A question to mylotters...Q1@2

I might ignore somebody if we continually clashed, but I would never delete them or their comments. Everybody has a right to their own opinion, and not everybody is going to agree with it. Personally, I would want to see what other people said, too. Even if it is negative. Sometimes it's good to look at things from a different perspective.

discussions are such because it allows...discussions. therefore, you cannot really anticipate how others will respond to it.the more diverse the responses are, the better it is so we can get a good idea of what others think about a particular topic.

I expect to get the unexpected answer to my discussions. I dont expect anyone to change their opinions or ideas just so they follow a pattern of responses. I want people to say whats on their minds. Some will no doubt come across as rude and offensive but the most important thing is how I deal with it.

Question 1. I expect all types of answers, I do not expect all positive. Negative can be good too, if it is about the subject of the discussion. If someone disagreed on a point, that to me makes a good debate/discussion. Would I be annoyed?, no, and if someone just put in a negative to try and gain attention, sorry I don't feed into that. They will have to find another person to try and get that from. If it something against the guidelines of mylot I will rate them negative, other than that, I don't rate it. Everyone has a right to an opinion.

I have gotten both negative and positive. I just consider the source. Sometimes they respond far off topic like they never read the post in the first place. My initial thought its to reply back but then remember my parents rules, "If you can't say something nice....!" And I think if they did a friend request I might just ignore it. Or see if it happens again. All in all most responses seem polite.

for me no its there opinion you must know to handle this kind of situation

Being a seasoned player in mylot I have learned not to take matters too personal. I don't expect others to agree to what I say and it is this negative remarks that make mylotting challenging. I have many times been tested by people here purposely disagreeing to my topics but being the the poster I have all the facts at the tips of fingers and know exactly what I am saying. To prove my points I have to elaborate from A to Z and after few counter attacks from the negative minded respondents they eventually give up as they have exhausted every avenue to come up with anymore valid tools to prove their points. I have on several occasions met with hot blooded people who can never concede defeat but in the end surrender because I have always tackle the issue diplomatically.

When I start a discussion, I would not expect there are negative responses will appear in my discussions because I mostly only make some "regular" discussions, I mena they are not like an arguement of what is right and wrong, I did receive some negatives ones though before, all I did want just skip that negative discussions and moved to the next one... don't want to argue back and crazy...

hi jaiho! i love that song! anyway, let me answer your question one by one. for question number 1. well, when i start a discussion i expect that someone with another idea than mine would respond. in fact, i'm calling for it. i want to know the other side of the story so i would really be happy if someone who's idea is different than mine would join. i won't mark him/her as negative and i would even mark them with a "+" especially if i liked their idea. well, if you are posting here and you don't expect another opinion, then that's no longer a discussion. if you all agree with the topic, then what is there to discuss? you'll all just be nodding and write "yes i agree" in the forum. well as for your second question, my answer would be "no". i'm an open-minded person and i don't mind differing opinions. i think that's very health. as long as there's no cussing or insulting in between replies. if that's the case, then there's no need to keep him/her in my friend's list. he/she didn't treat me with respect, as a friend would do, in the first place.

Actually it depends on the topic selected for discussion. When I am starting a topic I have to prepare myself to receive all kinds of response. It is not necessary that all should think the same way I think. I would never feel annoyed or delete anyone from friends list just because she responded in a negative approach.

Hi jaiho2009.. I like your name and your pics Accidentally, I've read your little argument with someone here when I send friend request to you. 1. well, I think if the response not contain any bad words then nothing wrong. it sounds childish to me if you delete the person just because didn't like the respond. When I started a discussion I will prepare and open myself to any opinion because it's an open forum and everybody have their own opinion. It's ok and if I disagree with that response, I'll make comment about it and thanks him/her for the response. 2. It depends. If the response cause my discussion have less response or the response offends me,or it cause bad impression to me and she/he fly away without explanation or answer my question to clear things up and this happen several times then yes, I'll delete him/her from my friend list.. I will send pm first before do that. I don't know what happened to you and your friend before but since i don't know the story from each side then all above is just my answer to your question, and I don't take side on you or that person.

