Not Responding to a Person's Discussions Because of How Many They Post

United States
July 29, 2009 12:22pm CST
I've seen countless discussions out here on mylot about how people refuse to respond to discussions because the person who makes the discussion posts something pointless like what did you do today, or because its only a 1-2 liner and there is no substance to the post. Well, there are other discussions that I refuse to respond to and I was wondering how many other mylotters have the same mindset as me. So you know when you click on an interest and you're looking at the latest discussions started, well at points there will be certain people that have 3,4,5+ discussions all on that page which turns me off for a few reason. The first reason is I wonder whether or not these people are making these discussions because they really want to discuss the topic or if the discussions got made because they think its the easiest way to earn money. For me I always think the latter because who can really respond to the replies left over 5 discussions when you are posting them in a 30 minute time span. So what are you feelings on the matter?
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@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
30 Jul 09
Hi there! You have a point to make that certain users start multiple discussions within no span of time. You may be right that instead of entering into some serious discussions, they just want to start discussions for the sake of it and may be for drawing attention of other users. I believe that starting discussions on trivial and irrelevant matters do not serve any purpose. I respond to only those discussions to which I can relate to or I've somethig to share. I skip those discussions, which appear inconsequential to me and I do not have any knowledge on the subject mentioned in the discussion. I normally do not start more than one discussion in a day because I know it is difficult to do justice with multiple discussions (I mean I cannot spare time to post my comments on all the responses). Good Post!
• United States
30 Jul 09
I completely agree with you, I know for me I wasn't expecting so many responses on this discussion so I am a little behind with trying to respond to as many as possible but thankfully is was the only discussion I had up because if there were 1-2 more like this there would be no way of me replying. I only respond to a discussion that I know something about because otherwise you are just rambling in order to make a response. But there are times that I've been interested about the discussion and even if I can't respond I'll post asking a question about what is going on so I can learn something. A lot of times there are more culture related questions and its always interested learning about another place in the world and how it differs from the US.
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@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
30 Jul 09
Hi another! Thanks for agreeing with me and for posting your meaningful comments. Yes, you are right if you have one discussion at hand, you can attend to responses appropriately. It is good that you respond to discussions which you can relate to and there is no harm in asking some inquisitive questions in a discussion. Please keep it up! Members like you make mylot a wonderful place. dpk
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Hi anotherxidentity, When I was new here I responded to all discussions that caught my attention. Along the way I started learning more about the written and unwritten rules, like posting discussion which should be as descriptive as possible. Knowing that one-liner poll-like discussions are considered devoid of quality, I stopped responding to them. It's because I don't wanna violate the guidelines. I share the sentiments of others that those starting a discussion should at least try to give information about the topic, not just like pop up questions asked in surveys. But it is also true that most one-liner discussions get the most responses. Well, to each his own.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I know when I joined I went through and read the guidelines and FAQ because this was the first site I joined that was like this and I wanted to know how things worked and how to be able to earn the most money. But another reason I won't respond to 1-2 liners is because they are against guidelines (most anyways) and I don't want mylot to delete a discussion I've responded to because then the few minutes I spend responding ended up being a total waste.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
31 Jul 09
You're right, and when they get deleted, there goes your time and money too. So better concentrate on quality posts. Have a nice day.
@dolphin2406 (1227)
• Poland
29 Jul 09
Hi, as said by other mylotters I reply to those that interest me as well. If the discussions have a good argument or I have something to add to that discussion, I will reply. It may be that some people have only few interests, that is, some may post mainly in the computer category because that is what they're most interested in. I have also noticed that this may be done to increase the ranking in that category. if I'm not mistaken your ranking is based on how much you have participated in that category. So this may also be the case. I have sometimes though noticed some people, new ones mostly, creating a lot of 1 or 2 line discussions in which they just ask a simple question, then they don't even comment on the replies received. They must have thought that the more discussion the more you earn. But now I don't even reply to those persons, i wonder if they read the reply in the first place. Have a nice day & happy mylotting!
• United States
30 Jul 09
I know some people don't have many interests, but the thing is when someone will have 3 discussions right above on another in the same discussion within a 10 minute range. If you have a few interests that is completely fine with me, just try to space your discussions out therefore you can give them all equal time to go back through and reply. I don't even think they look at the responses either. I know for me I have it set up to where I get an email each time I get a response therefore I can see the email then and then later when I have time I go back onto mylot and go through all the responses and start responding back to as many as possible that I can really put a reply to.
• Poland
30 Jul 09
that's what I do too, I receive an email notification. But I noticed that there are some people who don't comment back and you are right about the discussions by same people. After reading yours I started noticing these things more, I also so a person that has many discussions all asking one short question.
• India
29 Jul 09
Well, yeah, my friend. I have same mindset as you have. I always respond to the discussions that interest me or are of real life value. If the person raising the discussion seems to be doing this just because he/she wants to make money and with no point in the discussion, i don`t respond. I feel it is just wasting my precious time for some trivial money. I always prefer good, rationale discussions. Happy Mylotting!!
