My 10 year old is out of control.

United States
July 27, 2009 12:42pm CST
I'm not sure what to do but my 10 year old is out of control. If I tell him anything he always come back with a smart answer to me. If I punish him he just sneaks off. His father and I are divorced and do not get along. I feel that let my kids got away with more than what I should have during my divorce and now I'm paying for it. I think in a way he wants to live with his father but I think its a bad idea and he acts like he does to me to try to get me to send him to his dads. Does anyone have any ideas on what to do to get him calmed down towards me.