Well, as long as there's no cursing of words or fighting relentlessly in mylot. there wouldn't be problem if the discussion i make has 0 responses for weeks ahead. some would reply negative probably as part of criticism or simple warning.

People have different opinion, hence we cannot expect all of our responses are positive. If I feel a comment is annoying, then I will just ignore it. I don't think it is a good way to delete my friend if it is just has different view points.

I like to hear what other people think, even if they do not agree with me. Everybody is entitled to their opinion, and I like to understand how other people feel about things. I wouldn't delete a person from my friends list if they didn't agree with me, but if they were being rude and nasty to me, then I would.

Hi jaiho, No chance dear. We can’t expect positive replies always and I appreciate if somebody criticizes me but nasty comments surely will hurt. I have received many comments against what I said but most of them know how to write the comments without hurting. We can express our opinion freely but surely not hurting others. It is not the purpose for being here. I won’t delete any friend if she/he gives a negative reply.

Hi jaiho. When I start a new topic, the first thing I put in my mind is the topic itself. I don't think how people will respond or will there be any one who will. First thing's first, that is you want to share your ideas, your knowledge to everyone. If someone response, then great. If none, then fine. If I get negative comments or bad comments, I will just ignore them. At least I shared what is something I wanted to share. If it happens the responder is in my list, I will remain him in my list. Happy posting, my dear friend...

Hello again my friend it happened to me twice but my critics was never my list of friends. We had an interaction about the topic he criticized but I leave him alone and never respond his topic anymore. The second time was when one of my friend here offered his/her online business sites..and when I was there already I got mad because he/she leave me hanging on the limb, he/she never supported me by not responding all my inquiries about what to do next..as if she/he guided me to those site for only his/her referral, she/he used me only to gain his/her points...we had a little quarrel and deleted her/his name on my circle of friends, as if his/shes an Indian national...I really got so mad.. When I would post discussions, though I am optimistic on it, I would not expect too much of how many would reply to avoid frustration. I had already so much topics that never replied...it was just fine with me...instead it inspires me more to write more...Nice topic..thanks...Good evening...

Hi Jaiho, on your question number 1: Well my answer is "Expect the unexpected". Here in Mylot, we are given a chance to voice out our opinions and thoughts so you will be reading ideas of people, be it your friend or not. It will be both negative and positive. A site will never be balance without these, so just expect it will come. On your question number two: I don't delete a person who is already on my friends list, when they responded negatively on my topic. So what, that is his or her opinion, i cannot do anything about it. As long as there will be no personal attack because that is against Mylot rules, and the Admin warned us already about this. So think of your post to be something which people will think well, not a heated argument or conversation which even if there are people fighting on your post, you don't put sides on them but be neutral. Remember to put down the flame and unite people here.

hi my dear friends... first of all, good day ahead.. I will combine the 2 questions together, and on my humble opinion, is that necessary that we rate the responses positive or negative? If we treat all responses are just responses, aren't we avoid the question of being getting negative responses? Well, we can't have everyone to accept our thought, and we can't expect people to have the same view. If we do, we don't need MyLotters to contribute to our discussion, as we already know we are always right, since everybody will agree with us. Also, if we keep saying the disagreement is negative, of course we will be annoyed. But, if we take it as just a response, we will view it on a different angle. Why do we want to delete the so call negative responses? If we do that, then, why post for discussion? When we discuss, we always expect to have the other side of the coins to show right? Sometimes these responses are the one that will have a hard knock in our head, and make us think twice. This is a good discussion I find.. and keep it up, my dear friend.. Don't delete me ah..

I never feel for any negative responses. I need to meet people and know their thoughts about various topics. Nowadays its cheeper meeting people in internet than to go outside and spend a lot to meet them. Any this is my suggestion. I too expect postive but never feel for negative. Cheers.