• United States
30 Jul 09
That is a good way to point it out. They're starting a discussion and you're only going to earn a few cents responding so why not respond to something more worthwhile where you'll be able to get a discussion going. It is a lot better that way and I'd rather constantly talk on one discussion then have to scatter myself out in order to make the same amount of money.
• India
30 Jul 09
Yeah, that`s right. Thanks for your comments. Happy Mylotting!!
• India
30 Jul 09
I do feel that sometimes one liners are really meaningful and often bring a lot of responses than the big ones.
• United States
31 Jul 09
There are a lot that do start those types of conversations but what bothers me is the person who starts them normally just asks the question instead of putting their own opinion in it. Like I could of just asked the question what do you think of people who make a lot of discussions all at once, but instead I took the extra minute and put in my opinion and not only do people now have the topic to answer on, a conversation from my opinion can start as well and it adds in detail to what I'm talking about. So yes meaningful conversations are started - but they can be started better.
@mdvarghese (1789)
• Bangalore, India
30 Jul 09
Hi....anotherxidentity Your topic discusses a valid point. As you told I used to post someimes 4 or 5 topics. Something will be one or two liners. I used to get responses for two or three topics and the balance ones are remained untouhed.So this may be one reason for not getting the proper responses. I will try to improve. Thank you for the tips
• United States
30 Jul 09
I'm glad you've learned from the mistake you made. And it is nice to have someone like yourself that use to post in this manner actually express the consequences from such actions. You're welcome for the tips and I hope your discussions do extremely well in the future.
@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I try to post discussion about once a day or sometimes twice a day. I do however wait several hours to post a new discussion. I have come across some discussions that are pretty strange or way out in left field. But those discussions are important to that person who started them. What may seem stupid or crazy to us may be very important to them. Lets post some kind of comment to them to show our support to them. Everyone needs a fair chance.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I do know the discussions you are talking about but even if they aren't getting many responses I don't really respond back because of that. I'd like to really know about a topic so therefore I can make a more meaningfull response and hopefully start a discussion out of it. But I'm like you, I'll wait a few hours because normally by the time I'm ready to start a new discussion my old discussion has stopped getting responses constantly so its a lot easier to manage.
@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I think I respond to any discussions that interests me, don't really care how much the creater posts. I know lots of us out there post lots of discussions within a day, some of them do have stuff to talk about, some of them just feel posting more and more to make money which I don't blame them, who doens't wnat to get more and more earnings? So do I! I try my bes to post, when I think of good ideas, I start a discussion ^_^ That's what I think.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I can understand people wanting to earn money but I don't think those people realize you make more money responding to a discussion you've started then starting 5 discussions all at once and not having the time to go back and make responses on the comments made to you.
• India
30 Jul 09
I know what you mean…same person starting about 10 discussions all at the same time…sometimes one whole page is covered with discussions started by a single person which is infuriating coz you just go on scrolling and it’s the same person everywhere. I usually skip all such discussions purposely coz I am sure they are started with the intention to just earn…only of any discussion really catches my eye, do I respond back.
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yes I have responded a few times but only if one of their discussions is quite description and has a lot of detail to it instead of the simple posts mostly asking questions. At those points once in awhile I'll make a response underneath my response just giving them a heads up about what to do in the future. I never try to seem rude about it but I'd rather help another mylot member out.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
I quite agree with you, sometimes they post topics in minutes, and usually its something that is almost similar. for example yesterday, this guy posted 5-6 discussions on one topic. girls. what kind of girls you like? what traits in a girl you like, can cook, wash? Its degrading and annoying to girls. They don't want to discuss it, they just want to earn money as you said. I respond to discussions that interest me. And only if i can give a decent answer to.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I have seen exactly what you are talking about and those are the worse ones out there. There are a lot of them and I've mostly seen them pertain to relationships/life. I think the other board which I see a lot of this happening is the make extra money and its the same person trying to promote all the sites their on in order to gain referrals.
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
30 Jul 09
hi. this is one of the ways new members are doing. starting a number of discussions in just one sitting. imagine 5 discussions started, and to maintain it (commenting on every response) is not that easy. i mean, some people's advise here is to comment on every response and if possible, give your comments as soon as you receive the response. some kinda chatting. most newbies do that way, and if i can remember right, i did it in the past... there was also times in the past, that to gain more points or number of posts fast, i just keep on answering discussions. everything that i saw, i response, even non-sense discussions. funny at one time, i didn't read the whole discussion or even the body of the starter's posts, i responded from the title itself. hoping to get more points. shame, shame, shame, people keeps commenting on my response. imagine, the topic is about mylot (i can't remember well) but the title goes like, "do you listen to radio show?" or something like that. naah, totally our of the topic. gosh. but i've learned a lot now. i'll never make the same mistake again. more, i start discussions very seldom now, only if i know what i should be discussing, only if i'm totally concern with the said topic... neil
• United States
30 Jul 09
Of course, the more you're on mylot the more you are slowly going to be able to learn what is right and what isn't right. I know when I start a discussion I try to respond to all the discussions but I don't like constantly repeating myself so therefore sometimes I will skip over a post especially if its basically saying the same thing as one before it. And I know I can't get to responses as soon as they pop up. Some days I have a hectic schedule but I always try to get to them at least by the next day - but there have been times where I've posted on a discussion and then a week later I'll have an email saying that I've gotten a response and with those I am less likely to go back and recomment.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I dont even think that I can respond to something that do not intrested me or I have no idea about the topic, and yes , there is peoplle here that are only for earings reasons, I am here for discussions, I think it is a great place to spend your time and share some ideas with different peoplle.
