? "I told her "none.". Without letting me finished, she told me that "do not grab the promotion, it's a waste of time. You will be getting nothing."I understand her because we are experiencing a crisis now.Many mylot members said that I should grab the opportunity, my partner do not want me to grab it, what do you think should i do? Let me add that I am running as a Top Customer Service Representative of the year and if I get the position,I will get an award of just like a two months salary. Now, what should i prioritize? Who should I follow?Please share your opinion.
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14 responses
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
have you told her everything she needs to know? why doesn't she agree with the thought of that promotion? its better to still talked things over my friend. as what i have said, think about this thing a thousandth times before concluding to such problem. and decide with a open mind and heart. think of what you really wanted and the consequences that you might encounter if or if not you will accept this promotion. always balance the things that must be prioritize and the effects this may give to you and your partner? well as for me, your decision is still the last say of this whole scenario my friend. because its your work and life we are talking about.its nice that you and your partner have talked about it but hopefully she knows the whole thing will still be decided by you! advices and help from friends and loved ones, i know is totally needed. but still its all up to you. think about it. and if ever you really wanted that promotion then let her know and let her understand your side and just talk about it again. that hopefully no hard and long arguments may come up between the two of you. so just pray and you can do it friend. just have faith. jhelai
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Communications really help. I will have to speak to her about this concern. I get her point why she reacts like that. I know it for an own betterment. I appreciate to the response that you made here and in my previous discussion. I will explain her everything, so that we will just be arriving in one decision. Thank you for sharing your point of view.
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• Philippines
26 Jul 09
and you are most welcome my friend. happy mylotting as always my friend. and thanks for a very nice comment to my responses. jhelai
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
You deserve to have a positive rating for a wonderful comment that you are doing in the discussion
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I'm sorry but I tend to agree with your partner. Your workload and your stress level will be doubled and yet they are not compensating you for this. Obviously you are good at what you do and that will go toward your benefit should you apply for another job in another company. The mere fact that you were chosen will go to your benefit. I think it is very unfair of this company to expect you to double your work without any pay raise at all. You are very loyal to even consider it but I wouldn't do it. If they hire someone outside of the company, they would have to pay them more than they are willing to pay you.
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
i understand your point of view and the point of view given by my partner. So you think I should go with the top csr position rather than this decision,do you think it would be a better decision? thanks for sharing!have a great day!
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I think you should speak up and say that you can not do it unless given a pay raise. Then I think you should be keeping your eyes open for another job that is willing to pay you what you are worth.
• Singapore
26 Jul 09
Dear rberon1985, Your answer lies in the very comment you made, about you expcting your partner to be HAPPY about your promotion, but to your dismay and dissapointment, she all she seemed to care about was MONEY, which is typical of some, if not all ladies(excuse me dear ladies) What I would suggest you is to go ahead with the promotion, who knows, this could be an opportunity for you to be a better and a stronger person, the reward may come later...so go ahead!
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
I have already come up with the decision yesterday about this concern, I decided not to grab the opportunity,but there is a big problem that happened to my manager this day.He was suspend for 15 days for violating such rules to the company,all his jobs was transferred to me event hough I am not yet ready for the said position, but I have no choice.Anyway, thank you for sharing your point of view. happy mylotting!!
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
it's a good thing you have opened up this topic to your partner, but i can say that her completely agreeing to your idea is doubtful. even though she's thinking about it, women can always change their minds, it's ok later on but not ok after wards.most specially in this idea that you put on to her.never rely on our response, but the situation and your decision, were just input, your the answer to your question, think about it.
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
that is the problem with girls, they don't have one decision.i appreciate your response to this discussion, yes you are right it will be my decision already.thanks for sharing
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
[b][/b]My son also work as CSR, he was also offered a higher position in his company, when he was only about 7 months in the company because of good standing, but he let it pass, because of the same reason as yours, more work load and stress but fixed salary rate, he said he will earn more with the OT pays rather than with fixed rate, although I want him to accept the offer for future reference but didn't pressure him, he was just 19 years old then, worked there even before his graduation march. Maybe he made the right decision, coz he left the company after three years when he felt that he's not happy anymore with the company's policy. Follow your instinct, if you feel that it will be good for you in the future take it, not everybody is given the chance, just talk to your partner and say what you feel about the offer and with good explanation she can get your idea. Good luck!
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I tried to analyze and figure out my work while reading your response. Being a CSR is actually not easy. i encounter different people from different walks of life.if being CSR is hard, what more of being an assistant team leader. i really have to think of it.My decision will be my future, so I should have a wise decision regarding this. thanks for sharing your opinion, may you have a great day!
