Listening to the stories of our elder relatives

United States
July 27, 2009 7:21pm CST
Hello all. I know some people, myself for instance, love to listen to the stories our elders have to tell about "the old days," while others find it boring. I do think their is much wisdom and family history to be gained from our elders, even if they tend to tell the same things many times over. What about you? Do you enjoy such conversations? Do you ever tire of hearing them? Karen
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
28 Jul 09
My grandfather loves to talk and he always loves to do it while I am in the middle of something, lol! I have been trying to make notes lately so I remember and I want to start recording him.
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Canellita. I think recording your grandfather's stories is a great idea. The older folks can teach us so much. I love hearing them tell of their memories of bygone times. Karen
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Some of his stories are actually quite funny. I want to do a book and because he is blind I want it released as an audiobook.
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• United States
30 Jul 09
What an excellent idea!
• India
13 Aug 09
Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, Now-a-days we are the oldest, but hardly anyone has time to listen to us. Gone with the lapse of time, good old days, when we used to listen lot many stories, as this was only our pass time. Computer was only in imagination. TV ha dnot come, we will listen lot of stories from our grand-parents at bed time. If we take this mYlot as international Family, do we listen to elders. Not at all. We argue to find faults with elders. I always think argument must be after little thinking, what others say. May God bless You and have a great time.
• United States
14 Aug 09
Hi my friend. I think it is a great loss to anyone who does not listen to and enjoy and learn from the stories and history of their elders. Perhaps someday? And yes, technology is wonderful, but it cannot replace some things that I hold dear. Have a beautiful day, and God bless you. Karen
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• India
14 Aug 09
Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, So nice of you for your immediate comments. It is pity for all those who have no time to listen the elders and continue tradition with their age. May god bless You and have a great time.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I have to admit that I sometimes grew weary with my mother repeating the same stories over and over again. Now that I am beginning to retell my stories, I wish that I had taped my mother's stories and asked questions to get more background for some of them.
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• United States
30 Jul 09
What a nice idea...to have taped them. Perhaps you'll tape your own conversations with children and grandchildren. Karen
• United States
30 Jul 09
Great discussion. I do, sometimes, get a little bit bored- but only if i am not in the mood for it. My grandpa tells me a lot of stories from the past. If it's a story that he's told very many times, and im just not in the mood that day, I do get a little impaient waiting for the story to end- but mostly, I love hearing the stories. They're fun and interesting to hear. He's gone through a lot in his life and hearing these stories gives me a little bit more insight into why he is the person he is... and ways for me to solve problems in my life as well.
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• United States
30 Jul 09
What a beautiful outlook, Nessa. Yes, the repetition can get a bit difficult, but as you said, these stories help us know a person's reasoning far better and is an example for us as to solving problems. Karen
@pyarebhai (200)
• India
29 Jul 09
HI PeacefulWmn, Thank you very much for your comment, actually, when I am in early child-hoods days I was actually under my greate-grand mother, who used to have stories of fairies, the helping Angles, invisible persons who have helped persons in need. Those storeis were having its own loving impression on my child-hood imagination. Later when have developed interest in such stories, the same type of stories, I came across in Theosophy, which are more or less or same other words corresponds, with full of wisdome which is most usefull in our day to day life. So I like them most. Thank you very much. I love them
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• United States
29 Jul 09
Good day, Pyarebhai. Your great grandmother's stories for you sound fascinating, beautiful. And yes, our elders impart a great deal of wisdom to us, which serves us well our whole lives :) Karen
• United States
29 Jul 09
I love hearing stories from our "elders". I miss hearing them from my grandparents as well as my parents. Our elders are our ancestors. The things they pass down to us is sometimes priceless. They can tell you the mistakes they made and you can avoid making the same ones if you listen to what they are saying. They can be a wealth of information, maybe not now, but somewhere down the road. The stories never get old, but sometimes better. I hope my grandchildren enjoy mine. That gives me something to look forward to!
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• United States
29 Jul 09
Hello Facefinder. I also miss the stories of my grandfather and father. I am fortunate to still have my mother, though, and embrace her wisdom. I am sure that your own grandchildren will be happy to hear your stories :) Karen
• United States
28 Jul 09
Listening to our elders can be fun, amusing and educational. Sometimes they have some real good tales!
• United States
29 Jul 09
Hi Puddytat...yes, they surely do! They have had so many interesting experiences as well as having survived a lot of difficult times :) Karen
@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
28 Jul 09
My grandparents use to tell us stories like that, and I was one that thought this is so boring. Now that I am a older I wish I could remember what they said. We was doing a family tree and I couldn't remember any of my great relative names.I now have a mother-in-law that tells this kind of stories. They are no longer boring, and as far as her repeating her stories, I kinda need her to do that because I forget. We need to pay attention,because you never know when it will come in handy.
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Rosepedal. Perhaps children would find such stories a bit boring, but yes, as we mature, we learn of the value of these stories :) Thank you for responding. Karen
• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Karen...unfortunately I was not one of the lucky ones who had grandparents still living when they were born so I never got to interact with them and be told about the good old days. My parents were both in their late 30's when I was born and had both came through the depression and the wars but It still wasn't the same as being told about the settler days and the covered wagons that some have been able to hear and learn about. I have always wanted to try and look up and see if I could find any of my family on the internet and one of these days when I have time to put into it I am just going to do that. flutterby
• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Flutterby...I believe we can learn much from other elders, as well as family. It is especially nice, though, to hear from older members of one's very own family. I wish you well in finding more of yours one day :) Karen
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I love to listen. I may find sometimes it is boring. I think though though just want someone to listen half the time. Also You may learn something new.