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
hey, we're here on myLot to have fun and earn a little extra while enjoying ourselves,.... i guess they just have to choose those which catches their fancy..no ones gonna shoot them for not answering discussions beyond their interest errr
• United States
30 Jul 09
That isn't what I'm posting about. I'm not saying you can answer discussions beyond your interests, I'm saying I don't agree with the fact some people post 5 discussion in a matter of just a few minutes and then just ignore the discussions most of the time afterward.
• Indonesia
30 Jul 09
I don't mind respond to any discussion as long as I interested to respond that. It doesn't matter for me if that person post 5+ discussion, I will respond if I want and it's no my business too whether they make comment on my respond or not.. But you're right, seeing so many discussion all on that page started with same person make me confuse actually.. About 1-2 liner, I think as it's fun and easy to answer I will respond.. Sometimes I want to have fun and not always think or discuss about serious matter so I have no problem with 1-2 liner discussion.. Of course my response it's not 1-2 liner,,
• United States
30 Jul 09
The thing with discussions is mylot actually prefers for us to start discussions between users on the board. Therefore responding back and forth because that is what the site is designed to be. Many people throw away that fact and just go about trying to respond to as many questions as possible.
@maezee (33282)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I don't know if I necessarily agree with this. For example, when I get bored at work, I make lists. A few days ago I happened to make lists of questions I thought were intriguing about various subjects - and day by day I've been posting questions in those interests here on MyLot. So, to the outsider, it looks like I'm spamming the boards, but really, I'm just going through interest-by-interest and starting discussions I had thought of a few days back. I don't think there's anything wrong with that; and to be honest, I'm likely to answer some of those quote unquote "unoriginal questions". To a certain extent. I don't think there's anything wrong with mass-posting discussions unless they're spamming, or if they're really dumb questions. And I haven't seen anyone do this yet. Questions like "How do I earn on MyLot?", "What is the meaning of life?", "What's love?" and other stupid ones like that I usually just ignore..But the rest I'll pretty much answer. Do you know how hard it is to come up with an original discussion, when there are THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of discussions on myLot as it is!
• United States
30 Jul 09
I'm not saying that a discussion has to be completely original. I do realize that people post the same discussion over and over but I'm also talking about the discussion that mylot has said are against the rules like poll questions. The only problem I have is the people that normally do those types of discussion are the ones that normally won't respond back. And if they do they are the ones that say "I agree, have a great day!" or something cheesy along those lines. Because in my eyes I don't see how a person can post 5 discussion in a 10 minute time period, get responses back and actually be able to back through them. I know for me I try to just post a max of 3 a day because normally my discussions will get 5-10 replies back but if you get one that gets a ton then its really hard to focus on any more.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I ALWAYS have a desire to start this same type of discussion when I see someone posting 4, 5, or even more discussions on the front page which only has 5 discussions up at once, they usually aren't even good discussions, and I refuse to post to them because these people tend to not even care about what they are saying, or what you will say in return, it is just usually all for money, and I really despise that kind of behavior here. Sure we all like the money, but get something else out of the experience here, and less greediness. Thanks for bringing this up, it should be a good reminder to all the people who take up the discussion board haha.
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yes I was hoping a few of the people that do partake in the behavior would see the discussion without having someone have to call them out personally on a board and they would realize what they are doing isn't really in the best interest to them or the rest of mylot.
@gloamglozer (1285)
• Australia
31 Jul 09
I don't tend to respond to those pointless discussions either especially if they don't even make any sense. I do respond to most topics that take my interest when I feel like it. The longest I've ever posted was about 1000 words on a topic about dreams. I like that topic a lot.
@jaizhi (260)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
I dont respond to all the discussions, most of the time I respond to those discussions that I think I can say something. I do sometimes know that I have posted some lousy topics, I just their are just times that my idea of topic is not that sensible to others and sometimes they do.
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Well thats true. Some discussion are countless, no value, pointless. Maybe they were confuse on how they open the topic or how they will discuss it. Some times its bcoz the earnings. But if you study the topic there were open about, and analiticaly observed them. Theres a point they you to comment or they looking for an advice. But some are just want to end the certain topic.
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Hello there, well we don't know what they think of anyway. Be it intentionally or not, whether they posted a certain topic seriously or not, we have the freedom to express what we want here as long as it does not violate Mylot rules. I have been here in Mylot for quite some time. I have seen a lot of redundant discussions like whats your favorite color, ice cream, tea or coffee. It has been more like a poll than a good topic to discuss to, but it's their decision to post it anyway. I can answer to every discussion as long as I can relate to it. But when at times, i do see the same topic over and over again, i tend to skip it and go check someone elses topic which i can post in a way i am conveying my own opinion or thoughts.