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Hi rberon, its me kelvin, I am a CSR also who worked in a graveyard shift. I know what you feel. The head aches, stress and sleepless nights. Anyway, being assistant leader is a stepping stone where you can reach what position do you want in the near future in a call center industry. I think you really need to open this up again to your partner for you can discuss some things regarding your work. Maybe your partner thinking about " Time " if you can still provide this to him/her if you will grab the opportunity. He/ she will understand whatever your decision is as long as you will talk about this seriously. Let me just tell you this rberon, the decision will still be coming from you and not from your partner..Good day..
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
First of all kelvin, i would like to welcome you here in mylot.I hope you will be enjoying your stay here in the site, just continue to be active here in the site and you will have a good earning. Just feel free to ask me if you have some concerns. I appreciate your response to my discussion. I know that I really have to think of it. I can consider this as one of the biggest decisions I will make in my life. This will predict my future, so I really have to make a wise decision. thanks for sharing.happy mylotting!!
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Before deciding make sure your partner gets the full detail. You wouldn't want to go on deciding something and going home to the war of the century because she'll be blaming you a lot for not listening to her. Remember that she's your partner, so regardless what the mylot community is suggesting, you will be living with her and not anyone else in the mylot community. Talk to her again, this time, don't go dropping the topic all at once. Try beating around the bush. Like, tell her that last year's Top Customer Service Representative got two month's worth of salary. That'll make her eyes pop since she's in it for the money (as I observed when she asked right on how much you'd be getting more). This would get her into thinking, mention too that though there's no salary increase, it'll be a chance for you to go on a higher and more-paying position, not to mention that soon you'd not be working too hard as those people who are down below the rank are doing (what you're actually doing right now). Make her see the point, make her decide. If ever she still wouldn't agree to it, tell her that's it's her decision, and if she didn't want a mediocre life and you wanted more, tell her you tried, but it's her who decided that it's better to be below and working hard for the money than to take the risk of achieving great dreams. You see, she'll say no but she'll think about it, if you post it to her that way. It takes timing, but the most important thing here is that you showed her that her idea or point is being listened to. You'll see that if you use that type of psychology, she'll not want to stop you from achieving more because she'll feel she's your partner and whatever decision you do, she will be with you in it. However, if she just blocks everything, try to ask why she's doing so? Perhaps she needs more of your time and it seems that work is more important to you right now but you're not earning much. There are reasons as to why a person becomes negative or a pessimist. Try to check it out. Further, make her realize that the opportunity won't just wait for anyone, she should decide if she's one of the winners by taking risks for the future, or one of those who's just going to let things pass because of too much fear and negativity. Good luck!
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
I cannot say anything on your response to my discussion. The only word that comes out in my mouth is "FANTASTIC". You have enlightened my mind. You have given me a chance to realize something. You give direction to my decision. I really appreciate the effort of responding as long as this. Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
I understand why your partner did not want you to accept that promotion... If they will hire somebody else (outsider) for the position they are offering to you, definitely the salary will be higher from what you are receiving right now... And what will you do with your promotion? You are not benefiting from it... all the benefits go to your company... Doubling your workloads wihtout getting any raise? Hey, we all work for living and not for titles!!! You can still get a higher salary and a higher position from other company even if you did not accept that promotion... It is all depends on your capability and how you sell yourself.... It is good that they see and appreciate your potentials but it is not good to do that to you or to other employees. You need to earn what you deserve. That is unfair and unjust rberon!!!
@calyxus (827)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
A promotion is still a promotion whether you get an increase in pay or not. Grab it! It will give you new avenues to sharpen your skills. And try to handle new responsibilities, it will make you grow. Sometimes, partners just make things complicated. Especially if you differ in opinions. Well, you should be the one to decide what's gonna be best for your career and not your partner. Anyway, congrats! I really hope you grab it. Opportunities knock only once.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
27 Jul 09
Try to convince your partner with all the good things that can follow this promotion.The reward shall not me money always.Gaining top position,more exposure in the field,reputation in and out of the company,etc.........everything will be a blessing in disguise if you accept this promotion.Money too will be soon following in double when you get on to the next step.So,convince her and take charge.Cheers!
• India
27 Jul 09
Your partner is being distinctly short-sighted. I don’t know what you mean by ‘partner’ i.e. whether you are in for long term relation or just dating but if she has your future career prospects in mind, she would not object to your learning more at the same salary. Why don’t you think of it as a practical course which you would be undergoing without having to pay for it? I mean if you are to enroll in an institute and go thru the same grind, you would have to pay for it too. Here you office is giving you a chance to upgrade your skills and you are not taking it!
• China
27 Jul 09
think twice
• China
27 Jul 09
Same as yesterday's recommend,I suggest you grab the position at first,then try for the salary....
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
I think that it would be better for you to take that promotion. You may have added work without added pay but when the company makes money, you will surely benefit from it. Besides, you do not have to stay in that job for long. A higher position will be an advantage for you when you apply for another job. Just think of the whole thing as a stepping stone towards a better career in the future.