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Jessi...yes, the elderly long to be heard and acknowledged just as we all do. And for sure, we can learn much from listening to and being with them : ) Karen
• India
28 Jul 09
It is said that exprience is the best teacher.how can one achieve exprience naturally through failures. But i feel that i can have exprience without facing failures. How? through the exprience of the elders. I feel that life without elders in the family is just like having tea without sugar. I enjoy most the company of my mother, grandfather and hearing to them gives me immence satisfaction.
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hello Rch...I agree that we can learn much about what and what not to do by listening to the experiences of the loved elders around us. Their stories are priceless. Karen
• India
28 Jul 09
When I was a child, I just loved listening to the tales of yore from my grandparents and other elders of the family. Apart from getting a magical glimpse into a lost world and my imagination running riot, these tales served another vital purpose for me. after the partition of India in 1947, my family had been uprooted and forced to flee their ancestral homeland and settle down here in India…being born in India, I have never been to the land my people used to call home…the land of my forefathers. The elders were my only link to that land…their stories transporting me to places and times which I would never be able to visit or recreate
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Sudipta...you explain so beautifully why I too love to listen to the stories and events told by the elderly we are fortunate to meet. I cannot imagine what some of them have been through. And yes, they provide a valuable link to our own heritage. Karen
• India
28 Jul 09
Ya I like to listen from my mother the past things that happened before. If there is time we use to discuss and have a nice time.....
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Phanden...I'm glad you enjoy listening to your mother's stories of her past life whenever you get the chance. I am that way about my own mom...love to hear how she was when younger, and how things were back then. Karen
@jenlooi (60)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 09
My mother used to tell us about her story during younger days whenever we have family gatherings. Initially it was very interesting but when she repeated it again and again, all of us felt very boring and annoyed but we would remain silent as a respect to her. Most of the old folks are the same, so just have to bear with them.
• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Janlooi...yes, some people do tend to repeat themselves a great deal. Like you, I respectfully listen to them any way :) Karen
@divkris (1163)
• India
28 Jul 09
I love listening to conversation like these. Like my grandparents or people of his age generally have very interesting stories about their day to day life. It is a good way to understand the life in those times. I also like to listen to them because older peope need your attention and when you make them feel special they feel good. However, i would be more attentive if the stories were told in a facinating way - everyonne doesnot have the flair of storytelling! :)
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Div. Yes, I think the elderly very much enjoy companionship and attention from us. It is amazing how much we can learn from all their experience. And no, not everyone has a flair for telling things in an interesting manner lol. Karen
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
have you tried comparing conversations between younger and the older people? isnt it true that the older people have that clean words for humouring his listeners while the younger ones seems to be so frank that they describe a situation in a manner sometimes offensive just to make it funny? well maybe its the generation gap thing again but honestly, i like talking to much older people. it is as if they can feel the sensitivity of the persons they talk to. well am not saying younger people are not sensitive because many are too. its a joy to talk with older people. they are not boring at all. ann
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Ann. I, too, have noticed the difference in the language used between the young and the old. I suppose it is a generational difference, but I do love to listen to the elders tell their stories : ) Karen
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
me, i love listening to the stories of my elder relatives! i love listening to the stories of my grandma on how my parents are doing when they are still young, or how the family is doing way way back! its quite interesting and exciting to me to know those things! hahaha specially when they are telling stories about their love life! hehehe...it don't get me bored coz somehow, i learn so many things from those stories! not only to mt relatives' stories...but as well as to my older friend's stories...i don't know just love listening to those things...and i enjoy seeing the old ones telling those stories with smile in their face...seems like they are enjoying reminiscing their past!
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Ckyera. It is fun to hear our grandparents share stories about our own parents, isn't it? I do think people enjoy reminising : ) And hearing from their own minds and mouths about the way things used to be can be fascinating! Karen
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
28 Jul 09
it gets old after a while. i enjoy modern stuff more and doing stuff the modern way. but it can be interesting to see how people back then used to do things in old fashion ways and compare how the times have changed and improved.
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Fifi...yes, sometimes the stories are repeated much or some people have trouble accepting new times and the changes they bring, but you are right that it can be interesting to hear of the way things were done before our time. Karen
@selina0625 (1383)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Yes I have to agree with you on that. I do enjoy listening to my "lola", my grandmother when i was a kid. She was always telling us stories about the old days...the days when we are still being occupied by the japanese. The stories are really shocking but it makes us realize how lucky we are that its all over and I do hope that there will not come a time in the future that wars like that will happen.
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• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Selina. The elderly ones have seen and been through much. They are survivors, strong and wise, and have so much value to pass on to us through their stories. I agree, we are lucky if we never have to live with wars or destruction right near our door. Karen
@pyarebhai (200)
• India
28 Jul 09
Hallo myLot friend, it is a fact that old stories from the wise old man were not only having wisdom, intelligent way of overcomming difficuties, solving prasent day to day problems, also shows right wasy for solving present day to day crysis. such stories containing practical wisedom in action, so every body young and old having some appeal, have facination, having its own hidden blessings, much interesting.
• United States
28 Jul 09
Hi Pyuarebhai. I agree with you that the the older people can guide us a great deal in solving problems, enjoy and dealing with life and people. They have much of value to share with those of us who listen to them :) Karen